this week I will be presented to a male relative whom I haven' t met properly before, meaning that I haven' t talked to him or spent longer time near him. This person is someone very dear to someone who is very dear to me, so I want to be friends with him. Besides he' s shy. Any suggestions?
2006-07-04 03:07:23 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
what are you answering? *lol* I don' t want to seduce the guy, but just make normal relative relationship. Like with a brother. It happens that relatives don' t have good relations. that' s what i want to avoid.
2006-07-04 03:12:12 · update #1
Just be yourself. If he is shy don't come on too strong because you might make him feel a little trapped. Just be friendly and you should be fine. Good luck.
2006-07-04 03:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by JennyWho? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile and don't talk a lot. This is not to say don't talk, but don't talk a lot. Don't ask 'open up' questions that requirea lot of answers.
Some people are shy because of uncertainties of the other person. Others because of unsettled or inadequate feelings within themselves. Still others are hiding something, such as a stutter or perhaps they have a hearing problem. Still, to a few, it is a game, they are letting others make the mistakes and are wisely watching as others take the hits in social settings. These will open up a a convenenient time as very intelligent and articulate people--when they are ready. Just go with the flow and take it easy. Did I say smile a lot? Good luck.
2006-07-04 03:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Anya,
Even shy people have something that tickles their fancy - a book, a concept, an activity, a belief. I would suggest that you speak to the person he is close with and find out suggestions from them. For example, maybe the person can tell you he is really into classical music - if you are no into that, don't pretend to be, tell him, so I heard you are into classical music, how did you get into that? If you are knowledgable on the topic then better for you - talk up a storm. As long as one of you is less shy than the other (hopefully that person is you) then you'll be good to go. But if you notice that he is not only but also withdrawn, then count your losses and simply smile and be warm to him.
2006-07-04 03:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by Ready 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi young lady-
The best advice anyone could ever give you is BE YOURSELF. Upon meeting him, I would advise you to make a short list of questions that are of interest. Likes and dislikes. Music, movies, games, family, school, jobs, friends .... the list can go on. Also, have in mind the things you like to do for fun as well as your likes and dislikes. You want your relative to find you intelligent enough to carry on a conversation. So don't be a wall-flower and he will open up. That goes for anybody. Good luck hon!
2006-07-04 03:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just say, "So and so has said wonderful things about you, and that has made me look forward to meeting you. This is truly a pleasure." And then give him a hug. Then, wait and see how he responds, and just ask him what kind of work he does, and ask him if he can make some time to come and eat supper with you and your family. If he is shy and you are nervous, it will probably be awkward, but keep a smile on your face and it will all work itself out.
2006-07-04 03:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would suggest just to be yourself, and go up and talk to him.. don't put so much presure on yourself and relax.
I have just recently met some relatives this weekend that i havn't seen for over 23 years ( including 2 brothers).... so i know how uncomfortable it can be, but believe me, it turns out better than you'd think. I was nervous too, but it worked out good.
2006-07-04 03:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by jaysen_07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be friends yes, but if you mean the other friendly then no is the answer you are looking for. This sounds like" I am my own Grandpa" and I would not take it any further than you already have. I hope I helped.
2006-07-04 03:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is to be your self. If you r a loud person tone it down some so u wont freak neone out. Im sure u r a great person so u have nothing to worry about.
2006-07-04 03:13:01 · answer #8 · answered by butterfly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to find something that you have in common. ask other friends and relatives what he's interested in. if you get him talking about something that interests him, the conversation should go very smoothly and he'll probably loosen up a bit.
2006-07-04 03:12:10 · answer #9 · answered by heterophobicgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perk up a conversation. Find out what each other likes. Maybe take in a movie. Go have lunch together.
2006-07-04 03:10:54 · answer #10 · answered by sweeetkisses2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋