Tomorrow's my mom's funeral, and four of my good friends from my travels (one who has spent several weekends at my house, two who met my mom once or twice, and one who I don't believe ever met her) are driving down for the day to offer me support. Is that appropriate?
2006-07-01 18:45:25 · 32 answers · asked by me41987 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i think so
2006-07-01 18:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by LaLa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say most certainly. A funeral is not only for the person who has died but even more for the people who have lost her. It is not just a time of remembering and it is not just for the people who have known the person, it is also a time of closure and friend can help you do that as they walk through it with you. Your friend are there to support you and you will need it at the funeral. During a time of grief and mourning is a time I think a person is allowed to be selfish and focus a little more on their needs. Just make sure that your friends are acting with proper respect so as not to bother others who are mourning and if people ask how they knew your mom they can just say that they are there to offer you support and I don't think anyone should mind. If they do they are not being sensitive to your needs and right now you NEED friend support. When you lose someone so close to you, you need to do what will help you through. When I lost my younger brother I was calling a friend of mine in the middle of the night and she didn't mind because when your really in need, you need a friend to lean on. I'll be praying for you. ><>Prism
2006-07-01 19:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by Prism 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is very appropriate, and you are to be congratulated for having such thoughtful and supportive friends.
I'm sorry for your loss. Tomorrow, when the funeral is on, remember your Mom as the special person she was, remember the good times you had together, and hold those warm feelings in your heart.
My condolences to you, and my congratulations to your friends for giving you their support.
2006-07-02 05:10:19 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, they should be there to shelter you but no at the funural remember, this isn't your day. Its your Moms funeral. Take the time to mourn your loss then AFTER the funeral spend time with your friends and allow them to give you support you need to push through but having them there only would bring them down more and would just be inappropriate
2006-07-01 18:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear of your loss. And I think that your mom would want you to have all the support you can. It's a tough time, I'm sure. As long as they're respectful, I would see no problem of them being there. When my moms' father (my grandpa) passed, her friends/co-workers came. It made her feel a little more at ease, and it showed the rest of the family how special he was, even to people who had never met him, only heard my mom speak of him. Stay strong, and God bless.
2006-07-01 18:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by ★Fetal☆ ★And ☆ ★Weeping☆ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think funerals are held for the people who are left alive to go through those first hours of pain. It is your comfort you should think about. If having those friends around is going to help you, then it's okay. I've been to funerals of people I didn't even know, because I did know some of the people who were grieving.
2006-07-01 23:46:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 03:20:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course!
The funeral is not for your mom. It's for you, the people who are trying to grieve for her. I think it's very nice that your friends have come to support you.
2006-07-06 17:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course. Especially if they had any sort of relationship with your mother. I even invited my ***** of a so-called friend to my grandmother's funeral, because even tho they had only met a few times, they hit it off that well.
2006-07-01 19:07:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your mom's death... Yes I think it is appropriate to bring your friends I think your mom would like to have your good friends by your side when you need the support.
Best Wishes,
♥ Vy
2006-07-01 18:51:22 · answer #10 · answered by V<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends make sure that they are with you when you need them, and not when they need you. If the bonds are genuine, they would be a real support during the bereavement. And permit me to offer my heartfelt condolences.
2006-07-01 18:49:53 · answer #11 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋