Due to negative events for most of my school life up until grade 10 (no friends, getting picked on all the time) I have built a belief that people generally dislike me when they first meet me. Obviously there's a difference in the way someone greets you for the first time compared to the times after that. They're polite the first time. Well for some reason I imagine this polite greeting is disinterest. If I don't see them smile then I immediately get this image that they're frowning or sneering at me. I had a couple of friends in high school but I feel that this belief has resulted in my lack of friends. People who said hello to me in high school (I replied with hello) start conversations with me several years after school. I didn't start conversations with them because I imagined they were just being polite. And this makes it difficult to create rapport with people because I feel like I'm pushing myself on someone who doesn't want to know me.
2006-07-01 21:47:14 · 9 answers · asked by Maggs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
like me i was made fun of in school, this made me lose confidence, so these feelings you have are anger inside, it projects from you without you knowing it, you must learn to accept that all ppl are not like those in school, i have and am the first one now to start conversations, this helps me lose the projections of my past rejections and school-kid tortures!
2006-07-01 21:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by grim reaper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax more and care less. Does approval from everyone you meet really matter so much?
You are living your life for yourself. You have your own goals to attain, your own lessons to learn. Take the time with yourself to build up positive energy within yourself that you can flow around yourself in a coccoon of white light , so that when you talk to people you can relax , comfortably make a joke or two and not really worry whether they get it or not. You will be surprised how much harder people will try to understand you when it isn't so important to you that they do.
Does that make sense?
Good luck and take care.
2006-07-02 04:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by AJ... Australia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, don't sweat it. Simply don't care and that will ease your burden. Go to school with a smile on your face (a real one) and people will start nodding at you and saying "hi" just be honest with how you talk back and be natural. Everything should be fine from there. When your uncomfortable, others can usually sense it and it makes them that way too (even tho they don't know why) then they start finding reasons to stay away. So enjoy yourself and others will too and don't take what anyone says to heart. There are others to talk too.
2006-07-02 04:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally,i think that maybe you have a bit of a low self confidence!other people will not be able to love you untill you love yourself...And anyhow,do you honestly think that those people that judge cause of how you are on the outside are going to ever be able to love you for what you are on the inside?I think people that judge others on first account are narrow minded and missing out on what could be a really really great thing.You should not even worry about those people.they will never help you in life.you are probably worth 10 times more than what those people will ever be able to give you
2006-07-02 04:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by kill_the_barbies!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks to me like ur over-analyzing everyone. dont try to find the deeper meaning of a simple smile or hello. And dont let any chance to make a friendship pass u by. dont always assume the worst of people, they may surprise you....
2006-07-02 04:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by T-Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its time to break the walls down. push out all the negative thoughts in ur head. u can make things beautiful if u want to. just try for once,, feel beautiful and BE urself. dont let ppl take u down.. for all u noe.. they DO like u..
2006-07-02 04:54:13 · answer #6 · answered by zxcv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, anyone who doesnt like u, u don't need them to like u.u have to like u and if u don't like things about urself change them, u have the complete power to do that.be how u want to be, not how u think people think u should be.I hope this helps u.
p.s. alot of people have felt the same way. keep ur head high.
2006-07-02 05:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by sableheretic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't assume someone doesn't want to know you just because they don't smile at you or come up to you first. They might be having a bad day, not like their smile, or they might be shy.
2006-07-02 04:54:50 · answer #8 · answered by heaven25star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a very self concious of yourself, build up your self esteem and move with your life, you are perfect and they will be running after you once your self conciousness decrease
2006-07-02 04:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by Tuxi X 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋