Christians parents....what would you do if you found out your teen is sexually active?

Question

What would your response be? Insist on abstinence? Condoms? Birth control? Disown them? Make them get married right away?

Answer 1

If a teen is already sexually active, then why make it even worse by making them get married? Think of the vows. If you think they aren't ready for sex, what makes you think they could even REMOTELY be ready for marriage?

You can't insist on abstinence. It doesn't work and would probably send them further off the edge.

Don't disown them. How Christian is that? ARe we disowned by our FATHER because of our mistakes?

I would probably have them talk to people who were sexually active in their teens. Not someone who is going to scare them with lies or go whacky on them. Just someone to sit down and tell them how it affects the rest of your life. Not that you sit around and think about it every hour of every day, but it's something you will regret for the rest of your life. And that one minute of sexual satisfaction can bring them a death sentence or bring an unwanted pregnancy. And it can shape their life because of what others think of them.

I will say that I think getting the person on Birth Control Pills and supplying condoms (or where to get them) is smart. I can't imagine "punishing" my children for teen sex by upping the chances that they could catch a killer disease.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I would be a realist! What good comes of disowning your child...if you were really a Christian that option would be out of the question! Making them get married right away could be perceived as a forced marriage or even worse a violation of their civil liberties. How do you think you would feel if your parents found out you were sexual active and made you get married? Once again what good comes from that? Abstinence seems to be a lost cause if they are already active...Sorry. Condoms and birth control might seem a little hard to grasp at the moment, but I think your teen might be a little bit better served if they knew how to protect themselves. I am not saying that Pre-marital sex is a good thing, but I am saying that communication is a must. I tried the who abstain bit with my first daughter, I refused to recognize the reality of what was going on; I found condoms and became livid. I punished her for having condoms...that was not a good idea. She was protecting her self and i told her it was bad. Three months later she had an STD because I told her that God forbid the use of condoms. Be a realist tell your teen what they need to know and make sure they are safe.

PS Those who think True Christians don't have sex before marriage are ignorant. Jesus loves everyone.
Rebellion is a part of life. We rebel against God but he still let us make our won choices!

Answer 3

I'd put them on birth control after making sure they know all about the other risks. It's the right thing to do, & if they choose not to follow abstinence till their wedding day, then that's their choice. Disowning them is far too drastic & too chaotic of a decision to make. I hope you don't make that choice.

Answer 4

I would sit down with them and explain the the facts of having sex early. Also explain to them that if they were to become pregnant at a very young age it could change their life forever. I would put them on Birth control. But also explain to them that having sex with more then one person is not safe. Have them read all about the different disease there are out there they can catch. I hope this helps!! Good Luck!!

Answer 5

If I had brought my children up according to the word of God, they Christian gospel then they would be pure until wed.
This would not happen if the children were really Born again Christians, they would behave themselves, but if the parents were mearly church goers and not real Christians, anything can happen.
Children need discipline in all areas of life and this begins from the crib.

Answer 6

Talk to them. Ask him/her what they wanted to do. Remind them of their beliefs and sin as well as risks and let them make their own choice. I would also let them know that if they ever became pregnant they would not have the opportunity to go to school and that I would not raise their child. If they continued to be sexually active I would insist that I didn't condone that behavior in my home. I would encourage them to be righteous and I would do all the above with lots of LOVE and patience.... I am not my child's judge.

Answer 7

In that project, i could be pleased with it, as long as she replaced into secure and happy in her relationship. i would not inevitably be mushy with the assumption of my 17 year previous napping with an older boy, yet i would not end her. that's her existence inspite of each and every thing, and if she is being in charge... nicely this is all i will extremely ask for. ideally, my daughter will wait till she is in a place to emotionally and financially help a baby till now she has intercourse, via fact I discovered from adventure that regardless of secure practices, you may get pregnant. luckily, i replaced into already married when I have been given pregnant unplanned. At 17, her training, social existence, and destiny occupation could be dramatically hindered. All i visit do is inspire waiting till marriage or a minimum of a dependable relationship with financial stability to have intercourse, yet i visit be certain to permit my daughter start administration and condoms if she desires or needs them. i will swallow my satisfaction long adequate to permit my daughter to be secure, extremely than being a 'Christian' mom and turning a blind eye to the reality i understand she could have intercourse besides.

Answer 8

Educate them.

here is a significant difference between being sexually intimate with a person of the opposite sex and being emotionally close platonic friends. God created sexual intimacy between a husband and a wife as a means of strengthening the human bond of two people into one. Premarital or extramarital sex fractures this bond .

http://www.iamnext.com/sexandlove/newsex.html

Answer 9

Well.....if your teen is already sexually active it would be really bad to insist on abstinence....then they're just going to start lying to you.

Answer 10

john s you are obviously not a parent and if you were then i think if you have that attitude then your children will leave you at the earliest oppotunity we were all young once and i am afraid alot of parents have a very short memory of just what they used to get up to without thier parents knowledge. i have always talked to my girls and listerned given advise when they want it and not to judge. every one makes mistakes and lets hope we learn by them.