my niece is 5 and her mom isnt doing really good on raising her and i'm beginning to feel like i'm becoming a mother to her
2006-07-01 21:48:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Do you spend a lot of time with her? If so then it is natural for your motherly instincts to kick in, especially if you notice her lack of a role model (mom) &/or her need for one. Sounds to me like she really needs you anyways so I wouldn't let it bother me.
2006-07-01 21:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"isn't doing a really good job raising her" is a very generalized and highly judgmental and inflamatory statement. Such statements are RARELY legitimate, but more often come from other hidden resentments. Either way, what a *** you are for syaing such a thing about someone who allows you to have time with their child. Even if it is true -- and maybe it is, you don't get the right to have an opinion like that before you yourself have a child that you must be responsible for EVERYTHING concerning them 24/7/365 x 18 years+. What's that mommy doing when you're playing on the Internet? When you're sleeping? When you're doing anything else?
It is easy for an outsider without children to judge someone with children because you don't have a clue. Yes, it is normal for you to have a mothering instinct, but don't let that confuse you into thinking you know what being a mother is all about. You're an aunt, someone who by definition is there to help the person who has the REAL job of raising that baby, not a few hours or days at a time, but forever.
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2006-07-02 05:07:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that's absolutely normal. It just shows that you love her & want the best for her. I had an aunt like that, I even lived with her some during my childhood for about a year, not because I had bad parents but because I loved her to. I think this is actually very good for your neice & you also. A child can never have too much love. And if her mom isn't doing a very good job then what you're doing really matters. I know you & your niece will always have a special bond & closeness between you. That's a blessing. Cherish every minute because they grow up too fast. The only thing is...when you have kids of your own, don't forget that she probably thinks of you as a mom to so she'll need a little extra reassurance of your love for her at that time. You're doing great. Keep up the good work. Have a great day & God bless! : )
2006-07-02 08:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by Sugar Dumplin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that's normal. Just me guessing, though.
Hey, hang in there. If her mom's not up to the task of parenting, then as extended family you can do a lot to fill the gaps in this kid's life.
2006-07-02 04:53:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's not abnormal. it is fine to be there for a child especially if you know that her mother is not there for her as she should be. all babies (and, yes I say baby even though you have said she is 5) need love and attention. it is okay to love and support her in whatever way you can. don't worry too much about it. Unless the mother does not want for you to intervene, I say it's okay.
2006-07-08 16:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by one_sera_phim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be it is normal. We never know. Normal is what they define what 99% of the population does. But 99% could be wrong. So normal may not be what is correct. It all depends on your judgment and perception.
2006-07-02 04:53:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't even have neices or nephews and I get that feeling every now and then like I wonder what my life would be like if I had a kid right now? But once i realize what i'm thinking.....I wonder if that means my body is getting me prepaired.
2006-07-02 04:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah its normal, but you dont want to become her mother. she already has one, however the case you dont want to confuse her. you are her aunt. and thats the way you should treat her. i have a 5yr old niece as well, so i understand.
2006-07-02 04:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by chickfilet7786 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes thats perfectly normal because i do that with my nephew all the time...
okay like that makes it normal....but i think its perfectly normal...
2006-07-02 04:52:04 · answer #9 · answered by jerard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋