2006-07-01 23:28:33 · 24 answers · asked by tigerlilly4u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, I am not the 12 year old girl. This happened a few years back to my niece, and I told her (in my opinion) abortion is wrong. She was too young to keep the baby. So she ended up doing the open adoption.
2006-07-01 23:34:45 · update #1
My niece also finished school. She is now 18. Her daughter is now 5. And the family that adopted the baby send pictures of the baby. In this case, I think she did the right thing. what do you think?
2006-07-01 23:41:56 · update #2
It's no one's place to judge your niece. Hopefully she made a choice along with her family's input and the baby's father's input.
Adoption is not an easy choice for a girl or grown woman to make. It takes enormous power of the spirit to have a baby and then place that child in someone else's arms. Your niece should be reminded that she did a very loving thing for that child. And hopefully, she can let the child know that she did it out of love and hope for his/her future.
2006-07-07 09:06:05 · answer #1 · answered by ABBMAMA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is completely up to u...i will not judge u as u have probably had enough of that already. i am so sorry u hvae to go through this. take some time to sit down and think about it. will u be able to lve with yourself if u abort or put him up for adoption? can u realisticaly live with a baby? can you handle it? r u able to actually have a baby? there are so many decisions that have to be made. u r just young baby. i hope u make the right decision, whatever that may be.
this is most likely a joyous and very difficult time for u and i wish u the best of luck. I hope everything turnsout well, honey.
p.s do not listen to anyone who says abortion is a sin or anything like that...they do not understand what a hard time u r having...what little mitakes can lead to...i know what your going through. email me if u need more help
p.p.s i just saw what u wrote about it not being u. that's good, but this is what i would say to any 12 yo girl in this situation
2006-07-01 23:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by cutie pie- u ready 4 me? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was my 12 yr old daughter, i'd talk to her about abortion. childbirth for a 12 year old will be traumatizing. she's just a baby herself!! forcing a child, and yes at 12 she's just a child, to have a baby is just wrong in my eyes. it's hard enough for grown women to carry and deliver a baby. i'd never have my 12 year old do it. if the parents of the 12 year old in question make the girl keep the baby and give birth to it, that's their choice i guess but forcing a baby on someone who is still a baby themselves is just wrong. especially if it's to "teach her a lesson". the whole experience of being 12 and pregnant is traumatizing enough. i've read many posts where people will say "well if she's old enough to spread her legs she can take care of that baby" and i just think that is sooooooo ignorant. a 12 year old doesn't have ANY of the means to raise a child. she can't get a job, she can't really teach it very much either!! 12 years old is what, the 6th grade? i would opt for abortion and give her counseling so she understands what her actions led her to and the consequences of it. she is just a child and should live her life as so.....
2006-07-01 23:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by origchick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She shouldn't be having sex in the first place. She's much too young, but I think that abortion (altough I don't support it) is the best option - 12 years old is too young to try take care of a baby, and the boyfriend probably won't stick around . And she will also probably become a school dropout to earn money for the baby - it's a hard road to travel and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
2006-07-01 23:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
abortion definetely. if its not her to keep the baby, then it will be smth that will haunt her all her life. and she cant keep, cause she's too young. definetely abortion. and no stress and no pressure, its already too much. mistakes only let us learn. be supportive whatever she does. abortion is not wrong. deciding what others should do is a big responsibility. i dont advice u to do that. Being supportive and understanding is the best help (and the hardest thing to do). Ur own fears should not affect the girl. She already has her own to deal with.
abortion, to move on and to live her life. And no pressure, its already too much!
and remeber: ppl make so much mistakes, but its THEM living their life, and thus they will be able to live it good if they learn. U never learn when smb else decides. U just stay a baby and u cant be strong when the time comes.
2006-07-01 23:42:47 · answer #5 · answered by a_whole_lot_fun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A pregnant 12 year old is not getting the help she needs from her parents or family and is obviously at the mercy of a very cruel and abusive world.
She needs to get help right away from someone who is going to give her good counseling, and support, and real love, not sex or new age advice from this morally bankrupt society.
An abortion is horrible and VERY DANGEROUS and is the absolute wrong thing to do. To really help her she needs to contact a Priest or Minister or Rabbi, as they can direct her to the resources and support that she'll need.
2006-07-01 23:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by whoopswhatever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on your circumstances. Start with Family planning counceling. Make sure your parents are involved in your decisions. Ask advice from the father of the child and see if he supports your choices. But start by asking yourself can you love a child. If the answer is yes, then use the advice of the others to help you get through it. Children are wonderful!
2006-07-01 23:37:36 · answer #7 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep the baby... whatever the consequences, just live with it.. but just keep the baby... abortion is a sin.. and adoption really doesn't sound good coz you still will have a longing to your child in the end..
2006-07-01 23:33:25 · answer #8 · answered by d&r08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God invented abortion for situations exactly like this. This childs mother should be the one making the decision. People will try to trick the child into keeping the kid so that they can adopt the child. And that would be a sin. Adoptions should only occur when there is not way to avoid abortion.
The mother should pray to God about what she thinks is right. After talking with God, she should do what is set in her heart and what is best for the child.
She should not listen to the pro life movement because they will tell any lie to get their selfish way.
And when they tell their lies they should consider:
Deuteronomy 18:20-22
20 But a prophet who presumes to speak in my name anything I have not commanded him to say, or a prophet who speaks in the name of other gods, must be put to death."
21 You may say to yourselves, "How can we know when a message has not been spoken by the LORD ?" 22 If what a prophet proclaims in the name of the LORD does not take place or come true, that is a message the LORD has not spoken. That prophet has spoken presumptuously. Do not be afraid of him.
Jeremiah 23:30-32
30 "Therefore," declares the LORD, "I am against the prophets who steal from one another words supposedly from me. 31 Yes," declares the LORD, "I am against the prophets who wag their own tongues and yet declare, 'The LORD declares.' 32 Indeed, I am against those who prophesy false dreams," declares the LORD. "They tell them and lead my people astray with their reckless lies, yet I did not send or appoint them. They do not benefit these people in the least," declares the LORD.
It is a sin for you to continue to tell people that Abortion is wrong. God calls for you to be put to death for falsely presuming to speak his name in support of the pro life movement. No where in the Bible does God say that abortion is murder. In fact God uses abortion through out the Bible to bring about his will.
I can explain abortion to any person able to understand. I cannot explain it to a Dog, Cat, or closed mind.
God is the inventor of abortion. Presumably God uses miscarriage as abortion to expel from a woman's body a fetus that he chooses not to bring to term. God does this service for all animals, not just humans. And God loves these animals and man when he chooses to abort their fetus. For man, God is capable of giving eternal life in exchange for any child, fetus or man that he takes. This is his eternal love for us.
God arranged things such that no man lives longer than 150 years, then his time is up and he is also offered eternal life. So God offers eternal spiritual life in exchange for death.
And God chooses which fetuses will be aborted. God has infinite power and can choose to eliminate the possibility of abortion and force the birth of any child he chooses. He does this with other animals and he states in the Bible that he is an all powerful God. He is that powerful.
If you abort a child that God wants to live, he can simply transfer that life to another person. It does not mean that you made a wrong choice or that God must live with that Choice. I don't think God would allow Christ’s next coming to be stopped by an abortion that he condones.
Can a person commit an abortion against God's will? Yes. And it would be sin committed under our Free Will.
Evidence shows that many miscarried fetuses are malformed. And others are perfect. So we know that God does not use simply malformation as the basis for abortion. God must use other information. For example, God may know that a person is simply not ready for a child. Or the person may not be able to support a child. Or the child may have been born out of wedlock. Or that another person should raise the soul that he has placed in one person. And there are thousands of other reasons that God may have chosen abortion or miscarriage. One thing is certain; God did not choose "life". Some of us will die before birth and for none of us will live after 150 years of living.
What God teaches through abortion is that there are reasons for man to have abortion. And in the long run God teaches that these reasons make the world a better place.
I believe that a person should pray to God if there is any chance that an abortion is needed for any of the reasons above, or no reason. If God says that it is right, then it cannot be wrong. And anyone that says otherwise is going against God's will. Simply ask yourself if all humans that were ever born were still here today, would the Earth be a better place. I think not. Death is a part of God's plan and it makes his Kingdom a better place; as does eternal life for those who have served God’s purpose.
I hope that you are able to understand the need and purpose of abortion and will not fall into the beliefs of the false prophets that preach the Pro-Life anti God line.
If you have more questions please ask.
2006-07-05 17:06:14 · answer #9 · answered by Give me Liberty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She absolutely, 100% did the right thing. Good for you for encouraging her! Anyone needing information about abortion should check out http://Abort73.com
2006-07-02 02:38:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋