i just cant comprehend that my beautiful doggy died, my best friend. I wont ever see her again. CAN U HELP ME?

Question

i had my springer spaniel put to sleep two weeks ago. we had a funeral and a rose bush planted for her....im still so devastated, the pain is getting worse rather than better

Answer 1

hey, she'll always be alive in your mind till you see her again. you'll have your bad days but remember, you'll also have good days when you remember how she made you smile and all those quirky things that nobody elses dog does like yours. this is what you need to remember as the days go bye. it's a bit like a scar, the pain will go with time (trust me) but the mark will always be there (in your mind). chin up mate, it will get better, trust me, i've been there.

Answer 2

Yeah, that sucks. We just had our family pet of sixteen years put down a few months ago. He was a friend, a protector, a playmate and a member of the family all throughout my childhood. But that's the problem with dogs, they come in and out of our lives for far too brief a period.
My advice is, mourn him for a few months, and then adopt a new one, from a dogs home. DO NOT, for Christs sake, get a dog that is the same or similar to the one who died, because you will only compare it unfavourably to the one who died.
A new dog will be a new friend, a new companion and a character in its own right, and at first, you will find it wierd, because you don't love it in the same way you loved your old one, but believe me, you will grow to love it just as much.
At the end of the day, its a dog, and they're great! We have a new dog now, she's a nutter, but she's beautiful.

Answer 3

We lost our beloved Labrador on Saturday, I haven't stopped crying,some people just don't get it....they are like your child, your best friend and its just awful. I smile sometimes knowing that he is pain free and running around somewhere in "doggy heaven".We have 3 other dogs and love them as much and probably appreciate them a little more now. If you don't have another dog, give it a while and hopefully you will find another"child" to love again. Not as a replacement just as a friend and for that unconditional love. Good Luck, Each day will become easier and remember all the great things you did together that make you smile,

Answer 4

I lost my fur baby recently too and it is hard! What I have done that has helped a great deal is to offer my home to the local animal shelter for short term fosters. When they have a dog that can not be at the facility for some reason or another, they have come to stay with me for a few days until a permanent situation can be found! This is a huge help to the shelter and it helps to have a dog around the house with out jumping into the commitment of my own dog!

Answer 5

It's awful. I know you don't feel like it now, but over a few weeks, and months, the pain lessens, never goes away, but now I remember my dog with a smile and all the goofy things she did. It was terrible at the time, I wasn't right for 2 weeks. But it does get better. Now I know she is no longer in pain or suffering, I have her collar and pictures, and once in awhile I cry, but now, I smile more when I think of her. Give yourself time to heal. And depending on what you believe, you very well could see her agin, on the other side. Happy, healthy, and still loving you. God Bless.

Answer 6

This poem has helped me in the past... Please give yourself time to grieve and don't allow people who don't understand the tragedy of your loss to imply that is less than it is. The fact that you're wonderful enough to care for an animal this way means your heart is so large and your existence here is so important, maybe you could volunteer at a shelter in your doggy's memory to help others find their true (doggy) soulmate. Here's the poem and the website has some good ideas for you to explore to help. God Bless you, you just gave me another reason to hug Buster and Jaxson tonight!!!

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown...

Answer 7

Remember the good times. Remember when she was young and silly. Think of all the times she made you laugh.
She wouldn't want you to be sad. She was happiest when you were happy right? So the best thing you can do for both of you is be happy. That will honor your little friend far more than tears.
The best therapy of all though is to get a puppy, no one is sad around puppies, and they keep you so busy there is no time to feel bad.
Good Luck, I am so sorry for your loss.
P.S. Don't let anyone tell you, "get over it, it's just a dog". It wasn't just a dog to you, she was a friend.

Answer 8

I'm so sorry for your loss, but you have to understand that everyone dies eventually. You have to realize that she's in a better place now. When you're ready, you can get a new dog, who I'm sure you will love you just as much. Then, the pain will ease away. If you believe that everyone goes to Heaven, even dogs, then you know you'll see her again someday.

Answer 9

I know it is very very hard when a pet dies. My dobermann has bone cancer and she will soon have to go and I cry regularly just at the thought. You just need to bear in mind that you aren't the only one going through the pain of loosing a pet, there are other people out there who share your pain.

It is probably too soon, but you should also bear in mind that you obviously have a HUGE amount of caring to share with animals and that there are other dogs out there who, when you are ready, would love to have a home with an owner as caring as you, instead of someone who may neglect them and treat them badly.

Your dog will always be with you in your heart but that doesn't mean there isn't room for another wagging tail and cold nose in their to keep you company.

Answer 10

hey, ouch been through it twice in the past 6 years. probably the most difficult thing to deal with and get over. but trust me, in time it becomes less painful. allow yourself to grieve and feel the loss. keep pictures around, talk to others about the things you remember and loved most about your dog. i think most of all what helped me get through the loss was that i did not wait very long before going out and getting another. there is always an angel waiting at the shelter that needs you. peace be with you. take care. and hold your memories close.

Answer 11

I too just had my dog (cocker spaniel) put to sleep last night. I realized that it is hard to cope with loss (I'm crying as I am typing this) but we have to remember the good times and the unconditional love that they have given us. Just remember that our companions are no longer suffering.

I too, am trying to understand the loss of my little angel.