I'm 18 and I want to move to out because of really bad family problems but I have some questions...?

Question

I'm 18 and my dad and I don't get along it's been this way for as long as I can remember I really want out of the house trust me I have my reasons.. I was going to go to community college this year but my friend in Florida offered me a place to stay (her house) rent free, her family invited me to live there. I'd get a job and save money for college. I live in Illinois

I just graduated and I don't wanna wait to go to college is there anything I can do? I want to graduate on time as well. not in 6-7 years. How long do I have to be a resident in FL to attend community college there? My parents weren't going to pay for school anyways so I figure I might as well move out and be happy.

I'd love to prove them wrong. My dad never believes in me. I'm visiting FL in august and i'm trying to decide if I should come back or not.

I know where i'd be happier, Florida. But as for money and debt i'm scared. Financially i'd be better at home.

Serious answers only, please...

Also my boyfriend lives down there. He's 18 and going to UCF. I wouldn't be totally alone down there. I'd have my best friend, her family, and my boyfriend...

Answer 1

Chel,

If you could tell me more specifically about where you would be living, what college degree you would be interested in and what kind of work experience you have then I would be happy to help you find as much information as possible. I'm a single father of two sons that both live with me in the Orlando area and my youngest is about to start college this fall. I have been assisting him with his FAFSA (Financial Aid) and school admission so I have a pretty good understanding and knowledge of the system right now. Feel free to either use mail or message me if you should decide you want my help.

Answer 2

I guess if you really trust your friend and her family and think you all would get along well living together; it would be the best thing. But, don't leave your home on bad terms just in-case you need to go back. I think you would have to be a resident for about a year to establish residency in this state. I think for proof of residency you would need your driver's license and to have been employed for a while and be a registered voter etc. You can look at the residency requirements at the colleges website. Remember even if you start college late you can catch up to your school mates by attending summer school full time because most probably will skip a summer or two. It will be hard at first to make it on your own, but I'm sure that you will succeed with whatever choice you make. Good Luck!!

Answer 3

Pray and ask all the Christians you know to pray for you. Go to church and get prayer. Almost every 18 year old is ready to leave home, but at least you are being realistic about money and debt. I personally think that if you are in the SAME city as your boyfriend and best friend and you know they are willing and able to help you financially until you find a job and you can figure a way to talk to your parents to not offend them about it, you should move, but if you will not or are not sure you will have any financial support I suggest that you don't move out yet because Florida is a hard place to get a job (atleast one that pays all of your bills), and if you move out you may find yourself in the situation that you have to move back home for financial reasons and your father or both parents may not let you live back with them. Where does that leave you?

Answer 4

When i was 18 i didnt get along with my parents either but as you get older relationships will change. Just because your taking some time off doesnt mean your not graduating on time, Most people take 5 years to graduate nowadays anyway them even go back to school. Dont rush inoto school unless you know what you wanna do b/c that will change a lot as you grow, taking a year off sometimes helps you figure out what you like then you just dont go jump into a major you dont like or cant do anything with,,, I think moving out from your parents is a good think it helps people grow up and find out more about themselves, but moving into another family is not always a good choice, maybe stay there a bit until you can get a job and live on your own but dont rely on them, Do it!! move out see whats out there and if your not happy at home then whats the worst that can happen huh?

Answer 5

18? sounds like you already got things figured out. why stay home when your not happy? and Florida if you get something that says you moved there (rent or some kinda of bill or job stub) you can go to college in the fall. go be happy...and you said you are scared because of money and debt well you also said you have family and good friends there to help and you also said you will get a job? so what are you waiting for? financially you said you would be better at home but unhappy right? you are 18 you have to do what you think is best for you. first check into the colleges in Florida and see what they have to offer and maybe you can go early (month or so) to get a job and get things going?

Answer 6

Just remember Chels, if you want to go to college badly enough, then you'l find the money to do it. If it means spending the rest of your life paying off student loans, if that's the only option, then so be it.

You can't afford an apartment on your own in Chicago so anyone who suggested that, it's a good idea but not financially possible.

Also, a lot of these peopled on't know what's truly going on, that it's more than you not getting along with your dad-it's emotional abuse. He's pulled some things on you, I won't name the incident, that could have had him Baker acted as well. You need to get away from that.

I love you dearly. And I will do anythign to help you out. :)

Answer 7

It sounds as if you have thought this over carefully and made a good plan to (1) be safe (living with a friend's family), (2) be responsible (making a plan to work and go to community college), and (3) live on your own (at 18 you are legally an adult). Now, make one more plan. Be sure to have enough cash to catch a bus, train or plane home again, if you find things are worse in Florida than they were at home. You do not want to be forced to stay some place you are unhappy or with somebody you no longer trust, if things aren't as good as they currently seem. And you don't want to move in with your boyfriend just because your other living conditions are miserable. Weigh your options carefully, and then go for it! Good luck!

Answer 8

go to florida! follow your heart and gut instinct and everything will fall into place. you don't have to be a resident to go to commuity college there...it just might be a little more expensive for a non-resident, BUT you can definitely apply for financial aid and fee waivers and that will probably help you out a LOT, especially if you are no longer living with your parents then their income won't affect how much financial aid you will get. its pretty easy to get financial aid if there is need, and the local community college will be more than happy to help you find a way to go to school and answer any questions you have. you could also do work study where you get a job on campus and they work around your school schedule, and part of what you make goes to tuition and the other part goes in your pocket! the best of luck to you...

Answer 9

When you get to Florida, pay a visit to the college. Ask questions and they will be able to answer your questions. Look for a job while you're there too. With someone offering to house you for free, take them up on that offer. Everyone had debts, some people have big debts, some people have small debts. Don't let debts and fear stop you from living your life and doing what's best for you.

Answer 10

here's what I try when I can't make a decision. First, make an instant decision in your head one morning. Continue your thought process with that information as the basis. See if you feel at peace about the decision. If so, you've made the right one. If not, you are still free to choose the other. (i.e. you've decided to move. go on from there with your day. do the things you normally do. see how you feel after a while(maybe half a day or maybe even a whole day)if you feel an inner peace that eventually everything will turn out ok, then go with that decision.) hope this helps, if I didn't make it clear enough, email me for a clearer explanation. good luck on your difficult decision!