Any tips for the first meeting with a potential mother-in-law?

Question

This meeting freaks me out. Any nice experiences with mothers-in-law, girls?

I don't think a catholic priest would be of much help, jefdjif, they're Jewish.

Answer 1

The first meeting is the worst.
Dress neatly and a little conservative (no skin in inappropriate places - navel etc)
Be courteous and friendly.
Compliment her on her son and how he treats you
Mention how much you love him
If she is preparing a meal etc. offer to help
Compliment her on various things - house, etc
Don't let her see your knees shake
I won my future mother-in-law over and my daughter-in-law won me over.
Good Luck

Answer 2

First and foremost, be yourself. Try and relax, listen, and ask her a few questions about her. Keep flattery subtle, very subtle, like who cuts her hair? it really frames her face nicely. Where did she find her shoes, they're very sharp? Love her choice in place mats, the red color is very vibrant, do they come in blue too? Whatever, but keep it polite and sincere.

If she offers you a cocktail, accept or not, but don't over do it. You want to keep a clear perspective. Above all listen to what she has to say. This is a good opportunity to learn about your potential spouse. Is he a good son, does he treat his mom well? Is his family close knit? Are they goofy?

Are there any skeletons in his closet or interesting family history you might want to know. Like Uncle Bobby is a streaker and it definitely runs in the family.

Seriously do they share the same morals, and ideals you do? If you marry him, you marry them as well. Do you like them? Take some good mental notes.

You do the interviewing. It will take the heat off you and put you at ease. The focus will be on them rather than on you. I Hope it works out well for you. Best wishes.

Answer 3

Be yourself without being nervous or acting like sarah jessica parker in the family stone. In reality she would have been kicked out of the house but instead she ended up with the younger brother. Any way like i was saying, try extra hard to not say things that are out of context and answer only when u have to. If you don't just nod and smile. It works

Answer 4

just be yourself. my mother in law became a good friend until she died. we where more that mother in law,daughter in law we became mother-daughter. yes I do have a mother, so she was like another mother. not all mother in laws are mean, remember you are marrying there baby. mothers find it hard to let go and another woman is loving there child. I never met my father in law because he died before I met my husband, but I heard is was great also. he is just another dad. good luck

Answer 5

Just stay quiet and act shy. Smile and make sure the guy you are dating is listening to his mother more then you. I've survived it, but sometimes I get freaked too. But I mean its not too bad as long as you're good to her son. Good luck!

Answer 6

Be sure to tell her what a wonderful son she has. I dont know her, but everyone likes to hear how great their kids have grown up to be. Give her a compliment on her jewelry, clothing...anything to break the ice. Good luck!

Answer 7

Ask a catholic priest !

Answer 8

Don't worry just act friendly and natural...and notice how your boyfriend will act around his family because that is the way he will treat you...you are to be observed so you observe too. Don't be nervous they are humans just like all of us good luck....tell me how it went.

Answer 9

speak to her as if she was the most important person on this planet, and take her sides during the conversation with the family.

Answer 10

make sure to be yourself. if she ends up being you mother-in-law for real, it would be alot of effort to keep up the act.