we;ve known each other bor about 2 years we bo6th been going trough a lot of **** in our lives we ahve a lot in common in between the bulshiit she got pregnant buy some goy the guy went back to mexico without saying anything i know im ot her type of guy but "her type of men" always end up ******* her over i cant stand seeing her suffer because of somone else and as her friend i want to help her in any way i can but at the same time i can't keep on seeing her ******* up anymore i want to help her but it hurts way too much and don't think i can keep on helping her out of friendship she means a lot to me she knows how i feel about her, i can't keep on doing it anymore it hurts way too fuking much every one tells me to get away from her but eventhough it hurts i can't just leave her with all the things she's going trough
2006-07-01 19:53:31 · 20 answers · asked by mexika_thug 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't worry about what your friends say. Only YOU know how you actually feel about this girl. If you want to help her out and help her get through the rough times, then do it. There is nothing wrong with that. And maybe some day she will realize that you really are her "type of guy".
2006-07-01 19:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well bro, she has hit rock bottom and she has got a lot weighing her down. She needs a lot of help and maybe more help than you can give her, not saying that you can't help her but maybe counseling would be good. The reason why you don't want to leave is cause you obviously love her and want to see her have a better life, but think of this, if she keeps this baby and you and her hook up, then you have alot on your plate too. I would say, just keep being the guy she turns to when she needs help, because there's nothing wrong with that. Don't leave your friend behind, but don't do something you cant handle. Sorry, she's in a really tough spot.
2006-07-02 03:02:18 · answer #2 · answered by 96.7 KCAL ROCKS!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Socialize with her only when you are with a group of people with at least 3 other people or more in a group. This way the subject will be discuss as group related, not all of her personal problems. Do not spend any alone time with her!
As to help her, find out through schools, junior college or university where she can go for professional help. If she is not paying then the professional help will be in group meetings. Then you need to give her the name of the doctors and the time of the meetings. Usually you can get the professional card, and then you have to write the time and date. Then you have to be a man and walk away. If you stay, you will not be helping her because she will refuse to get help when she can give you her burdens.
As for you, you have to date other ladies. No buts about it.
2006-07-02 03:03:06 · answer #3 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, do yourself a favor... move on! Trust me when I say it'll never work out with you two - it never does... no matter what your affections are now! Over time, your feelings will change for the worse! There will come a time of resentment, and it will be a major cause of anger, frustration and mistrust. It will become something that you will use to throw in her face during arguments... kind of like your "ace in the hole".
Move on before you make one of the biggest mistakes of your life - (both of your lives)!!! Your the type to rescue a bird with a broken wing, (like me!), and this is "not" conducive to a good relationship! You're not a doctor, you're not a psychologist... you'll only make things worse... get out of there - quick!!!
2006-07-02 03:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by love_2b_curious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I m a 18 year boy.You should keep thinking "will u save her besides of the advises of other guys?" If u r a good friend u should save her.
Please gradually brainwash her mind.Take her to temple and softly
tell the consquences after that incident.If she don't want that baby
what is ur reaction? Do it carefully because it is a life! "All the best"
2006-07-02 03:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by kutty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she knows how u feel about her, you should let her make the decision while u give her space. Also, u have to remember that many times raising someone elses child can turn into hell. If u care about her that much, then go for it as long as she is willing to reciprocate to u. Best wishes.
2006-07-02 02:58:54 · answer #6 · answered by lost_realist_84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although its sweet that you dont want to leave her alone at such a hard time in her life, you cant fail to think about yourself. If she knows how you feel, and have been feeling about her, and still does not feel the same way towards you, then let her go. I know what its like to be in her shoes though and just to set the record straight, we dont chose to be attracted to these guys that f*u*c*k us over! lol
good luck and best wishes :)
2006-07-02 02:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her as a friend.. and if it gets too much for you, get away. That is the best advice I can give. It is always hard in those situations. Good luck and do what will help keep you sane!
2006-07-02 02:57:58 · answer #8 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her that much, tell her. but there's always a chance that she might feel the same, then you have a girlfriend with a baby...that could be too much to handle depending on what type of person you are. my advice is either tell her everything you said up there, or get away before you screw yourself over mentally.
2006-07-02 02:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by karolinka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to tell her how you feel, and if she might feel the same then try to work it out, and if she does not feel the same tell her you would still like to help her in any way. No woman can resist a man that is willing to help.
2006-07-02 02:58:20 · answer #10 · answered by bosswoman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋