ok well I'm in luv w/this guy but I'm the only one out of my friends and family that approves of him becasue he wears baggy clothes has a lot of tattoos hangs out w/ppl like him dropped out of school when he was 16 and rite now dosent have a job but has an interview wednsday. and hes 20 and im 16 bout 2 b 17 real soon idk wut to do cuz were not together but we still c each other and do stuff but no1 will let me go bac out w/ him sum1 plezzzzzzzzz help me
2006-07-01 15:22:31 · 11 answers · asked by kamy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Kamy, girlfriend...the man is clearly a loser. Think about your life. Would you want to be married to a man who doesn't have a job??? Hangs out with deadbeats? This is not the kind of man you want to marry or even be with. By the way, he's too old for you. Wait until you're 18 and see if you still feel the same way.
2006-07-01 15:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by LadyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have to asks your self is
IS this relationship going to be good for you.
This guy I don't know him Is he kind,will he treat you right,is he trying to improve upon his current situation?
IF he stay uneducated and job less are you willing to live with that and the consequences it might bring?
Also you have to ask your self why do your family and friends disapprove of him.Is it just the baggy clothes and tattoos or is it some deeper reason.
Does he hang out with questionable people.
Are his friend going any where with there lives
If not how will this effect you?
Appearances can be deceiving. But you are blinded by the passions of your emotions so you need to take a step back and look at it from all the other angles and listen to what others are saying to you.
Love can be a beautiful thing, but sometimes the people we love influence us in terrible ways. You have to be careful what ever you do.
IF everything comes up fine though I think you should go for it. But if He not going any where with his life, involved in illegal activity or doing questionable thing your going to have to be willing to let him go.
It may hurt know but years from know you will be grateful.
2006-07-01 15:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by bluepythons 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to do a self-evalution on yourself to figure out why you are drawn to a guy that is making really bad life choices. Believe me, you are not alone in this world in liking a man like him but you have to realize right now that it is not healthy. Still, not to come off as a hypocrite, my last love was not Mr. Perfect either but at least he did his best to function in life by attending college and getting an amazing job. He also is like a #1 dad. He battles with depression and low-self esteem but is trying to function. I applaud him for that.
You need to back away from this guy because the only way he is ever going to realize he's making the wrong choices is if everything doesn't come to him on a silver platter. Above all, listen to the consensus.
2006-07-01 15:32:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to be brutally honest with you .....
You should value the opinion of others. It appears they see him
for what he really is ... but you are blinded by some fascination
about him. Get real !!
He has no ambition, no self esteem and is .. in the terms of my
youth ... "A Total Loser"
If he can't respect himself .. how can he respect you?
If he hangs out with other 'losers' .. are you going to be able to
identify with them and become one yourself?
Face it ... in this case ... your friends and family see him for
what he really is.
I'm NOT saying to quit being his friend ... but I am saying to quit
having any emotional feelings toward him. Perhaps your friend-
ship will have a positive effect and bring him around to changing
himself for the better. It's only a remote possibility though.
Having known many guys like you mentioned ... they are still
losers and either in prison or running from job to job. "When"
someone will actually hire them.
2006-07-01 15:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by Consultant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard thing to anwser but boys come and go so I think u should just try to find another man about ur age (16-18) and go with him and dump the other. Ur family and friends would like that more. (Trust me the same thing happened to me)
2006-07-01 15:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by Skittle_Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that he loves you? Or even likes you? Make sure of that. But besides that I just broke up with someone like that. Tatt's and piecings. he was emo though. My family hated him and didn't let me see him. So I just lied for awhile. We were togehter for almost 2 motnhes and then i broke up with him. I know what you mean, you like him alot and your family hates him. But thats all you want right now right? Is just to see him adn be with him. I'd suggest talking to your parents and if that doesnt work then lie to see him if you really cant get enough of him. Hope this helps
2006-07-01 15:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by Gaga <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would dump him and forget about it.
If he doesn't have a job or a high school or a college education.
Forget about it I wouldn't approve to you going out with him
either.
2006-07-01 15:30:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that 16 is too young, but love comes in small and large parcels. My family did not like my husband but I did. Love him and be careful.
2006-07-01 15:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by daydreamer_bgi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's of legal age, and you are NOT. Your friends and family can't be all wrong. Please try to understand their point of view.
Dont mess up your youth. And DONT do anything you may regret.
2006-07-01 15:27:39 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think by mind not heart sweety;)
2006-07-01 15:28:37 · answer #10 · answered by how2b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋