if i decided to marry some one whom is not my religion am i automatically going to hell? I highly doubt it. I mean its not like i married the person because of religion..so why would you try to persuade them into being something that they are not? not all unequally yoked marriages fail. Its all about the people and rather they want to make it work or not. They have to respect certain things. right? or am i wrong......i just wanna know what yall think...and please no talken about other religions (christianity is dumb, muslims are stupid ext.) or i will report your answer.
2006-07-01 14:35:03 · 18 answers · asked by Aubri's Mommie 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You got some really good answers here so I'm not going to be redundant. You're not going to go to hell ...but you can have a little heaven on earth if you can hold hands and pray together.
2006-07-01 14:53:16 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you believe is a core value in your life and it affects so much of what you do and the decisions you make. When in "love" young people for the most part will put this away to put on as good a "face" as they can to impress the one they have fallen in love with. Trouble is after a short time of being married the core values take over again and when you have 2 people with 2 different sets of values that are rooted deep in ones being (it doesn't get much deeper that religion) it creates conflict that is very hard and often impossible to resolve. This doesn't even take into consideration how it will affect children. Kids who grow up in a divided home often just don't know what to believe or just don't really believe anything.
Give it some thought. You want your marriage to be something special and it should and can be.
2006-07-01 22:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by beek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As was already stated, marriage is difficult at best..
A christian that obeys the Lord is not going to marry a non Christian. If you are a christian and believe the Bible that Jesus is the only way to get to heaven. How will you raise your kids.. Will you say that there are two paths to heaven and just choose either. When the bible says one path..
If your religion isn't any more important that that maybe you should quit it.. If you don't believe that what you have is correct you should change..
A true Christian follows the teachings of the Bible. Other decisions lead to a multitude of problems. It is not so much about the marriage, but doing the will of God here on earth..
2006-07-01 21:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by † PRAY † 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a Christian perspective, unequally yoked means that a Christian (believer) should not marry a non-Christian (unbeliever). It doesn't mean you can't. If the foundation of who you are, your faith, is not shared by your spouse, how will you survive times of struggle or stay grounded when times are good? But, if you do marry someone who doesn't share your beliefs and they are not antagonistic then you might as well stay together.
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Satan? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols?..." 2 Corinthians 6:14-16a
Hope that helps.... God Bless
2006-07-01 21:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by idog96 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
respect is important, and probably makes a difference when you come from different faith backgrounds. If you guys decide to have kids, you can raise them to think that all religions are important, but that is not really giving them anything to believe in or answering any questions for them, which is why people turn to religions in the first place. To not have your faith supported by both parents is tough on kids. You can take them to church on your own, but it's a mixed message with dad sitting at home. If your faith is important enough to you that you want to be able to pass it on, it will be really tough being unequally yoked. Not to mention you could use support from someone who's likeminded spiritually for when difficult things happen in your life.
2006-07-01 21:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a Christian, but I guess what it's trying to say is that if you and your partner do not share similar goals, dreams, outlooks on life, then it's going to be a very tough journey for the two of you. Marriage is about love, but that love changes over time, and when you're sharing everything with that person over the course of time, the only thing that makes it bearable is the friendship that you share, and the feeling that you are with someone who wants the same things as you, and this makes the journey a lot easier.
If your christian faith is extremely important to you, then I would suggest that you find someone with the same passion for this faith.
It's a horrible feeling when after you're married and the passion has dissipated, and you get ready for church on a Sunday morning and he refuses to go with you because it's not his passion. You can't share anything with him about this aspect of your life, because he just does not understand. It's then you realize you're in a living hell.
2006-07-01 21:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by Optimistic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Baptist married to a Catholic. I do not believe I will be going to hell. I also do not believe a Jewish person married to a Christian person will go to hell either. I do think they have to work harder at keeping their marriage together because the difference in their relious beliefs. But if they are willing to work at then they can certainly make it work. The children from this union will have a choice to make when they come of age. The choice of Mom's faith or Dad's. But if Mom and Dad educate them in both faiths as the grow up, they will be able to an inform decision.
2006-07-01 21:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 Cor. 7:14,15
For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. [15] But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
2 Cor. 6:14
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
Picture two oxen tied to the same yoke. One wants to do the work of Jesus, the other opposes Jesus. The struggle in the yoke begins.
It's a warning why you shouldn't. If you both live in peace, it is good.
2006-07-01 21:43:04 · answer #8 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh please don't threaten me...hehe...j/k
I've heard this over and over, and I agree...funny, though. I was thinking about something similar here lately, mainly about music, rock and roll...and country..etc... I figure that in a marriage, it's tough sometimes when a partner doesn't like the same things..there has to be some give there, and the more give there is, the more stress there is.
So with my 'great' mind considering relationships (and I'm being highly sarcastic here), I believe that the more a couple have in common, the less chance of friction and hurt feelings.
2006-07-01 21:39:49 · answer #9 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you poor naive soul. Don't you know how difficult it is to have a successful marriage. Do you know how many issues and problems even the best of marriages have? Different religious beliefs only creates problems. Sure those problems can be overcome as anything is possible, but is just adds more fuel to the fire.
Love is not enough. If you think that it is, you are sorely mistaken. If either one of the two cares about their particular religion, its going to create trouble. However, if they both have a belief that all beliefs are fine, then that's cool.
2006-07-01 21:42:18 · answer #10 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋