My daughters went to a vacation bible school camp last week and are in a short play at the church tomorrow. I really think I need god in my life and I know my kids could use his guidence as well. Thing is ,is that we are not the richest of rich and we dont have super nice clothes for tomorrow. Would it be ok if I wore a nice pair of jean shorts with a nice tank top (not the sluty tank top but the nice kind lol ) Would it be ok if my daughters wore jean capri pants with nice shirts ? I know god dont care what we pray in but I know that some churches are stiff on the dress codes. Its a rather large christian church
2006-07-01 19:00:03 · 22 answers · asked by abustymommy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You know, I just love the fact that your question was so honest, respectful and thoughtful. As I was reading it, it really touched my heart. I just wanted to say that, God loves you and your children.
The key is that you come as you are and with what you have. It doesnt matter if its Gucci or from a thrift shop! Its all about your heart- its all about what God thinks about you.
Clothes could be really attractive on someone and yet their heart could be black! And yet someone could come in with dirty torn clothes and have an amazing heart.
So, I would just encourage you to find a church and be confident that Gods heart is delighted to see you and your children. His heart is overjoyed when he sees that your seeking him! Whether that at home or church!!!!
And if anyone judges you or condems you- do not listen to their words. They dont know what their doing....they have a problem in their heart.
I just encourageyou to keep seeking the Lord and I'll be praying that you and your family are blessed.
Take care!!!
-D-
2006-07-01 19:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by danae_rachelle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do what ever you feel led to do. Eventually it might be best to mesh with the crowd so you dont' look outta place, just for the sake of being a distraction or not, but never let what someone thinks of you stop you from seeking God. Most churches won't even mention what a guest wears, and many churches have become really lax on what you wear. Basically as long as you're not wearing anything too revealing you should do fine, and people will be glad to have you there. And as for being a distraction, what you wear won't be half the distraction that even someone getting up and going to the bathroom would be. And that's still not much of one.
Go for it
2006-07-01 19:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by Matt H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Lord said come as you are! Please do not fell pressured to dress extravagantly. Whatever God has provided you with is good enough for Him. If the church does not agree, so what, but if it bothers you that much find a church that does agree with your available dress code and enjoy God there. I've worked with kids in church and most dress down because there are often many activities to be done or they might play outside or anything. I do hope you pursue putting God in you and your daughter's lives, and not just religion but a real relationship. I hope your daughters do well in the play!
2006-07-01 19:12:15 · answer #3 · answered by babygemini261 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the fact that you're more interested in clothes than what God thinks of you strike you as odd? Perhaps it's the acceptance of others you are looking for, not the acceptance of God.
If you're really a good person, it shouldn't matter whether or not you go to church, so to hell with the people who might think otherwise of you. Be who you are and be proud of who you are, jean shorts or not. If there really is some magical being that can see and know everything (aka God), then it shouldn't matter what a bunch of self-righteous people in a particular building think.
2006-07-01 19:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by Erik P 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm pretty sure if it's a big church you will see people in all kinds of clothes. The only thing I might suggest, in case you might feel out of place, is wear longer jeans/pants rather than shorts. No matter what I think it's not too likely anyone will think or say anything about your clothes. If they do, they don't really get it!
2006-07-01 19:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by surlygurl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure about your church but where I go to church we wear whatever we want to. I have seen ppl in there with cut off jean shorts and some in their work clothes... God doesn't see the outside of a person He see the heart. But I would say what you described would be totally fine
2006-07-01 19:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by gentlebreeze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been to many number of churches and even to a Bible college where they expected us to wear dresses and when I attend church now you will usually catch me wearing jeans. Most churches are lighening up quite a bit on what you should wear. Go in what you are comfortable in and what feels right to you. God just wants to see you there, He doesn't care what you wear (wow, I rhymned, wasn't intentional). Many will dress to what everyone else is wearing to fit in but in most of the churches I've attended you see everyone from full suits to ripped jeans. The best thing to wear is a smile is my opinion because that is what makes the biggest impression on people, not what you wear. If you go the this church and they seem to reject you just for what you wear, God probably hasn't been welcomed there either because His choice of dress was casual with sandles. :) All I ask is that if you don't feel right there, don't avoid church altogether. There are many great ones out there. At my church one of the best dressed woman (married to a doctor) spent time with and helped the worst dressed woman (she usually wore ripped jeans). I hope you enjoy yourself there. ><>Prism
2006-07-01 19:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by Prism 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the feeling of being out of place, but as every one else has said it is not about the people in the church it is about Your time worshiping God. He does not care how you look or how your girls look. Personaly I like to be comfortable in chuch and I have never gotten a second look.. The church we attend acctually the sign outside said "come as you are and you will be loved." That to me is powerfull God loves me on my worst day and on my best day, in my gruby work clothes or in a nice dress and shoes. May God be with you in your time of stuggle and may he continue to bless your family.
2006-07-01 19:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God say's "Come as you are". Just present yourself in a respectable manner, and you'll be ok. He would accept you anyway regardless. But because you know what respect is, just go as you are. Eventually, God will bless you with financial stability, where you can buy nice clothes to wear to church.
2006-07-01 19:05:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spirituality is an important thing. If you feel uncomfortable or out of place at the church, then you need to look for another chruch. I would go, dress in whatever fashion that you can and feel comfortable and see how it goes. If you feel uncomfortable, or looked down on, then move on. It's not the right place for you.
2006-07-01 19:08:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋