we had been in a healthy relationship for a year and very much in love. the last month i was playing games kept dumping him and hurting him because of my hangups. now he is sayign he will not get back with me at this moment in time and we need time and space. but he keeps phoning me. i worry that he just wnats to be friends he says he loves and cares for me but is this just to make me feel better? i was such a cow for a month and he said that this is the reason that he needs to find the real me who he once loved and adored but my worry is how long will this go on for. he said he knows he risks losing me and he needs to make a decision.. but he also keeps saying ;'i dont know anymore' have i confised him too much will this ever work? i have apologised and am giving him space but he phones and acts too friendly.is he just too comfortable with this. i want him back and fear there is no hope. he said we need time to fond the good things again .. he could be blagging though . wat do i do
2006-07-04 02:00:57 · 17 answers · asked by lola f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know i messed up that month it wa sout of character and plain wrong
2006-07-04 02:08:43 · update #1
i wa sthe opnly one palying stupid games.
2006-07-04 02:10:41 · update #2
y will he come after me though
2006-07-04 02:11:04 · update #3
i hope he isnt tagging along with fonecalls just because he doesntwant to lose total contact with me
2006-07-04 02:13:32 · update #4
not playing head game si did in thre most stressful part of my life withj exams etc and he knew that i had no time at all to myself or with him which is y i was abitch
2006-07-04 05:22:28 · update #5
He doesn't trust you right now. He isn't sure who you are. He thought he knew you but when you started playing games, it confused him. All you can do is give him the time he needs to figure it all out. If, in the end he decides he doesn't want to be with you then you learned a very hard lesson. Always remember, when you love someone and that person loves you, then cherish that love and never take it for granted.
2006-07-04 02:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by nonna57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You put your foot in your mouth and made him doubt everything probably about himself, you and the relationship. He could be thinking the entire relationship was simply a game to you and nothing serious. Only a child will play mind games with someone that loves and cares for them. You weren't just a cow you were a child and a dumbass sorry for the harshness but jeez. If you really want to be with him I think you should talk to him about your hangups and your doubts, be truthful with him about your emotions. Than I would suggest restarting the relationship, from the very beginning. Let him get to know you all over again and you get to know him again as well and try not to be dumbass either. But don't be surprised if he has found someone who isn't into the games. That's why some guys are afraid to get into serious relationships because of mind games.
2006-07-04 09:22:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he really does love you but you obviously have changed. He got hurt by your games. That is not the person he fell in love with and now he is a little confused about his feelings. Some people cannot handle it when things change. They expect things to stay the same all the time. Give him some time and just show you care. Do not bug him about anything, you will be making it worse.
2006-07-04 09:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Sunflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the book "fasintating womanhood" Great book. Helped me to grow up.
Bottom line... Men hate bitchy assholes. Grow up and stop taking out your **** on your man. Find a healthier way to deal with yoru anger. And treat him as nice as pie... you could even make him a pie. that would show him that you have skillz that woman now days don't have. The fastest way to a mans heart is his stomach ;) Treat him like the king you know he is and keep treating him that way. If you do, you will give him somehting no other woman can.... Your true self.
2006-07-04 09:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jennilee H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try just giving him all he need he wants time give it him if he phone you Talk be friends if thats what he wants caz he;ll find the girl he fell in Love wiv it might take a while but just be your Self stop panicing if he really Does Love you then things will work out Fine in the End
2006-07-04 09:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by Shadow-Renegade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well not to be mean, but you get what you deserve...
you dont just play with peoples feelings and emotions that way...
as for your friend, i think he is really confused. i think one of you is going to have to be the bigger person and totally cut off the communication for a while..yes it will be hard but if he says he wants space but still calls you frequently, hes not giving himself any time or space to make a decision if he wants to continue to be with you.
yuo never know, he could be up to a little pay back if his own...
2006-07-04 09:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're young and this is one of your first real loves. If you two were right together you wouldn't be playing games or needing space. Learn from love, you two obviously love each other, but aren't the "one" for each other.
2006-07-04 09:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by Hopeful Homeowner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear ur condition is very critical in which u have mentioned a lot abt ur realtion but u havnet mentioned abt the real why he did all that stuff.......as being a guy i feel its all right and he loves u a lot and i hope he will never leave u.....u have to take him easily..keep ur coll and talk to him in the way he wants u to and then u will find him again talking to u in the manner in which u want him to talk now.......its very much like tit for tat condition...so keep loving him and hope for best ,,,
All the best
2006-07-04 09:06:48 · answer #8 · answered by JONTY L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is seeing someone else.
Men do need space but he needs to feel competition.
Do not always be available to him.
Start dating others. If he is jealous, he will marry you.
If not, no harm done.
All men can really get tired of drama.
2006-07-04 09:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've hurt him, yes I understand when he says he needs time and space. You can't continue doing this to him, he has feelings as well you know. I suggest you give him this time although, I do not believe he will get back with you. Sorry....
2006-07-04 09:03:44 · answer #10 · answered by daisy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋