my parents have no idea who i realy am. i've tride to kill myself, done drugs, and am bi. why do i get the impression that they don't even care about me or what i do?
2006-07-01 13:23:38 · 15 answers · asked by Zashak 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i've bean high in front of their faces. how come they don't try to stop me? i definitly can't.
2006-07-01 13:29:31 · update #1
Because some kids keep them in the "dark" about stuff they feel their parents may not approve of...and would rather not get a lecture about it!!! It sounds as if both your parents' work???do they? And another possibility is they are "letting you just be" who you are, regardless!!! I mean i honestly don't know,,,just am guessing by the little bit you had told me...Good luck though.
2006-07-01 13:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by sweet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately parents are only human. During the time in my life when I was doing bad things my parents were going through a divorce. My mom says if they were she would have been there for me and i wouldn't have done the things I did. Honestly i don't think that would have changed much of anything. The fact is they are wrapped up in their lives and don't take much time to really know you as you get older, mostly because it takes more effort. We aren't the cute little kid running home to tell mom about the new things we did at school today.
2006-07-01 20:30:21 · answer #2 · answered by her_ziggyness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they are drug ignorant. lots of parents are. Try to start up a serious conversation with them or just your mom or just dad. Tell them you want to talk about some issues you are facing. If they still don't respond or care find a teacher or uncle or aunt or another adult you respect and talk to them. Just because parents flunk the test doesnt mean you should give up. Keep looking.
2006-07-01 21:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you want your parents to know you when you don't really know who you are yourself. Drugs are just a way to hide. Killing yourself definitely isn't the answer. Try sitting down and just talking to your parents while you are sober. If worse comes to worse, talk to a good preacher. They listen and can help you establish communications with your folks. Not to mention they can't tell anyone else nd they are free. God Bless.
2006-07-01 20:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to some one who does care like a teacher or counselor if your parents don't care right now then it seems you are more of an adult then they are. so go get help else where. but please get help you have a long life to live so enjoy it while it last and don't kill yourself! and don't do drugs that only clouds your mind to the real you. and hopefully when you are clean and are thinking straight your parents may see you not as their failure but as someone to be proud of..
2006-07-01 21:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by montanamom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes they're busy sorting out their own messes; and it's better to ignore ur child's pleas for attention. Maybe they think it's like when u were little and threw a temper tantrum...if they ignored it long enough, u'd stop on ur own. Not many parents know their kids, and when they want to know them, it's kinda too late. Just remember that they're human too, and they probably do want to get to know u, but ur probably in ur own world...and they don't know how to travel there. Let 'em in, see how they like it, and help u to improve it.
2006-07-01 21:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first thought is their love for you instills fear of losing you,over the courage to save you.I'm 52 years old and I could have written your bio alot of years ago. My mother has passed on, and my father is 82 now. My mother and I never had to verbalize my fears and delemas because of my life choices, my father and I never have, nor will...but because when I took the time to stop feeling sorry for myself and realize the depth of their love and compassion, unspoken...I gained the strength and courage to love and save myself for all the right reasons.I hope you can draw on the same from yours. God Speed....
2006-07-01 21:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by moodyblu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to them about why you've done these things. They may be in denial about their child acting this way, and are not sure where they went wrong. Talk to them, and see if you can find common ground. Sounds like you want their attention.
2006-07-01 20:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by Tyrtyl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they're in denial. Why don't you talk to them about your problems? if they know you have a drug problem and are suicidal and you really want help, I am sure they would not turn you away.
2006-07-07 17:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by Samba Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like it is al their fault, really...how much of an honest effort have you made to be good to your parents? Or are you one of those pouty loser types who thinks the world owes you?
2006-07-01 20:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by Michael R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋