friendship, relationship,family how do you help them overcome their issues especially when you are the one being paid for other peoples mistakes......
2006-07-03 17:02:53 · 7 answers · asked by sapphire.kyan 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
now if you cant answer the question properly dont answer at all please...
2006-07-03 17:08:28 · update #1
lisa w....obviously you think you know my situation what are you a clairvoyant??? but i need to tell you that you are wrong...but not in the sense of me in denial...if you had read the question properly you would have aswered it properly not make assumptions that its my fault...all i want to know is how do i help people overcome their trust issues because of what other people have done to them not ME im not a liar im not devious and im sure im not a control freak.....i just want to be happy is all and i can only acheive that if the other party trusts me.....
2006-07-04 10:37:05 · update #2
I don't know the details of your situation. All you can do is have integrity in everything you do because that is the person you choose to be. As far as other people go, you cannot allow someone to define you by previous situations. If you have committed to moving forward and walking in honesty, then the people who truly love you and have your best interest at heart will allow you to earn the trust you seek. You should not allow anyone to hold you responsible for what someone else has done. If people can't separate you from the person who actually did the wrong then they don't know who you are and you don't have to bend over backwards to show them. In short, you help them by being yourself. Keep on living with the confidence that you are exactly who you are supposed to be.
2006-07-03 17:32:41 · answer #1 · answered by n 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the ability to predict what is likely to happen. For example, I trust that if given an opportunity George will solve problems with a tax cut for the wealthy. That is a high probability situation. Probability is about 95:5.
I also trust that my wife of 40 years will not go running off with a 25-year-old surfer dude. Probability is about 80:20.
When one makes mistakes, like lying repeatedly, what is the probability that the person will lie again in the same circumstances. The ratio you predict is the degree of trust that you have in the person's reliability.
Most criminals want you to trust them so they can violate your trust.
The way to overcome trust issues it to be worthy of a high predicted probability of reliability. If you lie ten times you have to tell the truth 100 times to achieve a 10:1 ratio.
2006-07-04 00:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by valcus43 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must realize that you are truly a control freak.
That is why you don't trust. You are afraid of how YOU will react to a situation. You must learn to sit back and let people be who they are. Make wiser decisions on how far of a relationship you are will to have with a person. Even if it is family. Draw a line on how far you will go with a person and stick to it. People only treat you the way that you allow them too. Stop thinking that it is everyone else. Trust me it is you.
2006-07-04 11:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by LuvinLos 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you really make an effort to make things consistent and comfortable for them so they don't feel insecure. Make sure you always follow up on the things you say you'll do and sooner or later they'll understand that they have no reason to distrust you.
2006-07-04 00:10:03 · answer #4 · answered by mercury21813 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
overcoming trust issues takes time,sometimes alot of time.All you can do is always be honest with the person,the first time you lie what trust was built will be gone.
2006-07-04 00:28:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't you just leave them be.
2006-07-04 00:05:54 · answer #6 · answered by John Luke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its more something they have to do on their own
2006-07-04 00:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋