I need ur help/advice?

Question

There's this[really shy] guy......in the begginning of the year I found out from one of my friends that he had a crush on me. I'd never really noticed him before [he goes to my church] and would've never really taken a double glance at him, had it not been for the fact he had a crush on me. Ok so a couple of months go by and I'm still pretty confused about my feelings for him. I guess I really did like him in the beggining, and he sort of grew on me. I'm not allowed to date till I'm 16, but he told me he'd wait for me. The point is, I've been telling everyone that I like him and he really likes me and he thinks I like him the same way, but the thing is, I just don't know how I feel about him. I'm so confused. He's got such a sweet personality...did I mention he's really shy? And he's so....inexperienced in bf/gf relationships [as am I] (meaning I'd be his first gf vice versa ect.) I know you can't really get into my head and say 'oh you like him' and all but from my POV wat would u do?

Answer 1

Work on getting to know him as a friend. That way you can learn more about him and get beyond his shyness. Then when are 16 and allowed to date, you will know if your feelings for him are as a friend only, or if you want to start dating him.

Answer 2

have u been able to really talk to him? if he has a nice personality and u find him attractive. u may want to give him a chance. u didn't say how old u or he are. and no matter what take it one step at a time. even if u do get to date or go out in a group setting. remember u don't have to make life changing decisions. if u realize it is to heavy for u walk a way. try just being friends. and remember ur just kids. you only get to be kids once. and life comes at u fast. take notice of things u see other teens and adults do. think about some of the choices they made to be in their current situation and decide on what u don't want and what u want in life and make decisions based on that.

Answer 3

This is a very important question you have asked. If you are not allowed to date him yet then that is ok. You two can hang out together in your group of friends. It is very important that you take your time in getting to know him and he to get to know you. As good close friends. What is hard is knowing how you feel and I think that is your question. You are feeling mixed up and confused but want to get to know him better. The only thing that will resolve this feeling for you is time. JUST GIVE the relationship TIME. Try not to worry so much about how you like him... but consentrate and why you like him. How he makes you feel and why? As this time in your life is one of the most important time and you need to take your time and get to really know him. As he needs to get to know you too. So take a deep breath... look into the mirror and smile... you are on your way to growing up and understanding you. Good Luck

Answer 4

I would say that you're young, don't get backed into a relationship corner because of inexperience. My meaning is that if you think you like this guy, fine, go for a date when you're old enough. But remember don't play along with the relationship because you don't want to hurt his feelings or anything. You have your whole dating life ahead of you, start off on the right foot. If someone truly cares for you, this won't go away because you admit that you just aren't sure.

Answer 5

First relax.

Let it happen... don't force it.

Just because he's shy doesn't mean you can't CURE that by giving him CLEAR HINTS that you are interested. Clear signs and statements as to what to do...

For example: you could say: "Well, if you wanted to kiss me right now... I'd really like it". That takes the RISK off asking, or trying it. Once he has a little confidence that he will NOT be rejected... he will come to you on his own with ideas.

Shy is mainly about "fear of rejection".

Answer 6

try do get urself to date before 16.once thats done then ask him out so fast that he feels like hes in a time warp.then for the first few dates try do do most of the talking but not to much.ask him questions like wtas ur favorite color or di u see that movie called (watever the movies name is).and then once he starts getting used to dating u he will start to talk more and then i think itll be smooth sailing from there.best of luk!

Answer 7

If your rents want u to wait untill u r 16 then plez do. They do know what they r talking about. If u r still interested then see what happens. in the mean time hang out sometimes and get to know him as a person.

Answer 8

well this guy souds really sweet n nice i think u should start out with being friendz with him if u think that he is the rite guy then u should go ahead n admit that u like him but just start out as frenz first a more safer game to play so any way if u find im the right kinda guy go ahead with him who knows he mite be ur MR PERFECT if hes not ur type jus remain as friends

Answer 9

I think you should take your time. If you act like you like him more than you do (maybe because you like the idea of having a b/f or the idea of being liked so much) you could both end up getting your feelings hurt pretty badly. Enjoy taking your time and getting to know him better.

Answer 10

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