MY GIRLFRIENDS DAUGHTER WAS IN P.R. ,ON VACATION WITH GRANDMOTHER. SEEMS LIKE SHE GOT AWAY FROM THE GRANDMOTHER WITH AN EXCUSE THAT SHE WAS GOIN OUT WITH HER COUSINE AND THE RESULTS ENDED UP IN HER LOSING HER VERGINITY AT TH E AGE OF ONLY TWELVE. WHAT CAN MY GIRLFRIEND DO ?, BESIDES ARRESTING THE GUY WHO DID IT SINCE HE WAS 21YRS.OLD. HOW CAN SHE NOW TALK TO HER DAUGHTER SO THIS WON'T HAPPEN AGAIN, I MEAN SO SHE WON'T WANT TO EXPERIENCE SEX AGAIN?.
2006-07-01 11:43:05 · 7 answers · asked by rican_nene2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Have the guy arrested, for God's Sake!!! He was responsible for this, not the 12 yr. old child. Mom needs to take her to a counselor a the health department to talk with her about sex and birth control and diseases. This girl is just a baby. If you and mom don't try to protect her, you're gonna have trouble on your hands...spelled b-a-b-i-e-s. GO TO THE POLICE NOW AND CHARGE THIS GUY WITH RAPE! HE MIGHT BE RAPING ANOTHER INNOCENT GIRL RIGHT NOW!
2006-07-01 11:52:44 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, that girl needs a guidance counselor, very bad. Then, you need to tell her that next time she could get pregnant and be stuck with a baby at the age of thirteen all the way up to THE REST OF HER LIFE. What was she thinking? You also need to tell her that she can get a sexually transmitted disease that could be fatal and kill her. And if she gets aids, it's completely over for her. And if she replies with the fact that protection could prevent all that, tell her that not all condoms are made correctly, and that some are defected with holes big enough for the slightest drops of sperm that are enough to get her pregnant or sick. Then, all at the same time, show her pictures of people on the interney who didn't listen and have those diseases like syphillis, herpes, and gonorhea. Then, at the same time as that, rent out an electrical baby , you know, the ones that cry like real babies, are sensitive like real babies, and need to be fed and tended to like real babies. And the best part? They WILL cry in the middle of the night and wake you straight up, just like a real baby. It sounds harsh, especially for a twelve year old, I know, but, you have to be stern. Sex is a very serious issue, and she should not be experiencing it at this point in her life. She's too young. But seriously, you HAVE TO use this strategy, and when you do, I bet you any knid of money that she will NOT want to have sex again until she's about 20 or 21 years old, easily.
2006-07-01 12:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by Brittanie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine at 12 years old the experience probably wasn't that great anyway. She needs to educate her child about disease and pregnancy. She also needs to get her into counseling as soon as possible. She wants her daughter to one day have a satisfying sex life with a loving partner, so she needs to be careful not to turn sex into something ugly or shameful, while at the same time, making her realize that at her age, and with no love involved, sex is not the beautiful thing it should be.
2006-07-01 11:49:03 · answer #3 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, trying to approach the problem from that angle is probably going to not be in the best interest of the child. Try educating the child from the standpoint of protection from childbirth and std's and in the case of 12 years old the importance of sex and the disasters of not seeing all of the pitfalls. Try not to scare her from something that is naturally hereditary but protect her by making her aware of all of the bad things and how to avoid them in going forward to protect her. We should never be afraid or made to be afraid of natural things. That within itself is un-natural and damaging. Let her know that you are not passing judgment for what she did but protecting her future. She will be more receptive and open to compassion and understanding than she will be to horror stories and browbeating. I promise that. Treat her like her maturity allows and answer her questions honestly. Seek the assistance of a professional if there are any doubts or assistance is needed with the education. It is her future that is important and she deserves to be armed with every thing she can to help make it the best. I wish I had had only half of that in my life. Protect our young, make them smarter that we are and give them the tools we did not have. The best preventative is knowledge not naiveness.
2006-07-01 11:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by andyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk- the sooner the better...
2006-07-01 11:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry, she is a little flusy now you cant stop her
2006-07-01 11:49:25 · answer #6 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋