I REALLY REALLY need your help?

Question

Well, I was in love with a guy for more than a year, but I've found out he doesn't feel that way towards me. Now I've met another guy and we're going out. However, I'm not sure how I feel towards him cause he likes me much more than I like him. Also, I heard a song that remimnded me of the guy I used to like and it brought tears to my eyes. Now I'm not sure what I should do. Shoudl I break up with him because I know he's not "the one" or should i try to be happy?

Answer 1

Sounds like you should back off of both guys right now and take some time for yourself to find out what you want. You are not over the other guy yet so you shouldnt be seeing anyone else. That never works out. Take some time and see where that gets ya

Answer 2

Here are some tips. The 411.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition
or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly
happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't
stay because you think "it will get better."
You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not
better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...
compromise is two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complementary... not supplementary.
Dating is fun... even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where You are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house.
Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other women and men (just so they know)... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her/his choices, and another woman prepare, and a man aware.
Being too nice will get you nowhere.

Answer 3

Ultimately honey, love is a choice. Don't be so serious. How old are you? You have your whole life ahead of you. Happiness is also a choice. You will always wonder if you did the right thing no matter what decision you make. Don't stay with someone you don't love, but don't break up with him becuz he loves you. Tell him how you feel. Conversation is key. If you can't talk to him then you've no business being together. It's not fair to the other person to lead them on either. I wish the answer to your question was simple. I'm afraid you'll always hear a song that reminds you of someone or something in the past. Try to leave your past where it belongs. Behind you. Keep looking ahead and you'll do alright. Go ahead and send me a msg if you want. I'd love to talk to you. *HUGS* Whatever you do make sure it's what you really feel is right. Do what your gut tells you, it won't lead you wrong.

Answer 4

The guy you liked doesn't like you back. You have a guy who likes you a lot and treats you well. But you're pissy because you don't like the guy who actually likes you and instead want the guy who doesn't like you.

Umm...

that's jacked.

Turn off the radio. Turn off the emo. If it would truly make you feel better, then dump the guy. And at least be honest enough with him so he doesn't think things were going so well and you dumped him out of the blue for no reason.

But don't be thinking that by dumping him this other guy is suddenly going to magically appear and suddenly be passionately in love with you. You'll be alone and wondering how things got so messed up.

Answer 5

well...this is a tricky one......you say that he didn't feel the same way towards you last year so maybe things have changed. But i doubt it. But just to be sure i would ask the guy who didn't like you if his feelings have changed at all, and if he says no then you just need to get over him because I doubt his feelings will ever change. If the guy you are going out with now loves you then I wouldn't break up with him just because you thought of your last love. But if he doesn't make you happy anymore then definatly break up with him. So good luck!

Answer 6

reminds me of the song "thats the way it goes'' by jodee messina.

Everybody wants an easy ride
On the merry-go-round that we call life
Take your drive on cruise control
Then you wait to find out it's a winding road
I had my dreams in view
When the money ran out and the engine blew

Hung my tears out to dry
Then my dreams fell out of that clear blue sky
And I, I was walkin' the clouds
Feelin' so safe and sound
Then somethin' else knocks me down

Well, Oh, That's the way it is
You gotta roll with the punches
That's the way it goes
You gotta bend when the wind blows
You live you learn
You crash and burn
It's hit or miss
And that's the way it is

One fine day you wake up
Completely, hoplessly fallen in love
He's just what you're lookin' for
The only problem is, that the man's not sure
Another guy'll give you everything

The only problem is you don't feel a thing
Well I know from expirence
Nothin's ever gonna make perfect sense
Oh, one day you get what you want
But it's not what you think
Then you get what you need

Well, Oh, That's the way it is
You gotta roll with the punches
That's the way it goes
You gotta bend when the wind blows
You live you learn
You crash and burn
It's hit or miss
And that's the way it is

Yeah they say your soul is growin'
But sometimes I feel like throwin' somethin'

Well, Oh, That's the way it is
You gotta roll with the punches
That's the way it goes
You gotta bend when the wind blows
Well, That's the way it is
You gotta roll with the punches
That's the way it goes
You gotta bend when the wind blows
You live you learn
You crash and burn
It's hit or miss
And that's the way it is

Answer 7

Well it's time to forget about the past and move forward give the guy that you are with now a chance you don't know if he's the one if you don't try it but if he doesn't work out then there will be others there will be someone out there that will be the one for you but you first have to forget about your past because if you don't you will never find that one person that will really make you happy.

Answer 8

I'm sorry for your hurt, that sucks. But most people have been where you are now. I've had my heart broken more than once, and it always sucks. It feels like it will never get better, but just remember that it does. Don't ever compromise your happiness in life. You deseve better, and there is someone out there who will love you for you. But you'll never find them if you remain stuck where your at! Get away from both guys. Remain busy in your life with friends and family. Go out to a lot of movies, volunteer, play sports, get involved in school/social activiies, etc. The busier you are, the more you will have oppurtunity to meet other people. Surround yourself with good people in your life. Ones that make you laugh, and love you for who you are, not who you have to pretend to be.
Trust me, you'll meet other people in your life. In fact, you will meet many, many other guys. Know what you want in a man, and do not compromise. Your worth more than that! Good luck!

Answer 9

I feel for you, Hon. I met a guy four years ago who I fell head over heels for but he didn't feel that way about me. I've gone out with many guys since then but nothing clicks with them and I end it. I know I'm comparing all of them to HIM but don't know how to stop. It comes down to this: would you rather love someone more than they love you (which can be miserable) or have someone love you more than you love them (which can be kind of suffocating). Now me...I'm in my 40's and don't feel I have much time to find another love of my life...but if you're young, then I would break up with this guy and wait for another guy who you can love like the first guy but who will love you back. Good luck!

Answer 10

Well now you no how the other guy felt does you old boy friend want you back be care you might end up with no one at all. Always be kind and follow your heart where love is concerned. You need to always try to be happy but you need to know this we do not have the power to make anyone else happy or do they have the power to make us happy, that is just a illusion we have to be happy with our selves before we can be happy with any one else.