2006-07-04 01:40:26 · 9 answers · asked by waiting to be a Mom 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
First of all, not all do, and those that do aren't trying to hurt you. They are in a lot of pain themselves and making what is probably the hardest decision of their lives. Some girls or women in this situation are sure what they want from the outset and never waver...but some are very torn about what is best. They may have changed their minds many times *before* the last minute, but not taken any specific action. Only when they have no time left to change their minds back again do some make the final decision, and it can be heartbreaking for all concerned.
I assume you are either a potential adoptive parent or have a close friend or relative who went through a scenario that you described. I am sorry you had to go through this. There is nothing worse than losing a child, and losing her or him to the birth mother doesn't change the distress you are undoubtedly feeling.
2006-07-04 02:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking this for the reason that you are wanting to adopt and have had those many false hopes then you already know the answer in your heart... babies are such precious things. It's all well to be moral and want what is best for your baby. At first there is a panic over instability, finances, etc. and making the choice to carry a child and then give it up has it's own devotional bond but the closer time comes the more doubts and confusion. I mean would you give up your baby if there was even the tiniest doubt? It's not fair and sucks on many levels but it's dealing with human emotion at the rawest on both sides. It's unpredictable with the best of intention attached. :(
2006-07-04 02:09:26 · answer #2 · answered by mistress_lilas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have been through the same thing several times, We were always up front and open and told each one that at anytime they change their mind to just tell us. It is ALWAYS going to be their choice and as upset as you feel and hurt you have to RESPECT what ever they decide to do. You morn privately and you move on. Until you hit a point in your life where you decide its not worth the heartache anymore. I have a nursery filled with furniture, toys and supplies for both a baby boy and girl, The mother changed her mind 2 weeks before her c-section. I gave up on adoption for awhile after that. You just have to decide for yourself if adoption is the way to go, there are other options out there. Again....It will always be her choice not yours so don't get your hopes up until the adoption is final, and for goodness sake if you agree to letters or calls or pictures follow through. Promises made and broken like that will come back to haunt you.
2006-07-04 02:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by kiss_of_angel_20 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you talking about adoption? It's because at first, it feels like you can't take care of a child, so you decide to give it up. Then towards the end, you've spent so much time being pregnant and you have a living thing inside of you and when you see it, you just can't give it up.
2006-07-04 01:44:45 · answer #4 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't want to sound rude here but...it is there child. regaurdless of what they do. a mother can say i don't want it and i'm giving it away. then she sees the child that has been kicking and squirming in her tummy for months and realizes that she cares for HER child and decides to keep it.
it sucks yes but it is still her child to do with what she wants.
yeah i'm sure you got your hopes up and all off that but if you really want a child you need to look into surrogacy and other methods because you will have this problem.
hope you have better luck next time.
2006-07-04 02:23:54 · answer #5 · answered by evrythnnxs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 04:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change their minds about what? The epidural? The pain probably became so great that they would ask for a gun if they thought they would get one.
2006-07-04 01:46:29 · answer #7 · answered by lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry plz explain ur Qs clearly. what do u wanna know?
2006-07-04 02:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by Illusive One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they realized that they made a mistake
2006-07-04 01:50:09 · answer #9 · answered by pianist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋