Im 24 years old now but there are still things I want to accomplish in my life. I think those things are reasonable. I want to drive truck over the road for a few years. I want to finish my degree in computer programming. Id like to own a rental property or two.
...and id like to get all that type of stuff done so that when im about 30 I can devote my full attention to raising a family.
Is that too late to raise a family?
Do you think at that age ill even be able to find a decent woman who doesnt already have children?
is it stupid to try and plan your life like that?
2006-07-01 23:45:26 · 20 answers · asked by sean_mchugh6 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think it is very wise for you to plan your life - but realize that not all plans may come to light. Who knows that maybe tomorrow when you least expect it, love will find you and even before you reach age 30, you will decide to marry someone.
Personally, i think age 30 is a good age to begin having a family. Too many very young people start having children when those young people are in their late teens and early 20's - and they simply have not yet lived! Children are having children.
Just do what you can to try to realize your dreams, and see what fate has in store for you. Fate may have different plans than you have for yourself. But there is no reason why we should not try to plan our lives.
2006-07-01 23:51:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Im 39 and by the time I was 30, I was married, had 3 girls and was a stay at home mom. Now, at 35, I went to my ob and asked if it was safe for me to have another baby. She said No. Too many health risks but I have found that there are lots of women becoming first time moms over age 30. My sister and sister in law are 2 of them along with several women I graduated with were having kids after 30. I would recommend that if u were serious about getting married and having a family, u start now. What r u doing now that u cant accomplish the computer programming and rental properties? Driving truck is extremely hard work. I have a cousin and friend that did it for yrs and it messed up their backs. You can plan your life but God is the ultimate planner for you. He will let u know when u need to settle down. Best of luck.
2006-07-02 06:57:47 · answer #2 · answered by billysgirls3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and you are very mature. I started my family about that age. It is a very good age for that. Hope you haven't set your own goals to high as to what you want to get done before you settle down. The only thing is, I really don't know if you will be able to find a woman that don't already have kids, decent woman you will be able to find easier than finding one that don't have kids. Keep an open mind here, there is a such thing out there as a woman that needs a good decent man to help her with her kids that will be good to them and that needs a daddy in their life. You could be that person for them and make a real difference in their life!!!! Think about it!!! Good luck to you and your future.
2006-07-02 08:11:33 · answer #3 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
30 is just about right for a man to raise a family. Women are putting off having children and getting married so you should be able to find somebody. You could have a wife while doing the things you want- just dont have kids yet. My sister rides with her husband/truck driver. They dont have kids. No it is not stupid to plan your life. Just be prepared to bend a little. Life gets in the way. m
2006-07-02 09:21:45 · answer #4 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are on the right track.
My sister-in-law and my best friend both had children after
the age of 35, after they fulfilled their careers and are now having a very happy life.
They have more money to buy what the children need the
best education etc. so I think there a lot of pluses.
You are still young at 30 these days
2006-07-02 06:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by Sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes even the well made plan can gae astray, as Bobbie Burns once said. But better a plan, than no plan.
Your plans sounds good, many young people don't plan anything.
30 is a great age to have kids, especially if you have the time and money to enjoy them.
2006-07-07 22:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have the right idea. Once you get married and or have children you have many responsibilities. At times it is not possible to do what you would like to do so you are smart in wanting to accomplish what ever it is you want to do before you take on those responsibilities. More and more people are waiting until their thirties to think of marriage and other commitments.
2006-07-02 08:13:51 · answer #7 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually raising is a family at 30 is very smart. I think its the best age to start. I don't know if all the other stuff is logical
2006-07-02 06:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it sounds like you have a good plan. life experience says that it might not work out the way you'd like, but i say give it a try. children in your 30's is fine. but the older you get the less likely you are to want them. I'm 41 without children and now i'm not so sure i want them anymore.
2006-07-02 06:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your thoughts are really productive....and yes u shud start a family at 30 even at the expense of your freedom as u wud become more responsible and settled by that time..go ahead and good luck
2006-07-02 07:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by kush99100 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋