when i first met my boyfriend this winter, it was immediate attraction although he wasn't really my type. i don't know what happened to me. the feelings were mutual and still are. in a way, we are alike, but only on this stupid transcendental level. however, we are not so alike on the outside and that's driving me crazy. we fight a lot and have different opinions on some things. we even argued on the first day we met!!! it is as if i have known him for a long long time, believe me, but on the other hand we just can't seem to get along! the funny thing is that, although we don't agree on some things, we're even planning to have kids some day and we really love each other. i thought that this kind of stuff happens to you when you are a teenager, but i am 24 and he is 43!!! (i am into older men and he's no exception) so, do you think that we might start to get along once we get to know each other better, maybe in a year or so? thank you!
2006-07-04 01:34:52 · 15 answers · asked by kitty-cat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
all of my friends love him and he's a sociable and talkative person, great sense of humour and everything. my mom knows i'm with someone (and knows the details, his age etc.) but she hasn't met him yet, which is totally normal because i don't introduce my bf to her unless we are together for over a year. i've met his father and he really loves me although he was sceptical about the age difference at first. and yes, I miss him when we're not together.
2006-07-04 02:01:51 · update #1
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2006-07-04 01:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by Caroline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok u are right! This is exactly what is happening to me, so understand how u feel! It's just my bf is only1.5 yrs older than me (I'm almost 21).
We are very different in every aspects, from tastes in things to family background.. And he is also should not be my type.. But we just happened to got know each other in web site and now we have been together for 1yr+ already. Yupz lots of quarrels and conflicts, but we are are working on it, and now we are more compatible already also.
What i can advise u is that differences is not a problem, what matters is whether u are putting your heart into this relationship or not. I believe if both of u cherish each other and working hard, i will also be more compatible after 1yr!
Best wishes my dEar! Good luck!
2006-07-04 01:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by a V a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just ended a 3-1/2 year relationship with an opposite; it really didn't work most of the time. When things were good, I felt good. But I questioned our relationship far too often. You have to want the same things out of life in order to make a relationship work. If you can't agree on much, relegate him to friendship or simply move on from him. You're too young to have to worry about trying so hard to make a relationship work. You'll have many oportunities to meet someone who will feel more like a fit. A little tension can keep a relationship interesting, but you deserve to be more relaxed with your partner and find him comforting.
2006-07-04 01:52:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe opposites attract, 19 years is alot. I have known couples to argue there whole life together and they remained faithful and married. To me personally I do not like to argue and would not stay in a relationship that has it all the time, even if it is trivial. I am not saying that you wouldn't argue with a younger guy but you will be alone in your later years, he will have passed on. I am sure you are aware of this, women think alot more than us guys about things. Good luck.
2006-07-04 01:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it does.I dont kno whether humans have this chemical nature when it comes to dating,but sometimes the attraction is so strong (opposite) u just cant resist.I have the same problem.My bf and i almost never agree.if i am on A the guy is on Z. Anyways i guess the differences in u all personality accentuates the relationship.When couples are too similar the relationship Most of the time ( not all the time) gradually dies out.
2006-07-04 02:01:32 · answer #5 · answered by Avernell C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
veru surprised by the age u have given of ur and of ur partners....i fell there is sumthing different then love in betwwen u guys....maybe u just like his company..for that u will have to find out the diff. between frnd and fiance than u will come to know whether u love him or not...stay away frm him for few days and see if u miss him 2 much,,,,if these feelings are there then u must go wid him..and its all abt wht u want..dnt care abt others coz u will never be able to convince each and every member realted to u..so firstly think abt u and ur wants......i hope u will understand wht i tried to tell u as i dnt really undertsand wht i tried for...
All the best
2006-07-04 01:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by JONTY L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you two don't have much in common because he's so much older than you. That's why I gave up on older men, we fight and argue due to not having any mutuality in the relationship and plus I want someone I can grow old with, not watch grow old and die while I'm still here with no one to spend the rest of my life with.
2006-07-04 01:41:21 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Ms. Heart♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and age has no bearing on love, and your differences are what makes you both unique, be understanding and tolerant of each other, and I'm sure that you'll establish a very loving and trusting relationship:) Good Luck, and all my best for your happiness:)
2006-07-04 01:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's kinda old for you but your 24 and old enough to make your own decisions. What do your parents think? What do your friends think? Give more details of what they think. Good Luck.
2006-07-04 01:43:32 · answer #9 · answered by LILLIAN L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
opposites do attract just think one day you wont have any thing to argue about and then love sets in Cool
2006-07-04 01:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by richardis1961 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...of course oppsites attract....but on ur case ur 24 and hes 43, ryt?....im not saying saying its wrong....its just that as long as u love each other and as long as in the future u wont have any regrets regarding ur relationship w/ him....ITS ALRIGHT......
2006-07-04 18:47:34 · answer #11 · answered by Charmaine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋