Has any other women successfully gotten over their low self esteem?

Question

Its not like I am even considered ugly, a lot of guys tend to like me and/or ask me out, but I still can't quit "beating" myself up over little things, and I get real negative towards myself.
What gives?
Any tips or words of wisdom????? lol

Answer 1

Hello there:

Many women, not just you, tend to be apologetic in nature out of a psychological perspective. With no sexist remarks involved or intended, women are often more emotional than men.

What you lack is confidence (Oh dear, I sound like one of the scammers on TV), something which can be built by yourself.

1. Pursue an excercise plan. Even if you don't think you're "Fat", excercising improves physical fitness, mental awareness, and self consciousness. By pursuing athletics, a sense of accomplishment can be found within yourself.

2. Find friends who are positive in nature. Being around people who have a good sense of humour lightens up the mood around everyone, but also encourages laughter, which is important ;)

3. Devote yourself to good scheduling habits every single day. This includes when you eat, how much you sleep, and how much time you spend devoted to yourself. Having an organized day allows you to be more relaxed, and feel less hectic in day to day work.

4. Do some volunteer work, especially with the ill, or elderly. Not to sound cruel, but sometimes, you compare yourself with them, and you realize how lucky and fortunate you really can be!

There are other ways of course. But I hope these help. :)

Answer 2

Start telling yourself positive things. Don't put yourself down in your head, hang out with positive people. If you want, go see a counselor about it and they can help you overcome things. If you really want to change and work to become better, you can do it. I overcame so much with the help of a psychologist that I thought I would never be able to overcome so yes, it is possible. You are a unique and wonderful person, don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. It's great that your realize that there is a problem, that is the first step, now go out there and do something about it. It might be hard but it will be worth it. Good luck to you hun!

Answer 3

It took me a while but i finally got over mine. I've never been big headed, I'm very down to earth and i used to do some modeling, but my ex-husband tore my self esteem down so bad that i actually doubted myself. If i gained any weight, i would punish myself by jogging until i was dehydrated and damn near falling out. Every baby that i had as soon as i would get out of the hospital, i would start working out. You see i thought it was something wrong with me when all along it was him. So i started to write poetry, doing open mike nights at a few clubs and surrounding myself with positive people and eventually with prayer and finding things that i enjoyed to do, i learned to love me. With all my faults and flaws. Start yourself a journal. When you feel those negative feelings creeping in, write what you feel. I bet a few years later, you'll look back at the way you felt then and laugh. Writing poetry also helps.

Answer 4

For some reason, it seems to be a trait amoung young women to have low self esteem. Find something you really like to do that you find you excell at. It will help make you feel a lot better about yourself and your skills.

Answer 5

When I was in high school I had such low self esteem.That I quit trying to do anything to improve it.It wasn't until a very good friend made me talk to people that i began to see that I was worth something .I thank god every day .Please don't wait to long before you do something about this because as time goes by it could develop into such a bigger deal.Go out approach people get a makeover do something to make yourself feel good about yourself.GOOD LUCK.

Answer 6

you need people around you that are supportive and understanding. everybody is just as important as any person, therefore you are important and never let anyone take that away from you. i the people in your life now are not supportive and understanding maybe you should step back from them and find "real" friends, one real friend is better than 20 fake friends. you do have things worth hearing so speak up and let your voice be heard and be proud of what you say no matter what. good luck and remember you are someone special too.

Answer 7

I am 15 and I struggle with it. Think of it as. God didn't make me ugly. He aint make me for nothing so I have to worth being confident. There's nothing else I can tell you cuz I struggle with it to. I just have a Godly father who helps me when I a m down.

Answer 8

You need to join the US Armed Forces. This will get your mind off your problems. You will feel good about yourself, AND you will get to kill people.