Ok my parents set a limit that I can't date til I am 16. And its widly known I am off limits. But I have a year and its driving me crazy i have always been with my friends when they are around their BF's and help them with relationship issues. But, I wanna know how it feels to be loved by someone other than your family. I wanna have a relationship and fight over stupid things. I want to have that experience and I have to wait a whole year now. Does any one else have the same problem???
2006-07-01 17:55:54 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My mom has eyes everywhere. My brother is a year older and looks out for me. Guys won't get near cuz they know. Oh and my mom works at my school. It Sux.
2006-07-01 17:59:34 · update #1
My father had this rule for me as well. I decided that I knew what was best for me and went behind his back and dated on my own. I ended up marrying him and having three kids. Have you ever heard the saying that there are a lot of guys who just want to keep you bare foot and pregnant?? I was beat daily, I was raped by him etc. All I could think of after I finally woke up and left him is, I should of listened to my dad!
My three older daughters (now grown and living on their own) wouldn't listen to me with setting that same rule and 2 out of three ended up being raped at a young age.
I know you want to do like your friends and I know you are saying this won't happen to you and I know you are saying you will have your friends to watch your back....I said these words and so did my daughters.....Listen to your parents please, you have PLENTY of time in your life to have boyfriends...trust me.
P.S. If it is well known to a lot of others that your parents have this rule, I hate to be so bold but many guys, if they see you out at parties and going behind your parents backs to get a boyfriend, they will know you are most likely a virgin and will make you think they like you etc. but they are going after just one thing and then they will drop you like a hot potato. I just hope rape won't be in your destiny.
2006-07-01 18:05:27 · answer #1 · answered by MBELL 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fortuanatly, I don't have your problem, but I have a lot of friends that do. Their parents won't let them date till they are 17. But, this doesn't stop them from making really, really close guy friends. Use this year to check out the kind of people that you surround yourself with. You may not be able to date any of them, but you can at least feel them out. If you can't stand being around them as a friend, then you definatly don't want them as your significant other. Although this year may go by super slow... don't let the entire "no dating" thing hold you back. See what you want in your guy, then, when you can date... you won't have to go thru all the loser ones. And just because you can't date someone... doesn't mean that they don't love you. There is that one guy, the one that has already fallen in love with you and is just waiting for that moment when you are free to go out!
2006-07-02 01:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by MB's Gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did have this problem once. I had got in an situation where i didnt start talking to boys until i was around 15. But i still had a boyfriend anyway. Its a wonderful experience to be loved by someone other than your family! U meet this wonderful guy who loves you for who you are. Yall fight over crazy things, but at the end of the day yall still love one another. Even though u have one more year to start dating i still think you should give it a little try. Maybe just one experience to see how it is!
2006-07-02 01:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by gutta_la_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you can't date, doesn't mean you can't get close with a guy. Start becoming friends with them at school or on the phone or whatever, and see if you eventually like a particular guy as more than a friend. By the time you really get to know someone special, it will be a year from now, and you'll have all these fun new opportunities with him... Good luck!
2006-07-02 00:59:22 · answer #4 · answered by Mary S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents set the same limits and I still dated... secretly. Looking back, not really a big deal- honestly. It is a lot cooler to have a large circle of friends... figure out who you really are, who is worth your time and yeah, a year goes fast! Don't sweat it, before you know you will be like 'Arrggghhh... guys drive me crazy! Why did I want to date so soon??' Heartbreak will always come... put that off as long as possible girl! lol : )
2006-07-02 01:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, waiting for love is like waiting for eternity. i felt the same way except even when my parents said yes no one right came. everyone told me ur guy will come , well i waited 3 yrs for him and i don't know if it will last, its a painful wait but u can still always flirt, say ur friends and get numbers, i don't think ur parents won't mind u calling guys to help them with there problems, well good luck and hold on mean while keep ur eyes open
2006-07-02 01:01:12 · answer #6 · answered by gothicangelalways 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um i did not start dating till i was 14 and realy two years more is nothing. you have to realize that you have plenty of time to figure this out. trust me when you start dating ya it is cool to get into those little fights and then make up, but after a while your like ok i realy like being single for a while now...lol...it is worth it to wait till you are 16 then you can get some more mature boy cause you should be in high school right? ya it is cool but worth the wait.
2006-07-02 00:59:34 · answer #7 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have the same problem my mom wouldnt let me date until I was 16 too I turned 16 in Jan and she still has a problem with it I am afraid to ask her if I can go out with this one boy that I like but yeah email me if you need any more help its ixlovexthisxbot@yahoo.com
2006-07-02 00:59:16 · answer #8 · answered by IxLovexThisxBoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey umm no but some times to not be loved by some one is the best becuz you might fall in love but then he might dump you and you will feel so lonely that you couldnt stand living any more. that happened to me 3 times.......but yea i know how you feel becuz my dad wouldnt let me even talk to another guy until i sat down and talked to him maybe thats what you should do if you want to talk more about this here is my yahoo or email address hotlilgatorchick <<< yahoo hotlilgatorchick16@yahoo.com ok
2006-07-02 01:01:40 · answer #9 · answered by Gator chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its best that you do wait because guys these days only want one thing. my friend is not aloud to date till she is 16 too. i think you should maybe get to know a guy first and if he really likes you he will wait a year. its only 1 year after all.
2006-07-02 01:08:49 · answer #10 · answered by pimpinette1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋