I met this girl at the bank. She was attracted to me before I hit on her. Bank teller gave me her number and talked me up. This girl is 18 and has one more year of school left, I'm 20. I was weirded out a little by that. I talked to her one night for like an hour and a half, and then I met her at the bank on Thursday, we went out and I had an amazing time with her. She was so awesomely nice, and very pretty. I, just got out of a 3 year relationship, so I ended up talking about that a little bit too much. She acted like she was having a great time on the date, and flirted back the whole time. She ended the date quickly though, no moves were made, and I wasn't expecting it anyways. She told the bank teller that I talked about my ex too much and that I brought up the school thing. The school thing doesn't bother me after that date I had with her. I tried to set up another date twice this weekend, but she hasn't answered, or returned my calls. I really like this girl. Can I fix it?
2006-07-01 16:00:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the golden rule in first date: don't get too personal (meaning, talking about exes are a no-no).
but since you've already done a boo-boo, then woo her. visit her often. give her chocolates. do everything to make her give you another chance.
and when you do get another chance, please don't talk about your ex.
2006-07-01 16:04:41 · answer #1 · answered by toughthrone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up just yet. She could have just been busy. Try not to call her too much...give it a little time. What a girl told someone else doesn't nessecarily mean anything. That is what happened on the date and she was discussing with the lady but she could still like you. When you call her just apologize for discussing your ex too much but don't come off as too eager or overapologetic. Just be sweet and say you want to see her again. If that doesn't work then she really doesnt like you. If she won't give you a second chance over something as small as that then she's a bit ch anyway...and not worth your time. Right? :)
2006-07-01 16:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you buy a beautiful sachet for her school books (or something for her school work) that she will appreciate and just go to her and tell her "I was wrong but I want to make it up to you because I really like you".
She has to react o n that one. She will either say yes or no. One way or another.
As far as the age, 18 or 20 is the same thing, once you grow a bit older. Why dont you give her a break about it on the school subject? that is nto looking at things with the right perspective if you think she's too young and you are verfy mature n ow. Nope. YOur both about the same as far as maturity. I bet you she wants you too and she won't get close bc you spooked her away!
Thats what it looks like, YOu both have "fears" and you both need to confront them and not miss the chance of a beauitufl relation.
So go get a nice gift for her, look great and smiiiile and walk up to her while you look her in the eyes and say yr words...."can i make it up to you?"
good luck....
2006-07-09 01:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by noteparece? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop calling. She may think that you are just looking for a rebound thing. Or you may have come off as a little needy.
Either way give her some time, and stop by the bank and talk to her! Hey you have nothing to lose, and if she's not up to it, then you can move on without regrets. You tried, and maybe it wasn't meant to be... There's plenty more single women out there.
2006-07-01 16:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by Mayday85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked the I-Ching if you could have a romantic relationship with her. The answer was hexagram 22 line 5. There are definite possibilities here. It maybe didn't start out so well. Don't repeat the same mistakes as on the first date. You could have good fortune in the end, though. She might be out this weekend or something. Try again in a week or something.
2006-07-01 16:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by David 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think honesty is the only thing you can offer. I would call her one more time (be careful ---it may seem like stalking)...let her know that you really had a great time and that you like her. I would apologize about discussing the ex---let her know you've been out of the dating game for a while and you are new to the rules of the game. Then, offer a date which you can connect and learn about each other---instead of discussing the past relationship you were in. Good luck!
2006-07-01 16:05:28 · answer #6 · answered by pmbrundle74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can fix it. SOunds like she likes you but she has some concerns and you've admitted to them.
Simply ask her back out...just for a lunch (lunch dates are not threating)
Explain to her that you didn't mean to praddle on too much about the past, it's just fresh in your mind.
The school thing, well I would justnot bring that up again at al. If she doesn't say anything let it go.
Make sure you tell her how much you like her and want another chance. Throw pretty in there too.
2006-07-01 16:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by SWIFFER THE WONDER MUTT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, before you attempt to date or pursue this person, you need to get yourself together totally and make sure that you are over your ex. Don't play around with anyone's feelings or emotions. 18 is still young and so are you. Being honest with yourself and someone else is where you should start.
2006-07-01 19:39:44 · answer #8 · answered by missladyinred143 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 01:16:34 · answer #9 · answered by may 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just apologize about talking about the ex..never mention her again..unless ASKED about it..just tell her you want a fresh start with her..let her know you are interested in HER ONLY..ask for a 2nd date..movie or dinner (her choice)..and take it from there..don't blow it..you never get a 2nd chance to ruin a first impression...concentrate on her..
2006-07-01 16:05:53 · answer #10 · answered by KT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋