My little brother has bipolar disorder and another disorder that messes up his perception of reality as compared to everyone elses. He is very mean and hateful to me and my mother, but not to my father or brothers. He does things that i get in trouble for, but he gets way with them, because "he can't help it". I can't say anything to my parents, because they say that it is his disorder that makes him act the way he does, but he is on medicines to combat all the diorders that he has. He can be a perfect angel when my parents are around, or when he gets his way, but when he doesn't, you had better look out. is there anything i can do to be able to deal with it? I am at my wits end and i don't know how much longer i can handle this. The only thing i can do at the moment to keep my sanity is keep reminding myself that i can move out in a year and a half. but it is getting to the point where that doesn't work anymore. Help please!!
2006-07-01 11:42:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unfortunately, there isn't alot to be done.. Mainly because it sounds like your little brother has learned to capitalize on his deficiencies. People with mental disorders generally aren't able to switch them on and off whenever they want. Being able to act like a complete angel to your parents indicates that there is conscious control to his actions. Not saying that he doesn't have issues... But it may not be the same issues that everybody seems to think he has.
As it sounds, there isn't much you can do. Your parents and those responsible have simply accepted the fact that this is how he is going to act. They don't want to improve him.. Or even believe that he can be improved.
The best advice I can give is simple... Talk with your mother and father. Alone... Lay out your problems honestly and bluntly. Let them know how you feel and what your problem is. If they use the old fallback of 'that's just the way he is,' tell them that that is an excuse for inaction. We all have choices in the way we act, even those that are mentally ill. The decision is harder for them, yes... But they can work on it. And, finally, if they don't listen even then... Move out. Now. They can't exactly force you to stay, even though you're technically under the legal age for emancipation. And it may take that threat to show them that there is truly cause for concern.
2006-07-01 11:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by Molecularfallout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've just got to keep it together. You're the sane one, remember? Your parents are doing a disservice to your brother by enablimng his behavior. He is working them like a tool and they've taken the bait! You should suggest your parents take parenting classes to learn how to deal with your brother more effectively. If not classes, then counseling. In reality what they are doing is creating a monster. Your brother knows how to fool your parents. The parents cater to him like he's a little prince. When your brother gets out into the real world everybody isn't going to treat him like your parents do and he's probably gonna get his a$$ kicked a few times. Since your parents have failed to raise him properly this will be their fault. But as for your sanity - stay away from your family as much as possible and keep it together. As soon as you turn 18, bail out and don't look back! Take this time to get a job and start saving up money for rent and stuff, cuz you'll need it.
2006-07-07 17:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by Samba Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is because they use his disorder as a crutch...my daughter has bi polar and so does her father...but no once did I ever blame anything on her condition...your parents probaly spoil him a lil because he has those disorders, but they will pay for it later in life. Sit your parents down and have a honest chat with them, maybe there is a grandparent or aunt or uncle you could live with if it becomes that unbearable. But the talk may help some to open thier eyes
2006-07-01 18:47:49 · answer #3 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep your sanity. Your brother has a problem that he can't control and if he could he probably would. Just remember we don't always live forever. You never know when he could leave you, keep your peace with him and just try to live with his disorder. Find a place that is willing to hire people with disorders and understands them. Just teach your brother he isn't always going to get what he wants and he should live with it. He won't get far in life if everyone just gives him what he wants!!! G/l!!!
2006-07-01 18:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by jennjenn09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was in your position i would try to find a relative to take you in if it's that bad. Other than that I don't know.
2006-07-01 18:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by southern babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him commited
2006-07-01 19:40:20 · answer #6 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋