A lot of times I feel that my pastor does not care for me, but he preaches that we should show love to each other. He also shows a that he has clicks in the church,but he says that we are family. My family and I feel left out. We feel tha we are not good enough.
2006-07-01 11:40:16 · 19 answers · asked by purpleone726 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
A good pastor will love all his congregation equally. He will not betary confidentialities, and he will not pick favorites. He may use life's experience in his messages, but he should steer clear of using any instances that are negative about his present congregation. It's poor integrity.
A good church will feel like a trusted family. Where everyones knows everyone else and loves them even with their faults and failures. Pastor are human and do make mistakes. Sometimes you can help them by telling thing how you honestly feel. If you do this and they attack you... get out of that church and find a real loving shepherd whose life matches that of the Good Shepherd who loves his sheep.
2006-07-01 11:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by rejoiceinthelord 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Find a church with a pastor that preaches from the bible. EVERY SERMON. If he does not do this, he's not a good pastor anyway. I hear most sermons anymore are about like going to a lifestyle changing seminar anyway. Find a good Bible believing pastor, and you will never feel the way you feel right now. You'll feel at home. My pastor is a retired farmer, He doesn't care how much money you have, from which side of the tracks you're from, what color you are, or who you associate with. He just wants you to be there to hear the word of Jesus Christ every Sunday. No predjudice in that man.
2006-07-01 12:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by mitch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Christian Pastor and if this is actually happening get out of this Church and find another.
Any Pastor that revels what has been told to him by a member of the congregation has violated the trust that you should be able to have in him that those things are kept private.
I also do not agree with and do not allow cliques to form in the Church, they are disruptive and wrong.
2006-07-01 11:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by drg5609 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there could be many reasons for his attitude towards you and your family. he is only human and like most humans he will gravitate to the people he will gain the most from. maybe he feels you do not give enough money to the church. money can buy alot of friends!!! maybe you are not very attractive. people tend to want to be around attractive people. maybe he doesn't think you are good enough for his church! my point is he is a human, no smarter or better than you. just because he is a man of god and plays the role does not make him more than what he is....just a man. if you had a friend that treated you in this manner you would find better friends. so do what any rational thinking person would do....find a better friend!
2006-07-01 12:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by rdhjr1966 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find yourself a church home where you love to worship God. Do not be just a church consumer. I mean, give your time, service, help, money contributions to your church. Make it stronger by your work.
Sometimes it might feel like the minister is talking about your business. Make sure that your minister is keeping the Bible as the center of his teachings. Some ministers are afraid to teach God's word, because they do not want to make anybody mad.
If minister runs a popularity contest at the church, then I am not sure if the word of God is really taught. My minister is not afraid to tell what God wants us to do. If you feel uncomfortable, you might have some issues with God, not with minister.
Our church attendance is several thousand people every week, so it could leave some people feeling left out. But our church asks us to form small groups and that way to get to know people. And you can change the group if you do not feel like fitting in. No matter what is the size of the church, you only get to know maybe 40 people. Be active. God loves you. You just need to find your knit, the group that you love to belong. Start your own. I belong to one group, that we only have 5 people. And then I sometimes take part in study groups at our church premises, and there we normally have 10 -20 people. Seek God with your all heart. People can disappoint you, but God never fails you. God loves you, and wants you to worship him. There is not such a thing like not good enough for God. We are all sinners, and we would fall short from God's glory. We are saved only by the grace and mercy of our God. That goes for church leaders too. Church is hospital for sinners. Do not let anybody to fell you as lesser person. God made you for His purpose. Just seek him and he will reveal himself to you. God bless!
2006-07-01 11:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by SeeTheLight 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I understand you correctly - then the hurt feelings is not something your pastor intended. The devil is using your emotions as he does many people. Satan loves it when he can steer a person around with their emotions.
I am not saying you are a selfish, self centered person - but I am saying its sounds like the way you are acting - and Satan is at the heart of it manipulating you like a cheap fiddle.
Do not let old Slew-Foot get the better of you. Stand up and be God's family (assuming you are saved - if not, its time to get saved).
2006-07-01 11:54:34 · answer #6 · answered by Victor ious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All churches have people who do more work around the church than others, ones who can and will do anything at any time. Instead of feeling like you are not part of it, why not be in the click.
2006-07-01 11:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should try another, less fundamentalist church where there is a minister trained in religious theology and counselling rather than a pastor who probably has no or very little religious training at all.
2006-07-01 11:45:34 · answer #8 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your pastor too? Mine's like that. Everybody's pastor's like that. Sorry kiddo, that how they are, they LOVE to discuss their congregation's personal business in the pulpit.
2006-07-01 11:44:44 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably just dont feel inferior -- you probably are inferior.
Why don't you go have a talk with the pastor..make an appointment and then you might have a right to come crying here!
2006-07-01 11:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by whynotaskdon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋