2006-07-01 16:41:59 · 21 answers · asked by miss-curiosity 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
XXXXXXXXXXX Have you tried oral sex? If this doesnt give you an orgasm, nothing will. Be patient. Take it slowwww. Be in the moment. Don't worry about the bills, the dog, the kids, the in laws, no one or nothing . That time is for you and your partner. Make it worth every minute. Good luck hun. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-01 16:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No doubt I knew you were a woman because I haven't heard too many men say this. The reason? Men don't usually care and that's the problem. We are selfish when it comes to love. Men think, or maybe we don't, that women are like minded when it comes to love and sex. I could always say that your partners have not been as concerned about taking the TIME to make sure your arousal was built up to the point that you couldn't help but have an orgasm but I also think it goes deeper than that. I believe that relationships of many kinds occur on several levels. There is the Physical, the mental, the emotional, and the spiritual. Physically, where most men live, it is a process of education in knowing where to touch, how to touch and what to do but there is a mental side of it also and that is where you develop the anticipation and the excitement of sex and excitement. The mental then can reinforce and build up the physical and each reinforce and satisfy each other. Then the emotional aspect comes in when you are in a relationship with expectations and when this person you partner with is someone you have feelings for then your emotions are also exercised and tweaked and when you bring the physical, the mental and the emotional areas of yourself together and elevate them simultaneously then you find that orgasm happens on it's own without you thinking about it as it just overcomes you. Your partners should be knowledgeable to realize this and help transport you on every level to that point that you don't think about orgasm it overcomes you and you experience the bliss of total satisfaction and gratification of your senses. Developing the mood and atmosphere before, during and afterwards is also a very important part and can encompass the senses as well as in smell, sight, and feelings.
2006-07-01 16:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by alagk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be too upset .... this does happen with some women.
There may be one of several underlying reasons.
I once had a girlfriend that was that way. So I researched and
planned several different approaches to help solve her problem.
The result .. she will remember me forever as the first to ever
give her an orgasm. Plus, she became knowlegable as to what
was really necessary for her to climax.
It CAN happen. Perhaps an understanding partner that wishes
to truly help would be needed at this point.
Other than that ... a visit to your doctor for a long chat might
be in order.
2006-07-01 17:03:10 · answer #3 · answered by Consultant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you said you have had good sex, I think you have reached an orgasm.
You should try to concentrate and feel every thing, the touch and movement of your body and your partners body. And you should have sex with the person you like or love.
You will know when you are about to reach an orgasm its like craving for something more and more, its like you want to give in more and more.
2006-07-01 16:48:56 · answer #4 · answered by cheng 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that the men who you have sex with are not good in the bedroom dept. What you may need is more foreplay with out penatration and let him find all the right zones, ie behind your ears, elbow, back of your knees the top of your bottom then you should be well worked up but you take control and try a few postitions for deeper penatration.
2006-07-01 16:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by littlebrother1961 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never had an orgasm until I met my husband. There is a certain spot, when it's touched you will feel a difference. It actually might give you a chill. I tighten my muscles as it's being touched and eventually it will come. Try moving with the person and make it intense and when it happens your partner will feel it, it feels like water falling on the penis and your energy will feel like it is gone.
2006-07-01 16:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by Precious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are faking orgasms then the guy can't tell if he is doing his job or not.... this may sound disturbing but masterbate find out WHAT you like what you enjoy and find out how YOU get off
i didn't have an orgasm until like the third guy i was with and he went down on me and gave me a really good O i have never had an orgasm from penatration (sp) but umm yeah masterbate when you find your "trick" SHOW the guy what to do to get you off
LET GO AND ENJOY
2006-07-01 16:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by sweetcharity2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe there is no specific reason. i know plenty of people that say they are married and still haven't reached it. So it's not always mental. sometimes it is. Sometimes it's just not hitting the spot for long enough. If you and your partner are really interested in finding out, see a sex therapist. but be careful it may not always help and hit a sorespot on the guy. ;-)
2006-07-01 16:47:07 · answer #8 · answered by topcontroll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women take longer to reach orgasm than men. Talk to your partner about taking time, going slower. Try a different position that may help you reach orgasm. Masturbate to orgasm and see what exactly it is that brings you to orgasm and apply it when having sex.
2006-07-01 16:46:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well because u have to have a good relationship with that guy or girl and have a deeeeeeeepppp sticking in and then the guy or girl will get horny or u will have an orgasm
2006-07-01 16:49:23 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋