Help i recently got into a car crash that left me alive with two very big scars that covers one of my bottom half of one of my legs and my entire belly..i use to be a stripper but the scars has put an abrupt hault to that fantasy my relatioship of 3yrs came to an end because of him not being able to stand to look at them even though he kissed them often or maybe its me that losed the confidence i once had in myself how do i get past these scars how do i move on into another relationship with this on my once could live with body ...im thinkin maybe a tattoo i dont know and man how do i miss srtiping...im looking for answers plz help
2006-07-01 18:10:30 · 9 answers · asked by miss-curiosity 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is no accident.
You are still alive, but are being pulled away from all that was not good for you. It took a car crash to get you away from it. Listen to the message, and look for alternative paths in life.
2006-07-01 18:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_leaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you contact a good attorney to sue for your injuries as well as loss of occupation and any other damages s/he sees as appropriate. Your attorney will make sure you get the counseling you need, and that your bills are covered by the insurance company.
As for covering up the scars, you might want a tattoo, or possibly start with getting an airbrushing to see what might work to minimize or hide them before going with the permanent solution.
As for your significant other not standing with you through this, that was just wrong. You are an important person, regardless of the injuries you've had; never allow someone else's opinion of you to scar your soul. That would be a much worse injury to you than your wreck.
2006-07-01 18:25:04 · answer #2 · answered by webfly2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should use this as your chance to realy start a new life, so i would cause those times dont come that aften if at all. so just get a job doing something else, and find a new man! and dont get a huge tattoo, men these days are realy likeing the tattoo free body more that they have before. the scars should lessen a little bit, but i know most guys woud rather you have the scar then huge tattoos to cover them. keep your head up and take advantage of this to make a better turn in your life. good luck!
2006-07-01 18:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have lost confidence in yourself...Got to get that back....Look at it this way ..at least you are alive and if a guy doesnt like the scars oh well then I guess he isn't good enough for you...Being a stripper can be fun but maybe this was gods way of telling you that your life needs to go in another direction....
2006-07-01 18:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to need to diminish and severe your emotional ties you had with your former career choice. You are going to need to find one that is more fulfilling. Those generally include studying a great deal and offering what you know to many people.
If he reallly cared for you, he would have stuck by you no matter if you were mangled up more. Its unfortunate that you were really hurt, and my wishes are extended to you.
Let yourself heal, inside and out. Someone with a great deal of compassion you will want to be at your side. If he doesn't have it, he's not worth it, period.
Take a self esteem class or aid in your spirituality by prayer and meditation. These usually builds self -esteem very well.
I wish you the best,
Cheryl
2006-07-01 18:21:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of guys find scars like that sexy. why we dont know but its true. just go with it and if you dont find any luck with a guy then a tattoo probably would be best. and if you want to start stripping again well i dont know to much about all that but i dont think a big tattoo on the stomach would be very appealing on a stripper. who knows there are alot of guys into that though. all you can do is take a chance.
2006-07-01 18:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered how fortunate you are to be alive....Have your mental capacity........and WITHOUT pain........
As for your relationship fading, he was simply unable to face reality. That has absolutely NO reflection on who you are! I have an X that would literally get sick when he saw anyone with a physical handicap. He was/is as insecure as anyone can be.
Make a visit to a facility of brain injured individuals to regain your grip on life. Give yourself some time to sufficiently heal, inside
........and OUT. Please take care of yourself. You've got something better in your life. It just hasnt shown itself to you just yet. BELIEVE IT!
2006-07-01 18:14:29 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well get a better career than that and you wont have a prolblem. sorry to hear about your crash accident
2006-07-01 18:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by littlemama3313 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont blame u stripping is awesome but hten that guy is wierd just becaus eu have scars that doesnt mean that he should dtop likeing u
NO TATOOS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-01 18:15:23 · answer #9 · answered by hotmama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋