me and when i call her she will come but then she will leave and go to someone else i love her but i dont think she love me WHY?
2006-07-01 13:24:45 · 15 answers · asked by Mercedes C 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
If you just got your dog, it takes anywhere from a few days to a couple weeks to fully earn your dogs respect and trust, depending on your dogs personality and previous experience. The first thing I would do whether your dog is new or not, is take her to the vet to make sure she is healthy. Anyone can act strangely when not feeling well. Never force a shy dog to come to you. Always make yourself lower to the ground, or sit in a chair, use a quiet, high-pitched mouse voice, do not look or face directly at her, and use extra yummy treats to lure her to you. Do this in a quiet area in your house where she won't get spooked or distracted. Some dogs associate leashes with fun walks, so it may help to put a leash on her, but you don't want to freak her out too much by leaning over her and grabbing her collar. Read your dog- the instant she shows fear or nervousness, back off and be slower with her. If you know of anything she likes to do, like playing ball or squeeky toys or sitting on laps, or certain foods, us them as a reward for being brave and coming to you. Never ever use physical punishment or harsh words with a shy dog. Even asking a command in too stern a voice or looking at her in a slightly angry way may make her too scared or nervous to listen. Only praise braveness and obedience and ignore shyness and anything you percieve as disobedience. Always praise your dog for coming to you, NEVER call her to you and then scold her or do something she doesn't like- even if she was just barking her head off or chasing the cat, when she finally obeys and comes to you, set your anger aside and praise her like she just rescued Timmy from a raging river! Begin obedience training, which strengthens human/dog bonds and increases your dogs self esteem. Consult a behaviorist and your vet to help you. Read as much as you can about dog body language, learning theory, and pack heirarchy!
2006-07-01 13:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably not as used to you yet. Make yourself change to see what kind of dog it's personality is. It could be used to be lonely so that may be it. Dogs are like people. I asked you to come here right, but i am a stranger so it won't be the best thing to do right?>? Your dog just might need training and even more love. Maybe get toys that it may enjoy. Also get another dog doesn't matter gender. Maybe it needs a Friend the same species. Dog should get along GREAT. They are always welcoming. Get a playful dog. The dog also could be suffering from a head disease. Check the vet for any other advice. Hope I helped!!! :)
2006-07-01 20:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have trust issues. If she has had poor experiences in the past (at the pet store, in a previous home, etc), then she will need time to warm up to you. Also, if anyone has abused her then she will not want to be close to that person. (I'm not accusing you of this, just a suggestion.)
Work with her slowly and pet her and reward her for coming when you call and she will gradually warm up to you. Just be patient. Dogs are some of the most loyal pets. My dog came from another home and it took him 2 months to warm up to me. Now he won't leave my side (literally)!
2006-07-01 20:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by Carissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that she doesnt love you. She is scared. Dogs dont think like humans. She doesnt see you coming and think, oh, good, he will help me. They are just scared and run from everything. My dog has asthma attacks everynow and then. She has a hard time getting her breath and she gets frantic and runs under things. I have to drag her out and rub her neck and sooth her and it calms down. Then she acts like nothing happened. Thats just how they are. Don't take it personally.
2006-07-01 21:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dog was not very affectionate when she was younger, but as she got older and/or more tolerate of our affection, she became more affectionate with us. There are still times she doesn't want to be bothered and will ignore us or walk away, but there are also times when she wants attention and comes to us. I'm sure dogs don't understand petting and kisses the way humans do. I think what brought my dog around was our discovery that she likes her rump scratched.
2006-07-01 20:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by aurelie_moineau 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be patient with your dog I do not know the back ground on your dog but if she is a rescue you do not know what may have happened to her . talk to her in a pleasent tone of voice never hit your dog use treats to get her to come to you and when she does use praise and the food reward. she maybe just shy by nature and will come around if you are a fair leader
2006-07-01 20:29:10 · answer #6 · answered by aussie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to gain your dog's trust is to sit patiently. Call her and just hold out your hand and let her sniff. It may take a while but eventually she will allow you to pet her without being nervous and then she'll be sure to give you all her love and devotion.
2006-07-01 20:52:02 · answer #7 · answered by Marissa K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dogs often will have a 'master' and they will often choose it themselves. In my family, my sheltie sees my husband as 'master' (what does she know??). I come in second, if he's around.
Make feeding her your job, and yours alone. If you are the only one to feed her, you will soon be her fav person. Give her the kibble piece by piece, and talk nicely to her while doing it. Give her lots of pets and praise while feeding. This is how I taught our pup not to be timid around my youngest daughter. She comes right away when my daughter calls now, because she just might get something to eat!
2006-07-01 21:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by Kelley J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come to her and call her name softly. Lure her with treats and when she comes close enough, carefully grab her and start petting her. She will soon love you!
2006-07-08 17:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by kimzadvice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You maybe forcing to much attention on her Resistance,even in humans,is the response.Try ignoring her and praise and reward her when she makes the move to you...
2006-07-01 20:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋