Before, when I hung out with her she would always say, "My (foster) sister told me____." "She said I should do this." "She said this store is the best one to shop." "She told me I shouldn't do this." Now that she has a boyfriend, it's "My bf said I shouldn't dye my hair." "My bf say I shouldn't spend my money on this but I should buy this instead." "My bf doesn't like me have posters of guy celebs on the wall." "My bf said..." You guys get the point. Everytime, she repeats what they say to her and what she should do and she always take thier advice. When I give her advice, she thinks its bs. When her sister give the same advice, it's brilliant and should be followed. I told her today she should think for herself and shes not her sister/bf. She admitted that she does that and cant think for herself.
2006-07-01 16:40:08 · 5 answers · asked by Trinity 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She'll eventually learn when she gets bad advice about something. The only thing for you to do is to let her learn the hard way. You've tried to help her out, but I guess that she does not want to listen. If she can't think for herself then let her think that. She'll eventually do something to hurt herself, and probably change her mind.
2006-07-01 16:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by pinky_lady_2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she in a foster home? If so, it sounds like a lack of self confidence as a result of being placed in a foster home. She just be be scared to make the right decision so she just listens and does what everyone else tells her to do. She needs to start out making small decisions so she can see she can make them on her own. In time she'll grow more confident in her decision making and she'll be making them on her own in no time! Perhaps your delivery in the way you give her advice differs from how her sister states it and that is why she follows her sisters advice.
2006-07-01 23:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by wondering in michigan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she might get some type of comfort knowing she has a relationship with someone or someone cares about her and she likes to share it (reinforcing her need to be loved). When you said foster sis, I'm thinkin' she might not have had a great amount of care in her original home or maybe since she was separated from her home and family.
I know, I could be wrong. But I think this might be part of it.
2006-07-01 23:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to think for herself, she's depending on other ppl, maybe ther is some type of abuse going on at her home
2006-07-02 07:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by Giggles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because she want to be a people pleaser, but you can't please every one. so i think you should giving advice to her.just tell her what ever it is you need to decide for your self.
2006-07-01 23:49:47 · answer #5 · answered by tanisha a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋