2006-07-01 11:38:00 · 37 answers · asked by yolisZ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
men tend to be both scared of and bewildered by little babies, he's probably afraid he'll break her, doesn't know how to interact with her - just give him time, he'll get more comfortable as he gets to know her and as she grows up! Good luck!
2006-07-01 11:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally believe that a certain chemical change takes place during a woman's pregnancy not only in woman but also the man. While you might feel the need to nurse and protect her, he might be feeling a bit of uncertainty and maybe even depressed at the new idea of being dad. Though he saw you pregnant the reality just kicked in. This will go away in time once both people's hormones come to a good balance and harmony.
2006-07-01 13:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by sarena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he's afraid he will drop her or not know what to do if she cries. Give him some tips on being with the baby. Try not to be critical of his way of holding her, or at least correct him tactfully.
It could be that he resents being expected to be a daddy. If he wasn't willing to make a commitment to marriage, then maybe fatherhood wasn't part of his plan either.
It could be that he's just immature and self-centered. That might change over time.
He may not have bonded yet with the baby like you have. When she smiles, tell him the baby likes him. Point out features of the baby that remind you of him. Praise him everytime he interacts with the baby so it's a positive experience.
Try to observe his behavior and maybe ask him some questions without putting him on the spot too much. Maybe it can be improved.
2006-07-01 11:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by Ginger/Virginia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course, there is every chance this may work out with the new lady. And you will both be able to support each other during the weeks ahead . But you need to approach this triangle sensibly. End your present relationship straight away. Do it gently but firmly. Despite your girlfriends threats to kill herself. You are not responsibleand it is emotional blackmail she uses to hold onto you. You could preempt the breakup by just having a word with her family, or her best friend. So that they are aware of her fragile state. But you must not weaken or give in. You are obviously very unhappy. And sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. Take your time when you are finally free and on your own. Reevaluate your life, your needs, your emotional state. Take a breather. Give yourself the time and space to regain your own health and personal well being. You can support and continue to see your new lady. But keep it simple. And have some fun together as a couple. You will both have some emotional baggage so work through it before you decide on something more serious together. I hope it works out for you both. Just grit your teeth for the turbulence that may lay ahead for you both. I suspect both of the other partners in this are not going to make this very easy for either of you. But always remain in control, focused, and even tempered. And take one day at a time. Goodluck Chris.
2016-03-27 00:29:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Newborns are intimidating. The are completely helpless, self centred and can complain loudly when they are uncomfortable or frustrated. Is he scared? Do you live together? Has he been around other babies? Try getting him to spend time with her when you nearby to "coach positively". Say things like "she likes that, or I found that this might work.." Everyone has had to learn to handle the little darlins. He may be the best dad when she is older. Communication in a non threatening way is your best way to find out how he feels. It doesn't mean he doesn't love her if he is unfamiliar with babies and scared of them. Good Luck!
2006-07-01 12:03:28 · answer #5 · answered by Kim S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really ask him. Most men aren't ready to have children and won't spend much time with their children. Some guys just don't know what to di with a baby. Talk to him and find out what his problem is. He should try to bond with your daughter.
2006-07-01 11:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
either he is afriad it will take away his fun time or he does not know what or how to take care of a baby. He may not care at all ask him if he wont really answer and walks off he just don't care..
A good father would spend and love he daughter soon as shes borned...because as time goes on those memories will be lost if none are made...I have mine from taking care of our daughter and son feeding them...changing them...cleaning them up..and playing with them as they grow...
2006-07-01 13:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on age and maturity. If you're both kids, then he's naturally freaked out because he's not ready to be a father. If you're adults, than it can be anything from a good guy who doesn't feel ready to be a dad to a deadbeat jerk who wanted the fun but not the consequences.
2006-07-01 11:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by O M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have asked guys this question before and they responded by saying that they feel like they can't do what they usually do and that they rather wait until the child is older so that the child is old enough to do some things for themselves.
2006-07-02 09:28:49 · answer #9 · answered by blackangelsp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he's not married to you, he can always "question" whether or not he is the real father.
He may not understand how a baby commands a great deal of time from everyone and resents that.
He's your partner; you have to educate him in what being a parent is all about.
2006-07-01 11:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on you boyfriends age. most younger men cannot get into cuddleling and playing with infants. when the child get to be around 9 months or so most men find thats a better age to play with children, because around that age the babies start to walk, try to talk, follow, etc.
2006-07-01 11:45:21 · answer #11 · answered by susta1951 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋