He doesn't care about losing privileges.
He doesn't care if I get rid of his toys.
I have tried everything!
I am pulling my hair out!
2006-07-03 08:51:31 · 17 answers · asked by Kitten 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
momof2: But wouldn't that teach him to expect moneyfor everything he does?
2006-07-03 08:56:38 · update #1
ashleynicol: no way! the neighborhood kids are terrors. none are allowed in my house-ever!
2006-07-03 09:00:26 · update #2
robin: a 20 yr. old should have maturity and know responsibility. A 6yr.old is just learning.
2006-07-03 09:02:03 · update #3
frozenflame: that would just lead me right back to my situation which caused me to ask this question in the first place! Thanks anyway.
2006-07-03 09:03:21 · update #4
matzaballboy: you need a shrink!
2006-07-03 09:04:06 · update #5
Chevalier: tried that! doesn't work, either!
2006-07-03 09:05:04 · update #6
Z-cat: Maybe so, that's what my Dad told me. He raised us three girls with "the Belt." But then I would get in trouble for "child-abuse."
2006-07-03 09:07:42 · update #7
gifted: Doesn't anyone read Details before answering? Read my Details, then try again.
2006-07-03 09:09:07 · update #8
gifted: Doesn't anyone read Details before answering? Read my Details, then try again.
Forget it! You are obviously not a parent and haven't a clue!
2006-07-03 09:10:54 · update #9
babyshadow:read my Details! He doesn't care about losing toys!
2006-07-03 09:14:54 · update #10
Stargirl: Kids don't care about filth and messiness. So, that won't work,either.
2006-07-06 01:48:35 · update #11
It sounds like he's rebelling. Maybe you should shift from a "punishment" style of approach to a "reward" style. My daughter is five, and we had difficulty getting her to help clean until we changed our way of thinking.
You might want to get a chart with stickers on it, and for each time he helps, he gets a sticker, and for "x" amount of stickers, he gets some sort of reward (a piece of candy, special time with Mom, choosing what to have for dinner that night, etc-be creative).
Sometimes kids balk at the overwhelming aspect of it, in which case, you might want to break it up. I sometimes will specify a time limit (clean for only 10-15 minutes at a time) or a chore limit (pick up 10 toys) and then take a break.
If you need any other suggestions, I have more. Feel free to e-mail me if you don't find your answer here, but I'm sure you'll get a lot of good suggestions.
Best wishes.
2006-07-03 09:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by K M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm just curious if he gives you trouble with anything else? My son is 7 and I had a hard time with him cleaning his room and helping me with chores and mouthing off but he's been better since we bought the Nintendo DS. I would always punish my son by taking privileges way or making him sit in his room but after awhile my boyfriend said, "We need to give him some positive things and maybe that would make him behave and listen better" That's when we got the DS, I swear this thing is a GOD! We didn't have any game systems before this and he was like the only kid in the neighborhood who didn't have one. He gets to play it for about an hour in the morning and an hour or so at night but if he doesn't do his chores and behave he loses the privlege. But back to the original question...The only way a 6 year old will clean his room is if you help him, you need to do it together (if it's really really messy) the first few times. Explain to him, "I'm putting all of your stuffed animals here, and all of your coloring books here" etc. This way he knows that everything has a home of it's own. Then, when he plays in his room you have to be on top of him that when he's done with something he has to put it away before he take out something else. Once he learns this he won't have such a hard time cleaning up because he'll do it as he goes along. It worked for my son. Good Luck! Brandi =)
2006-07-03 16:29:08 · answer #2 · answered by Brandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, have you tried a reward system? It worked with mine, for everyday that he keeps his room clean he earned a star at the end of the week we did something special -- rent a movie, go to the park or he could earn 30 minutes playing on his Nintendo. Of at first it took me going in with him and cleaning his room with him --- I turned that into a game, I got two gold cords and laid them out in equal squares and who ever got done picking up the items in the squares and putting them away correctly got a reward from a reward bag a piece of gum or candy or something small and simple. He now keeps his room clean with out any of those strategies and I don't have to tell him to clean his room at all, he just does it.
2006-07-03 16:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by ravencollegework 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What my dad would use to do to me, he would tell me to clean my room, and 5 minutes later he would inspect it. If it wasnt to his standard (like nothing done) he would take everything thats on anything and pile it in the middle of the room. The kid will probably cry a little bit and be scared but it will make him clean his room im sure.
2006-07-03 15:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by frozenflamehbh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he doesnt clean his room take away his toys.. thats what my parents used to do to me and i would clean it cause i wanted my toys back. or try just taking away his favorit toys. and tv and video games if he plays any
find a corner in his room make him stand there with his arms strait out till he chosise to clean his aroom a frind of mine had to do that with his twin boys when thay were 6yrs old and it worked cause there arms get heavy and start to hurt so.. but he is also in the military so he belived in disaplin without hitting a child
or try the reward system works for alot.. or do it the old fashion way and get his butt with a paddle or a belt thats what my parents also used to do
MY DETAILES READ THE REST OF WHAT I SAID I KEEP ADDING MORE TO IT.... JUST DO IT THE OLD FASHION WAY AND BUST HID A.SS
2006-07-03 16:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go in there with a bag and a shovel leave nothing but a bed(when he leans how to put the blankets on it he can have more) a dresser(when he can put cloths away he can wear more than what you put out for him.like a flower shirt and holey shorts. when he can do that he can have a few toys from the bag that you put in the shed a month ago.
2006-07-03 16:00:39 · answer #6 · answered by 19cm-u-know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shut the door. Let him live in filth, let his friends make fun of his room, let him lose his favorite toy in the mess, natural consequences work miracles sometimes. Don't let this escalate to a power struggle b/t the two of you.
2006-07-05 14:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by stargirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is 6 years old, if you cannot be in charge of him at this age what will happen at age 10? The good old fashioned paddle. Put him in his room do not let him out only for meals & bathroom privlages. This worked for my Sister & her son. Guess what? He is stubborn it took a week.....
2006-07-03 16:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by Z-Cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 6, he still needs you to help with most of it. you dont need to do it for him, but sit in the room with him, and nicley say, ok lets start with the cars.. for example, and after all of those are put away start another kind... make sure you tell him good job, and maybe you could play a game while doing it to, like set a timer, and see if he can race it....
2006-07-03 16:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by mandi_090 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A six-year old kid should not be allowed to flout the rules of discipline and hygiene. Living in family entails the necessity of abiding by the family rules. In your position, I would keep nagging, harassing and bullying till he realizes that to live in peace, he will have to accomodate my expectations.
2006-07-03 15:59:52 · answer #10 · answered by Chevalier 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋