Hi I have been friends with this guy for about 9 years (we share the same group of friends), we slept together a few times last summer then he pushed me away so I backed off. We just recently started sleeping together again, this time he is not pushing me away and things seem different this time. I want to pursue a relationship with him, but I'm not sure if he is interested, and I'm scared to death to find out. I'm afraid that if he says no, then that will have a strain on our friendship. Is it a good idea to approach him with this? I'm taking it slow, and we are friends, but now when I call him, or if I call him every 4 or 5 days or so, I feel I may be pushing it a little. I need advise? Should I pursue this, and how can I tell if he is interested first before pursuing it so it doesn't put a strain on our friendship? We have pretty hot sexual sessions together, and he is very intense in the bedroom, but not sure if that means anything or not? Please help me!
2006-07-04 02:49:11 · 3 answers · asked by Jodi C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do not hide your feelings for him he may be feeling the same way
2006-07-04 02:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by smily2005 1 · 10⤊ 5⤋
You've already "blown" it-sorry for the pun.
He's getting the milk for free and you're thinking about selling him the cow. Sweetie, you've shown him you are a sex-partner and that's all he's going to go after. He'd be all OVER you if he wanted you exclusively.
Talk to him honestly and up front- like your sexlife. Don't be suprised if he runs. Men don't marry the "bad girls"
Next time save the physical part of a relationship till after you've established LOVE, RESPECT and TRUST FIRST. The physical stuff will fall into place afterwards...
2006-07-04 03:01:43 · answer #2 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to have a friend with benefits is if you don't care for or respect them.....they are just friends cause they are fun. When you start caring about them and worrying about the whole thing 1 of 2 things is going to happen...you'll either tell him and he'll feel the same way....or you'll tell him and he will break it off altogether cause you crossed the lines. Good luck.
2006-07-04 02:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by kiss_of_angel_20 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋