Can any one give me examples of women who have accomplished something worthwhile after having babies?

Question

I mean OTHER than being a mother. Any women start their own successful companies, have high-flying careers, travel around the world, write a book, direct a film, build an orphanage in India?

Real people that you know please, not celebrities.

I want to know if it is possible to still do something worthwhile and meaningful with your life if you have kids; other than be a mother obviously which is worthwhile, but is not the only worthwhile thing in life.

I have loads of things that I want to do with my life and I want to know if I have to give up all my hopes and dreams to meet my boyfriend's dream of having a family. I want him to live his dreams, but I think mine are important too.

Answer 1

JK Rowling wrote the 1st Harry Potter book when she was a struggling single parent and wrote it in an Edinburgh cafe because she couldn't afford the heaing in her flat. Sorry I know that she is now famous but she wasn't when she 1st started writing. I think she is an inspiration to what you can achieve if you really want to.

I'm also trying to achieve something in my life now, I had a baby at 18, raised her with the help of my family - mainly my mum, went back to work right away and now that my daughter is 19 and going to college and then uni - I decided to give it a try as well. I'm in my 3rd year at uni going onto honours year at 37 studying law and I'm loving it - hopefully I will achieve something after being a mother.

Answer 2

I HAVE

, when i had my son 16 months ago - i thought i'd love being a stay at home mum - and i do, but i needed something more than seeing the same people every day and talking baby talk for 12-18 hours of the day, also financially my circumstances changed so me having an income from somewhere was essential. I didn't want to get a full time job or even a part time job that would commit me to certain hours, however i recently became a consultant for the body shop at home, now not only do i have some independence, i have an income, i choose my own hours, i get to people from all walks of life and i get to pamper myself silly with all my kit. The body shop at home are always recruiting and they have a great career plan if you want to climb the corporate ladder - some have done really well from it - me included. If your interested let me know and i will get someone to contact you - there is no obligation to join - but it might be worth finding out about it. Another thing with me - i suffered from post natal depressionand lost my confident outgoing personality - but by doing what i do my confidence has grown and i am getting back to being me! Hope this helps. - I am starting to do fundraisers to raise money for breast cancer care, but the body shop always have organisations to help - and successful consultans and above get to go all around the world to see where the community trade money goes,get in touch if you want more info. x trace x - never give up on your dreams nothing is impossible - if he loves you he will support you and you will always have support from me and the body shop at home team.

Answer 3

Having a baby does not mean your life is over. You can still do things that you want to do. Look at all your actress. Once they have their babies. They still make movies. So why would you be any different than them. Question? Was this a plan for you and your boyfriend to have a baby at this time?
If not. Maybe you should cut down so much of things to do and put aside. Once you have a baby, you'll be on bed rest of only 6 weeks. After that you can still fill your dreams to come true. I have 3 children. I still get to do anything that I want to do. Just because having a baby, does not mean that your life is over. Now I can understand if maybe you and your boyfriend broke up. Yes life will be hard without a partner to help you. You can always pump breast milk into a bottle whenever you go to work and your boyfriend can feed the baby.
Word of advise. Don't give up everything just because your having a baby. Having a new born only happens once until you have an other one. Make your time easy and slow.

Answer 4

I agree that being a mum is worthwhile but yes you're right you need more than your children in your life. I have two and started my own business when they were 3 and 5, not hugely successful but it paid the bills and covered holidays etc. I am now at uni and working part time but still feel that being a mum is my main job however that will pass as they leave the nest and fortunately I dont think I will suffer from "empty nest syndrome" due to the other areas of my life.
Depending on what your dreams are it may be wise to start the ball rolling before you have children as the first few years of motherhood are very time consuming and energy zapping!
Good luck!

Answer 5

I am not sure if this helps much, but I am a mother of three beautiful well rounded girls. I am currently going to school full time and I work full time. I think that life is what you make of it. I have two years left and I will have accomplished my dream. Going into motherhood feeling like you are having things taken away from you is not a positive way to do it. In the long run someone will suffer, if you don't end up bitter from THINKING the world is no longer yours, then your children will end up feeling as if they are hindering you. With conviction and the desire to succeed anything is possible. I can only tell you that if you are not ready to have children, then live for you for awhile. There is no harm in that, the harm comes when your children pay the price for something they had no control over. Best wishes to you.

Answer 6

My mother. She went back to school at around my age and got her LPN liscence to nurse. She wast at home with us while we were growing up taking odd and end jobs here and there so she could be there for us, for that I love her. She has inspired me to do the same for my children. I fully intend to go back to school for something once I figure out what I'm supposed to do. I didn't know like many people what I wanted to do right out of HS. I joined the Airforce for a few years, served my country and met my husband while I was doing it. I got out and we got married and now I'm a mom. That's the most important job I'll ever have if you want my honest opinion. It's only in the past year that I've been thinking about becoming a christian marriage counselor or something like that, all I know is I want to help people somehow.
I think I made the right descision to have my kids while I was younger, there would be no way I'd have the same energy if I started having them now in my thirties. I've only just begun to live life! Best wishes to you!

Answer 7

Don't have kids just because your boyfriend wants you to! Hun, I'm not being harsh, it's true. You have to look after number 1, and that's always yourself. If he loves you, he'll accept that kids will have to come later. Maybe he doesn't realise quite how much kids can restrict and restructure your own lives.

The other side of it is that if you have your kid(s) early, you probably will struggle to start with. But by the time they're ready to go off on their own, you'll still be young and beautiful, and full of life. And mature enough to enjoy a wider range of things than a decade previously.

Good luck and stick to your decision whichever one you make.

Answer 8

I had my first son six years ago and am currently expecting my second child. When I had my son, I had a great job with a well known global software company and was earning great money and had loads of stock options.

I left there after having him as I wanted a gentler pace, but after about 2 years, I was climbing the career ladder again.

I'm now in charge of a division of a well known global mobile data device company and am currently 27 weeks with my second child.

After the birth of my 2nd child I intend to return to work and continue to get ahead in my career. I'm lucky though as my husbands parents are carers of our children allowing me to work. Yes, I long for days when I can stay at home with my children, but I try to be home for every meal time, attend every school play and sports day as well as spend quality time as a family all weekend.

I've established a great work/life balance and am loving every day of being a mother and having a career. For those who say, you can't have it all... I say bull****. It takes hard work, good time management and the ability to juggle 10,000 balls in the air, but you can do it AND have it all.

Answer 9

Wangari Maathai the Nobel Laureate 2004. She is a great Mother and a very wonderful MP. Imagine most of her success came after her children where born

Answer 10

i went back to college and am running my own beauty therapy business from home and doing something i love. my life did not go on hold as much as i thought it would having my son but when you become a mother your child is the most important thing. i started my career so that my son could look up to me as a role model. you do not have to be a stay at home mum nowadays.