Help Me please?

Question

Ok so I live with my mother (father passed away years ago) I am 19 now and she does not understand the need for me too start college and focus on that and my grades etc..all she talks about is how I need a job etc too pay for food and help with bills since I am an adult now. I can't seem too make her understand that I am still kinda like a kid..19 is not a real adult..it's legally an adult..but at 19 your still kinda immature and need too focus on school..What should I do?!

Answer 1

its hard on ur mom without her husband not being around.. Be more supportive and see what you can do about it .. Maybe you can still apply for college and get a job at the college. It wont hurt to try if u are being creative.. spare time for classes, study time and work .. that sall i can say .. My fiance went throught this situation in going to school, work and study. he made it through from a 4 year college in BA degree in Engineering. I was very proud of him .. Even he had the time for me at the same time while doing all these reponisbilities. I am very impressed wth him .. So he was being creative at that time . so YOU CAN .. Best wishes in ur life ..

Answer 2

I'm also 19, I work full time, and go to school full time. I also have 2 children, a husband, and I take care of my 3 brothers. It's good to have at least a part time job, you SHOULD help pay the bills if you're living there, you are an adult, and in the last 19 years you should've learned some resposibility. You can't use immaturity as an excuse, you're mature enough to know that you need to focus on school and your grades so you're not really all that immature are you? Get a job at McDonald's or something, simple easy work that can work around any schedule!

Answer 3

Do both.....find a part time job to help your mother and yourself but do not stop school if you have the opportunity to go. Finish school and get a really good job then the both of you will not have this to worry about so much.

I understand you are 19, I have had some kind of paying job since I was 13 because my parents could not afford to give me what I wanted, so I started out working for people I knew for cash and haven't stopped since. Work a bit and study hard, it will pay off for you in the end.

Answer 4

Believe it or not, I'm in a similar situation, only my father left as soon as I was born.
If you go to college now, you can get a better job in the future, instead of just getting a crappy one now.
Of course I realize the dilemma you're in now, so with that said, you should only get a job now if you absolutely can't afford college (even the community ones).
Try first to get all the financial aid and scholarships you can from as many colleges as possible by taking entrance exams and filing your FAFSA as early as possible for the next semester.
Next, if you get enough aid and scholarships that loans will cover, take out as many loans as possible.
Last, if you can't find a way to pay the tuition, get 2 part-time jobs or 1 full-time job, and save as much of it as possible for college, giving the rest to your mom to use.
When you finally save up enough to pay the tuition of the most affordable school you've seen, refile your FAFSA and apply to that school, regardless of how old you are, since you're never too old for an education.
Hope this helps, and God bless you.

Answer 5

YOu are an adult and if you plan on making it anywhere then you need to take resposibility! she will understand that school is important when she has some help. i feel if you are grown and able, then you can help provide some of the food that you want. and 19 is not a kid.? if you were to get arrested tell the police that you are a kid and they will slap you right into adult prison. help out your mom honey its nothing wrong with a parttime job unless you have imental issues and stress will aggitate those mental issues

Answer 6

you can get student loans and grants to help you pay your way thru college. Unfortunately it probably won't cover it all. That means you have to work in order to cover the rest, unless your parents put money aside for your schooling.

It is unfair for you to leave the responsibility of your support on your mother.

My daughter had a baby when she was 16. She went to school till summer. In the summer she got a job because she felt it was wrong for me to have the financial responsibilities of her baby. She kept her job and went back to school in the fall.She graduated from high school in the 11th grade at the age of 17. From there she obtained a full time job and at 18 went to college. She then took care of a baby, went to college and held a full time job.

Whether you want to believe it or not you are an adult and responsible for yourself. You are kind of immature I grant you. BUT you will not gain any maturity by leaving your mother support you. Work is one of the ways to grow in maturity.

Your mother is right you need a job.
You are right in wanting to further your education. You just need to do it and work.

Answer 7

You need to do what is best for you.

Try explaining to her that sacrifice now means greater rewards later (flip burgers now for $6/hour, or go to college and make $30/hr in four years).

You must be an only child?

Maybe go to college locally first, like community college, then off to finish at a university.

If still a problem, you might just have to bite the bullet and move out.

Answer 8

You should go to college and get a job so you can not have to listen to you mom and when you get a good job give $50 of you check so you can help her with the bills and food and you want have to worry about you for food and shelter because you would be in a dorm.So i think you try to go to college but f did not get a scholarship to save your money for college with your job,but still give you mom $50.

Answer 9

Life is hard nothing is easy come on is only you and your mum she being looking after you all those years so the only thing she is helping her for the time being after then you can always do what ever you want that way she is happy nd you will be too get a part time job and go to scholl as well look after yourself and your mum and be good.

Answer 10

Well, if you are going to school Full time in the day, get you a part time night job, or something on the weekends. It is helpful in giving you a taste of the real world.