Okay I need stages on what might happen, tips on how to keep his outbursts (Which are really starting to get annoying) on the minimum, and whatever you an tell me!!!
2006-07-01 22:17:01 · 11 answers · asked by animewarlord5000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
let him wash his own sheets
2006-07-01 22:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by cribbich2006 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
puberty is akward for him so give him some space. he is going to do some very strange and embaressing things. things that he will forget about in time.... but if you witness them or make a big deal about them he might rememebr forever.
So just give the kid some space, try and feed him good, and understand that you might not be the first person he turns to for advice anymore. If you didnt have a close relationship with him up to this point you are going to have very little control over him. But remember that you are responsible for raising him until he is an adult.
My mom kicked me out when I was still in high school, Still a kid. Am I a stronger person because of it? In some ways, yes. But I dont talk to her at all anymore, including the year I spent in Iraq.
You were the one who had him. He is a teenager and you need to be the adult. He doesnt know how to handle his hormones and growing brain yet because he doesnt have any life experience. So guide him but dont turn your back on him or lash out at him. That is not what your son needs.
2006-07-02 07:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by sean_mchugh6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying so much about how to handle him. Let him be, that's what we need. You can talk to him about whats going on and try to help understand that his body is changing, but make sure he is ready for it..If he is not he will not listen at all.
There aren't really many stages of puberty for a male, its like an over night thing. You wake up one morning and everything has changed. You have to let him learn what everything is and understand that he will be trying different things. You may catch him doing certain things, if and when you do, don't be hard on him, just make sure he knows there is nothing wrong with doing things, but make sure they are the right things.
2006-07-02 05:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by Jessie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's starting puberty he's discovering his guy things - not just physical but emotional.
Guys defintely need space from their moms from this sort of thing because, frankly, it feels completely embarrassing. you're having guy thoughts and physical things about girls and mom just can't be thought of that way or in that manner or even in that ballpark. Initially, it's just too personal. eventually if people are cool and you feel safe, things will open up.
I have two moms and four sisters (no brothers) and when this came down - i didn't want to share with the girls because -- come on. However, because i was given space, i naturally gravitated back and soon found i could have conversations with my mom and sisters eventually about these topics. Even though i was guarded, laughter about that stuff opened a lot of doors, and helped secure trust.
but - don't let puberty be an excuse to let the kid run wild and not be a parent. i knew a lot of kids that used that as an excuse.
2006-07-02 05:29:14 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some space...for both of you.
one of the most important points, often overlooked, is the benefit of maintaining common meals. eat together as a family at least once each day, even if it's only breakfast.
that's obviously not an issue yet, but later your son will need that emotional support even if he is also striving for more freedom.
at the moment, clearly defined chores and limits to behavior...to be rewarded with non-judgemental support and some freedom.
2006-07-02 05:28:23 · answer #5 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know if you are mom or dad? Personally I was just there for all of my kids. My girls had an easier time of asking me body questions, since I am step mom. But my boys are also comfortable with asking me questions too. Just don't belittle whatever they are going through, it is VERY important to them. Also don't act embarrassed, even if you are. Make like you are talking about the weather or something. If you are embarrassed too much they won't feel comfortable asking you anything. Like it is bad or something. They need to feel secure in the fact that you won't tease them, they get enough of that at school!
2006-07-02 07:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by Carrie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell you, when I went through puberty I just wanted to be left alone. The best thing to do is let him come to you with any questions and give him some space when he gets home from school to cool off. Then you can get him to do his chores and homework.
2006-07-02 05:22:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhhhhhhhhh. yes. This question brought back memories. I remember there was a week in my son's life where I thought he was possessed. He cried, he threw tantrums, he was aggravating............and then his voice changed and he was back to normal.
This is kind of like having a baby...........you just have to live through it and have a good support system of friends. There are a few good books out there..........Why do they do That? is a good one.
But, basically be there for him. Let him know it's okay and that it is normal.
2006-07-02 07:58:47 · answer #8 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ensure him that what he is going through everybody has to through it and say that you even went through it and you turned out just fine (i hope)... the outbursts i know when i was younger and i had an "outbust" i would et stuff taken away from me..like tv, games, music just anything that brings joy ...and i wouldnt get them back until i apologized and did something extremly nice....if he gets mad cause you took his stuff. tell him oh well and to controll what he says
2006-07-02 05:26:03 · answer #9 · answered by Ce-Ce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him come to you. if u start asking questions he may fell weirded out. He is going to get mouthy and start to push the limits. stand your ground. and by all means stay out of his room. you may not come out alive. lol. just take it one day at a time.
2006-07-02 05:28:22 · answer #10 · answered by late_sleeper35 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing would be for you to read a book about it and then talk to him. make sure he has a really good male role model around, no matter who it is.
2006-07-02 05:23:00 · answer #11 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋