can you tell if your teenage daughter has had sex before? can it be possible 4 a doctor to tell by the vagina?

Answer 1

yep

Answer 2

You should ask her. Its best to be upfront and honest about it even if she's uncomfortable. Just tell her that you're there for her if she needs to talk about sex. Come at it with an open mind and listen to how she views it then as a parent tell her your concerns about sex.

I read a website and it says a doctor can not tell if anyone has had sex.

"Can my doctor tell I have had sex?
Dear Beth,
About a year ago, I had unprotected sex. I didn't get pregnant or anything, and I haven't done anything since then. My mom says that I need to go to the gynocologist soon, and I'm afraid that he will be able to tell that I've had sex. Would he be able to tell if I have? And if he can, is there a certain amount of time that I can wait before he won't be able to tell?
thank you,
Britt
Dear Britt,

To put your mind at ease, no one but you will know you have had sex. A doctor cannot tell you have had sex from an examination. Many people think a doctor can tell if a girl has had sex if her hymen, the thin skin that covers the vaginal opening, is broken. First of all many girls have their hymens "broken" other ways--riding horses, bikes, etc. Secondly, if not already "broken" the hymen does not always tear the first time a girl has sex.

However, it is to your advantage to tell the gynecologist that you have had sex. What you say is between you and your doctor. He/she should know so he/she can answer questions you have. Before your exam, talk with the doctor to make sure you feel comfortable with him/her, then when you have your exam it will just be you, the doc, and a nurse in the room. Your doctor is there to help you- not to tell your mother you have had sex or make any judgments.

Hope this helps."

"Can a doctor tell during your pelvic exam if you've had sex?
-- Krista

Your doctor will not be able to tell if you're sexually active just from a pelvic exam. But you should consider sharing the information anyway."

Answer 3

The Hymen is not a good way to tell if a woman is a virgin. Hymens can be broken in many ways, such as Horseback riding, playing physically taxing sports, and etc. Also some women are born without them naturally.

A Doctor can not reveal your daughter's sexual status to you without her permission. Almost all states have laws where if the girl does not want the parents to know anything about her sexual health/life, then that is within her rights.

Why don't you sit down with your daughter and talk about any concerns you may have with her. Do not raise your voice, if she does. Keep it calm and show that you are worried about her..

Answer 4

I'm assuming you're the mother of this child. If you're the teenage daughter writing because you're concerned that your parents will find out...you shouldn't be doing it until you're an adult and your parents wouldn't have any objection, right?

Yes, a gynecologist would be able to examine your daughter and tell you if her hymen has been broken. However, this would be extremely embarrassing for your daughter and would likely damage any relationship you have with her. Far better to teach her the ABC's of sex and educate her about her rights and responsibilities toward her body. Teen pregnancy isn't pretty and will be a lifelong responsibility--one she's likely very unprepared for.

Answer 5

sorry not to tell you how to deal with you kids but it's just not establishing a good relationship by going behind her back just to see if she's had sex. Just ask her. You can't be so distant to her that you can't ask her a simple question. The best way to ask would prolly be while you two(just you two) are watching tv or making supper. Just make it a real simple question like as if you were asking her if she feed the dog today. It would decrease her chances of lying because she'll prolly think that you would not explode on her. And you prolly shouldn't ......talking is great some parents don't know how to though. But now you do. Best Wishes

Answer 6

what is with all these yes answers? The answer is no. There are some happily married women out there with active sex lives with their husbands who still have an intact hymen. I am also one of the many women out there who had their hymen torn by being a tomboy and riding horses,being in gymnastics and dance. Sorry parent the only way you'll find out is if she tells you herself. Also remember and over strict and over barring parent may keep their kid in line but once they get out on their own they are unequipped to handle life.

Answer 7

OH GOD. It's people like you who alert me to the fact that sexism is alive and kicking. No, it's not really possible because A) most girls' hymens are not these impenetrable fortresses of chastity until they lose their virginity. You can damage it from anything ranging from masturbation to horseback riding to rough housing with siblings. It's not proof of anything. B) In some cases the hymen is still perfectly in tact after sexual intercourse. I think it's offensive and hilarious how guys think women have literal "cherries" to "pop" just because a penis MUST have some kind of everlasting impression, like the MIGHTY tool it is. Please, get your head out of the Middle Ages. It would be embarrassing and terrible to make your daughter submit to a silly exam like this. Why don't you try having a mature discussion with her? If she choses to divulge her sexual history, so be it. If not, tough luck. She's coming of age and it's her body. The only thing you can do is try to educate her, which seems laughable in light of what you're asking here, and hope she makes responsible choices.

*Edit* Sandra - your mother tried it on you with an egg? WTF? Tried what? An egg?

Answer 8

You know, accusing your daughter of having sex and forcing her to let you or doctor inspect or touch her vagina for any reason other than health purposes will make your daughter feel violated. It's none of your business really. Your business is making sure that she is prepared to have sex safely by educating her, but her vagina is her own, leave her alone you freak.

Answer 9

No I really don't think so. Not unless you take her to the Dr. right after she has had sex. You can and should however try to talk to your daughter about it. A number of organizations can help you talk to your child about sex. Supply her with information and support.

Answer 10

If you tell a doctor to check your daughter's vagina to see if she's a virgin, the doctor'll tell you that s/he can't do that.
A virgin can have an intact hymen, a very loose hymen due to sports/exercise, or even be born with no hymen at all.
You're gonna have to ask her if you wanna know.

Answer 11

The only way to know is to ask her. She knows.

A doctor CAN tell you if she has any STDs and that would likely mean she has had sex.

If you think she is sexually active it is REALLY important to take her to a really GOOD OB/GYN and get her a check-up, anyway.

Sexually active teens need to visit their doctors every 6 months and follow the advice given them, there.

Find one she can REALLY talk with !!!!!! She needs to feel comfortable about asking for information and willing to LISTEN to health-care provider.