I am not asking why God hates me?

Question

My question is how can I trust God?

I have tried very hard to always put christ first in my life.
Now God has plagued me with several diseases at a very young age. I did not have sex in highschool because I wanted to follow the lord and wait until marriage. I now know that I will never be able to get married, have children, or even work my way out of debt.
I will probably live a long, endebted, and alone life.
I know the cracker-jack box answers to the question, "why does god hate me?"
I want to know how can I trust him?
Would you still trust him if he set you up to fail and then surrounded you with nothing but reminders of how your life is far below expectations, and how no matter how hard you try your life will never get any better?

Oh... what I would give to have been born a starving person living in Africa. To have never believed that life could be good.

Please do not tell me there is no God. I respect your view, but I am asking other believers for help. Thanks

Answer 1

I'm very sorry that you are going through such a bad time. I know first hand when bad things happen to good people, it is human nature to question why God could let something so terrible happen to one of His children, especially when He loves us. I don't have any magical answer for your question, but I'd like to share how I have personally dealt with this. First, you must realize that trials were meant to DEVELOP you, they were never meant to DESTROY you. The Bible even tells us that if there was a cross for Jesus, then we, too, will also have our own cross that we must bear, for the servant is not greater than his Master. Don't ever think for one minute that God has forsaken you or doesn't care. He does. The Bible promises that God will never put more on us than we are able to bear. When we are in a valley, this is when we are developed for His purpose. Perhaps He has a plan in the future for you, and is using this as a learning experience so that you may someday help others that are in a similar situation as you. God either CAUSES things to happen, or He ALLOWS things to happen. Sometimes He does things to get our full attention, other times He allows things to happen just because He does. Look at Job. He lost EVERYTHING and God allowed it to happen, not because Job was wicked or God hated Him, but He allowed Satan to wreak havoc on his life in order to prove Job's love and devotion toward God. Even Job's wife told him to curse God and die. Job still had faith in God and told her, even if God slay me, yet will I serve Him. God gave Job back even more than he had before and abundantly blessed him for his faith and loyality. You hang in there! For the God on the mountain is still God in the valley. Remember that these trials we experience are a wedge. A wedge that can draw you nearer to God or a wedge that can draw you away from God. And although things may seem hopeless, God is there with you and loving you. I promise I will hold you in my prayers and I love you. You keep looking up and don't loose sight of your faith. Earth has no sorrow that God cannot heal. God bless you, and remember, I will sincerley be praying for you.

Answer 2

I know this is long, but there is a good point to all of this. Just keep reading. I'm not sure what you are going through exactly, but I had a long period where I was asking the same questions. I had A LOT of crappy things happen to me when I was just like 7 or 8 and from then on, it got worse. I had only a few friends and they talked bad about me behind my back, made fun of me, and things like that. I was going through something and I had no one there for me. I thought, "How could God do this to me? I was such a good kid. Why did I deserve this?" and those sorts of things.
It worsened and got worse for the next 8 years. It was like a huge battle. By then, I stopped everything with God. I never went to church, stopped asking for things, and even to the point where I cursed him. I pretty much had the same thoughts as you.
I got down a really bad path and started doing drugs and doing things I never even knew were possible. It got really bad to the point where I had stolen A LOT of money from a best friend of mine and I was sentenced to almost 2 years of prison. My parents found a place (Like a rehab) for me to go to instead of prison.
After being there for almost 6 months, I decided to give God one more chance. I started reading the Bible and praying and stuff. Once I had started doing these things, my life got a lot better. I still had some struggles, but my life was getting better. I got out after only one year. I restarted my life and met my husband (which I never thought I would ever even get married). I found out after a LONG 10 years why I was to be out through all of this crap. It was really worth it in the end.

Why should you trust God? No matter what He puts you through, He does love you and has a plan for you. There is a reason for what is happening in your life. Just wait and you will eventually see that. When times are hard, ask Him to help you and He will as long as you KNOW He will. When times are better, thank Him. Just keep thinking positively and trying! You can get through it. I promise. I honestly hope things get better for you!

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Answer 3

There is a way that seems right to a man and this way ends in death. Imagine for a moment you could have everything in the world that you wanted or felt you needed....I'm sure there are people who actualy love there lives that will lose them one day...what benefits a man if he gains the world and loses his soul...Is it more important to you the here and now or the eternity which is to come? There are very hard things in every mans life that can either cause seperation or draw a person closer to god...the parable about seed that falls to the ground is an example of this....when the word falls upon hard ground it dies the ground represents the hearts of men sometimes tough situations break up the ground to make it more accepting to the things of God this actualy that seems like a curse can actualy be a blessing that which leads to your everlasting life as oposed to a happy life here in the world.

Answer 4

First, let me say that I feel very sorry for whatever you are going through, and I'm going to pray for you.

I don't know if I personally can give you any advice, since I haven't experienced what you are going through. However, these people might:

Philip Yancey, "Where Is God When it Hurts?" Zondervan, 2001.

C. S. Lewis, "A Grief Observed." Harper San Francisco, 1960, 2001.

Peter Kreeft, "Making Sense Out of Suffering". Servant Books, 1986.

Os Guinness, "Long Journey Home: A Guide to Your Search for the Meaning of Life." Doubleday/Waterbrook, 2001.

I've heard Mr Guinness speak. He is very good.

Answer 5

I do not understand why you think you will never see the future, kids and marriage and whatnot but I do understand that it can be hard to trust in God when things are not going well, or loved ones die or anything like that, but take a look at Job. Now that man lost his wife, his kids, his house his land and everything else important or dear to him all in like a 30 min span seemingly. After that he himself was plagued with diseases and sores and anything else you could imagine but in the midst of it all he still gave glory to God and trusted and believed that it was all a part of God's plan. Maybe this will be your testimony and your story could help others either come to know Christ or see how we, his children, can still feel God's love even in the midst of our worse moments. Anything else you need, holla at me. Most of all pray and read the bible and just talk to God about whats going on. do not allow other to bring you down or anything like that either. Just trust and believe in the word of God and the promises he has given to you until they come to pass.

Answer 6

Your story, as presented, doesn't make sense. It sounds incomplete. How do you know that you will never be able to get married? How do you know that you will always be in debt?

As to how you can trust Him, it's like when Jesus asked his disciples if they were going to leave Him too and they said "Where will we go? You are the only one who has the words of life".

Many Christians have testimonies of trials. Look at Helen Keller. She lived her whole life as a deaf and blind person but she glorified God and now she will spend all eternity with Him in paradise.

Answer 7

Reading what you wrote, I am reminded of the story of Job. Job was a righteous man, he gave glory to God in everything. What happened to Job? Satan took everything from him. But not once did he curse God. He knew God was with him, and that God loved him. Job had nothing but to trust the Lord. And how did God repay him? God blessed Job with more than he ever had.
God does not hate you, that is just what Satan wants you to think. I know it's hard, but just keep trusting in God and believing in His promises. For He who promised is faithful.

Answer 8

You are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy with your beliefs that things will never change for you.

You can create miracles in your life through prayer. The trick is, it must be a prayer of thanks, not prayers of supplication. Know in your heart that God has answered your prayers even before you have asked. Thank God for what it is you want by thanking God as if it already exists. You must have unabiding faith in God. In doubting, you doubt God's love for you, you doubt God's omnipotence. There is nothing that God cannot do, be or have. It's worth a try anyway.

Answer 9

look, God sometimes puts us in hard problems, so we ourselves can put our trust in Him, the Bible says that God wont ever get in a problem that is to hard to solve, maybe Hes trying to get you in His way, or trying to show you that what ur doing is wrong, or whatever ,what can I know about ur life, but put all ur trust in Him and u will see how things change, try to be like Him, pray and read His Word, maybe He is trying to let you see that u cant do anything by yourself, seek Him first and His righteousness, and the other things will be added later!! Hope u can find the answer God has 4 you!

Answer 10

I can't imagine what you must be going through, but I have had my low points in life too. I can't say not to worry or that everything will be okay, but I believe that God always has a plan. In those times, I make it a point to look for the good things that wouldn't have happened in a different situation. You aren't always going to see His plan, but He will always be with you. I pray that He gives you the strength to make it through those challenges. God bless.