I am 16 years old, an only child, a girl, and daddy's little girl at heart but i still want to date and have my dad be not so up tight about it. I am aloud to date guys but my dad is overprotective and i understand but, i was just wondering if anyone had any sujestions for me on how to make him more comfortable with the whole thing.
2006-07-01 16:32:18 · 10 answers · asked by portrower 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i have been dating my boyfirend for 71/2 months and my dad doestn want to ahve anything to do with him, like getting to know him,and i've never been late for curfew and never showed up with a visible hickie. Im always striving to gain his trust and make sure he is happy with what im doing, or else i feel like crap. So i mean i make little mistakes and he trusts me but he just is having difficulty with the wholeconcept
2006-07-01 18:09:52 · update #1
Have your dates come to the door and introduce them to dad. More important than anything else, make sure you are always home before your curfew--even just five minutes. Let your dad know exactly where you will be and who you will be with. Talk to your dad about your dates...not all the intimate details, but the basics--funny things that happened and nice things your date did- things that will make dates seem more human instead of people your dad feels like could hurt you. Also, if and when you *may* decide to have sex, make sure you are ready for the consequences and INSIST on condoms. Dad definitely will go ballistic if he finds out one of these guys got you pregnant or sick.
When you finally get serious with some guy, make sure he hangs out with dad and you (yeah, it doesn't sound cool, but think of the trust building you're working on!). Invite BF over to watch football with you and dad--order pizza and grab the chips and dips and pretend to enjoy watching the game even if you're bored to tears. Good luck!
2006-07-01 16:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by darthbouncy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him how mature you are. It takes time (especially dads!), but it will happen. Now a days, theres so much out there he wants to protect you. Remember, he was your age once before- so he really knows how guys think at your age. You'll always be his little girl, even 20 yrs from now. At your age, worry more about your academics. Where and what do you want to be/do when your older? Don't give in to the guys out there.... The harder you are to get will make your true love come around the right time. Take care!
2006-07-01 23:49:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a dad who has raised three daughters. Bring the dating thing on him slowly if your asking to go out several times a week then its too much. As soon as he sees that you can be trusted to be home on time and can account for where you have been, then maybe he will loosen up to the idea. Believe it or not he does want you to be able to go out and be with your friends, but keep in mind that he is already in the process of cutting loose the apron strings that have gotten you to this point in your life.
2006-07-01 23:40:44 · answer #3 · answered by sn000dle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have your date meet your dad. He'll never be comfortable with the idea of his baby being out there, all vulnerable, and him being a man and remembering what it was like to be a teenage boy. But he'll have to learn eventually that's you're growing up, and he'll have to learn to let go a little. But you can put his mind at ease a little if you introduce your date to him. Just make sure that the boy you bring home is respectable enough to introduce. :-)
2006-07-01 23:37:39 · answer #4 · answered by ratboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this isn't going to happen or progress until you are at least 18 years of age. keep acting as mature as you possibly can. your father will see this and be more and more comforted as he will feel (with time) that its time to let go a little more.
but this isn't going to happen with words you can say, or things you can do. only time, and you making smart decisions in your own life, early while your still in your mid teens. (you only have a couple more years, hurry up and make them count, do well in school, start figuring out exactly what and where your going to be going and doing out of high school. find a good college that your father approves of, and if you need ideas, ask what he did after he got out of high school. you want a good job that you know you can land as long as you have the degree required to obtain the job.
your father wont stop worrying about you until he knows and he sees with his own eyes that you can take care of yourself. he might never see that, even if you do have every ability to take care of yourself. time is the only thing that will tell.
i know this isn't the answer you wanted, and I'm sorry, but your father only wants his only daughter to flourish, and succeed. you cannot do that with the wrong guy hanging around, and I'm sorry to agree, but at 16 you aren't going to have the good intuition you'll have at 25 or even 20. sorry.
2006-07-01 23:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by ASLotaku 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I did when I was younger was that I went on group-dates. My father was more comfortable with this (especially if he knew the friends I was going with). I know that it kinda sucks, but it really helped with my Dad.
2006-07-01 23:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by Sublyme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time my dear time. I am a father of a girl who thinks she's 30 but isnt. have your father and the guy your dating interact. Your dad might think he is a better guy for it. and might give in more. its just a thought.
2006-07-01 23:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by late_sleeper35 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only guy my dad ever liked was one that took him fishing. He was more upset than me when I broke it off.
2006-07-01 23:42:55 · answer #8 · answered by sweet & sour 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be home on time w/ no hickies.
Be where you say you're going to be.
Talk to him more about his feelings. He'll be thrilled, believe me, that you're actually TALKING to him instead of your friends.
2006-07-01 23:37:20 · answer #9 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fyi for everyone reading this, ive might her dad quite a bit
2006-07-02 01:07:33 · answer #10 · answered by carlsoncrew_07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋