Our wedding was almost a year ago and I have not yet sent out most thank you notes. I want to send them still. Do I gloss over it and just keep writing them? Can I write something like It's been a wonderful year and we would like to thank you for...? Do I really bring attention to it and apologize and explain in the card?
Help.
2006-07-01 16:49:14 · 12 answers · asked by mag 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Write a sincere little thank you note. You might say something like "we are happy and busy, but we did not want you to think we've forgotten your kindness". No excuses or apologies.
I think the recipients of the notes will be very happy to get them. It's the right thing to do.
2006-07-01 16:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by nightevisions 7 · 21⤊ 0⤋
From what I've read, you should send out a thank you within 3 days of receiving a gift. Since you are WAY over that deadline, I would just send out an update card. Maybe have pictures done for your 1 year anniversary. You can take them with a digital and then go to a Walgreens, CVS, RiteAid (whatever you have) and you can print wallets size photos. I did this for my college graduation pic and included it in the annoucements and everyone thought they were professionally done. You can get a sheet of wallets (9 pics) for about $3. I wouldn't send "thank you" cards, but rather just some sort of nice blank card and make your own message inside each one. I like your idea of just sort of updating everyone on how your new life together is going in its first year. I would casually mention something like..."I also wanted to take the time to thank you for the (toaster oven), life can get a little hectic after a wedding and I just wanted to express my appreciation" or something like that. Check out the 'Modern Girls Guide to Life' book...it has great helpful tips about "thank you"-type notes such...as always mention exactly what the gift is that you are thanking them for so that your card sounds personalized and not generic message. Also, always say how great it was to spend time with them (if indeed you did at the wedding) even if you didn't enjoy it AND always mention something about looking forward to seeing them again in the future (i.e. I look forward to catching up with you in August at the family reunion). Hope this helps. Good Luck
2006-07-02 00:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by Renee' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better a late thank you than no thank you. Apologize that you are so late in acknowledging their generosity, but don't make any lame excuses. Something like "We are unforgivably late in thanking you for the wonderful toaster that has been such a blessing every morning. We wanted you to know how often we think of you and we are so sorry that we have taken so long to let you know. Please forgive us and know that we hold you in highest regard..." You're going to have to lay it on a bit thick, making your thank you notes as personal as possible. Again, apologize but do not explain. Unless you fell into a coma immediately after your wedding and only awoke a week ago, there really is no good excuse you can offer.
2006-07-01 23:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by just♪wondering 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you don't need any more guilt heaped on you than you already have put on yourself.....but girl, make a date with your hubby to sit down over the next few nights and write those notes....and don't carry the burden by yourself...make him help! Although I believe a personal note is best, surf the net for some inspired ideas (aka: 20 different ways to say thank you!). Time is of the essence......I'm sure most folks will understand that the first year of marriage is a whirlwind of activity and change...but good manners dictate that everyone should receive a handwritten thank you for their gifts and good wishes.
(Think of it this way...they took the time to get dressed up, buy a gift and spend your special day with you...the least you can do is thank them for their thoughtfulness)
Good luck....and I look forward to seeing my 'note' soon (just kidding!)
2006-07-08 21:32:21 · answer #4 · answered by baciandrio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why has it taken you a "YEAR"? You should feel VERY bad about the time that has lapsed.....but, I would go ahead and send them. I WOULD NOT bring attention to the time period that has passed....WHY did it take you so long. I'm sorry, but I don't think your excuse would be good enough for me.
Everyone is busy with everything going on in their life......what if the guest that you invited were "too busy" to come to the wedding or they "forgot to buy you a gift!"......I'm not going to be easy on you because frankly.....I think you are very rude....didn't your Mother teach you any thing about "ETIQUETTE".....everyone knows that you don't wait a year to thank someone! That is TOTALLY ridiculous....and I can't believe you would even post a question like that!
And....updating them on your year......you've got to be kidding....I agree with Yogi .....sit down, right the "Thank You's" and forget it!
2006-07-02 00:14:35 · answer #5 · answered by Bluewillow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and do them. Make it a daily chore. How about setting a goal on doing 3 a day? Little by little you will get the task finished.
2006-07-02 21:01:41 · answer #6 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just say how sorry i was for not sending the notes and please forgive you . you have only one excuse and that is your new life is wonderful and you are the most wonderful friends that where there on my wedding day. and thank you so much for the wonderful gifts and your forgivness with this belated thank you :O)
2006-07-02 00:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say something like ..It has been a wonderful and busy year..I have not forgotten how wonderful you have made my very special day and will cherish the memory always.. Thank-you from the bottom of my heart..
2006-07-01 23:56:04 · answer #8 · answered by Penny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write them now, tell the giver how you have used his gift over the past several months and state that you have been "meaning to write for ages!"
Just do it!
2006-07-08 13:19:19 · answer #9 · answered by gemami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me a few months to get all my thank-you notes out. It was easier given thank-you's by hand delivering them. the ones I had to mail, it took me a while to send those out. Go ahead and send them out!
2006-07-01 23:54:14 · answer #10 · answered by goodygirl10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋