there is a guy that is my first love he broke my heart but i still love him how can i stop?

Answer 1

Well, if you recently broke up it will take a while to get over him and there may be a part of you that always has feelings for him but eventually other things will become your main focus and you won't think about those feelings all the time.

I know it is hard, I have been through it but it will get better. What helped me is doing new things I never did with him before like volunteer, take a dance or art class, or just something fun for you. Then it will take your mind off of him. And you will begin to realize it is his loss he is not with you.

I believe if it is meant to be it will be and if this guy was not meant to be with you, it just leaves the door open for the person that is and you will be so much happier when you find him than you ever were with this guy that broke your heart.

Answer 2

my first love broke my heart too and i swear i probably cried for a year straight! with time the pain heals, it may take longer than u hope but there will come a time where he'll most likely want u back, lets just hope u r over him by then...to help u stop loving him, everyday think about all the bad things that occured in the relationship, how much pain he caused u, how u really want to be treated, or try dating other people, maybe make new friends, put in some extra hours at work...it helped me...just remember its better to talk about what's bothering you than to keep it in, so find someone who u trust who is a good listener and supporter that will give u good advice on relationships and or self confidence-best of luck!

Answer 3

You don't. Your first love is the most beautiful thing in the world while you love and this man will always be in your heart. Save the good memories and let go of the B.S. that happened at the end. Remember, he broke your heart but that just means he wasn't THE ONE. THE ONE is still out there. So say goodbye, I love, but I never want to see you again. Don't try to be his friend, you can't. Also, the one will be there when you aren't looking for him.

Answer 4

With all these long answers I guess you might have got a solution
But if not,
(I must apologise in case I offend you by any means...)
I am not aware of the reason for your broken heart so I cant say much.
First try to understand why you love him, what is it that makes you love him? Is it his physical appearance, his talent, his behaviour or anything else.
Second ask yourself does he really love you? If he had been cheating on you then I am afraid he doesnt?
Generally broken hearts are the result of cheating, but if he is your love then why would he do that?
The so often used word 'love' has been always misunderstood by liking (crush)
If I were to have a true love, I would not like her but love her.
there is a big difference between 'liking' and 'loving'.
When you like some one you like him for his positive trait but If you love someone you accept him as whole i.e. the way he is with all his traits good or bad alike.
Try to understand this and you will realize...

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Answer 5

Your first love....this is a tough one. All I can really suggest is to stay away from him and go one with your life. I am not saying you will be over him within a month or two, it could take years. Usually until you find someone who you love whole heatedly.

I married my first love, had three beautiful daughters together but this man beat me, cheated on, spent his pay check on alcohol and other woman while me and three babies were at home hungry and cold. He held a shot gun to me and our second daughter but you know what? I kept thinking I could change him. I loved this man more than life it's self. Then, one of the many times he didn't come home, this time it was for 2-3 months, I started liking this other guy. I fell in love with him but yet still was holding on to the love I had for my first love. I then had to weight out what life and happiness I had then opposed to now. This is what made me realize, I am happy now and so are my children. This took me 2 years to get over him.

I sure hope it will not take you this long. I hope you are stronger and smarter than myself. If he is breaking your heart now, imagine what it will be like in five years from now.

Answer 6

It will take some time. It takes time to get over your first love, even if he does break your heart. With me... I was hopeless for a few months during which we re-dated 3 or 4 times, and he broke my heart again every time. Eventually I started noticing everything about him that I didn't like... I'm still friends with him now, but there's no chance of him ever breaking my heart again. My best advice (and I'm not trying to make you hate him) is when he does something that you don't like - remember it. Or if you notice something about his face or appearance that you don't like - remember it. Eventually, it will add up, and you will realize you don't like him as much as you thought. It took me almost a year, but a different result for different people.

Answer 7

There's no easy solution to your problem...and unfortunately, there's no way to really "stop" per se. The only thing you can really do is move on with your life as best you can and take things day by day...it will be difficult, but as time presses on you will be less and less hindered by it. Later on you'll realize that you might still love him, but it's not something that's in the forefront of your life anymore And trust me, you'll have plenty of other love interests in life, whether it seems like it now or not.

Answer 8

It's normal to feel this way about ur first love. But he broke ur heart and u need to move on, what u need to do is keep busy and meet other people to keep ur mind off him, once u start doing this u will start to forget him

Answer 9

It's your first love, so you will be able to remember it forever. Don't worry...the pain does go away slowly, day by day. He broke your heart...remember that. If you do think that he changed , then maybe you should consider giving him a second chance. Good luck.

Answer 10

Unfortunately you can't, it will have to run its course. I still carry a flame for my first love and that was 7 years ago. If someone was that special to you, you will never forget them and probably always care about them. The upside is that as times goes on, it gets easier everyday, and eventually you will meet someone else.