I have 2 daughters 2 months and 19 months and he is in prison for fraud and the trial will start in like 5 months..I can't find a job and I am kinda homeless..I am helpless
2006-07-01 18:53:50 · 20 answers · asked by meemo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I moved in to one of my friends basement
2006-07-01 19:02:18 · update #1
Start from the bottom and work your way up get all the government assistance that you can. Don't be ashamed to do that you gotta take care of your kids. They have child care programs and stuff like that. Get yourself a job that coincides with you oldest daughters school time. You may also want to look into an after school program for her. See it you can get family members to help out with you child care needs.
And Pray girl, but you can do it. So many mothers have. I don;t know if you plan to stay with mister I'm gonna do this crime and not consider my wife and kids futures, but if I was you for you and your kids sake you might want to leave his A$$. He had 2 daughters and a wife (a family) he odiously does not think much of you all if he would risk is precious families future to do such a stupid thing.
You have to make sure that you make those girls feel special in this time. Sometimes we tend to emotionally abandon our children when things like this happen because we are dealing with so much.
GOOD LUCK TO YOU.
2006-07-01 19:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by Erica T 4 · 13⤊ 5⤋
Your homeless, and have access to a computer? Well, use it! Start looking into your state welfare etc. Find a place to stay. Your the adult, and your kids are depending on you. There are many resources and out-reach programs. Get help from local church groups etc. many will be more then willing to help. It sounds like your husband won't be around for awhile weither for just 5 months or more. In the mean time it's all up to you.
2006-07-02 02:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by CheDay825 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn. Usually I try to find the humor in things. There is nothing funny in this. I wish I could help. Go to the prison where your husband is. They should have counselors, or at the very least a prison chaplain. Ask them for advice. There should be some kind of resourse or community assistance where you live. With two little girls to take care of I would imagine there is someone or someones who would do whatever they could to help you. Take care and good luck. Previous responder. Public libraries afford access to computers and the internet. It doesn't mean her situation isn't as dire as it seems.
2006-07-02 02:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look honey,I've been in that situation too. What you need to do now is think of your kids. Look for a job ,have someone let you stay with them until you get back on your feet. Apply for government help maybe even housing . They should give it to you right away seeing it's an emergency. Don't give up I know it's hard but you can get through this. Just remember those kids are counting on you now. I don't have any family whatsoever to help me and I did it. I know you can.
2006-07-02 02:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick yourself up, dust your self off and get on with the business of raising your children.
Go to the local welfare office and see what they can do to help you. Go to your family for support. If you are religious, go to your church for support. Get a part time job. Make a budget, stick to it. Cut out luxuries. Do you need that cell phone? Can the babies wear cloth diapers instead of disposables? There are ways to cut the fat, you have to be strong and tough.
It won't be easy, but others can do it and so can you, I know it!
2006-07-02 01:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by Fuzzy Wuzzy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move back in with my parents or his parents or some kind of family or friends, if that were me.
Call and make an appointment with social services to see if they can help you with some temporary funds/housing. (Do a search with your state and "social services" to get phone numbers) Ask for counseling too, sounds like you could use someone to talk to.
WIC (women,infant and children) can help with basic food, but it sounds like you may need to do food stamps too, at least for now.
as far as your husband... That's a personal decision. If he's been good to you and this is something he did before you met him, then I see no reason to divorce. But its something you have to search in yourself to decide.
Best wishes.
2006-07-02 02:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by myshira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not helpless...... all you have to do is try..... i was in the same situation but with only one child..... every thing works out for the best,,,, have patients, and start looking for a job..... there are many programs that can help...... I wish you luck and my prayers are with you......
2006-07-02 01:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by dani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should stay with your family. Your family is always there to support you. How is your relationship with your family? If it's bad I'm sure that they won't leave you to starve with no place to live. If they do. Then find a friend. I understand that you can't find a job cause of your kids. If your friend is really close to you he or she wouldn't mind helping you.
2006-07-02 02:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by QQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your local town office can help you pay bills and buy food,they may help you get an apartment,which should give you some time to apply for state assistance.And then concentrate on getting an education or job.
2006-07-02 09:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by rosie w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some one to help like a friend or your mom. Get a day jobn and support your husband if you believe in him if noit dump him and move on.
2006-07-02 01:57:03 · answer #10 · answered by Bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋