All I hear about is how men are jerks, and only notice other women other than the one they're supposed to be caring about, and all they want out of women is sex, and don't really care. Is this true? And after two people get married, love flies out the door, and all they ever do is argue. So is there really such a thing as love??? I am a bitter cynic...
2006-07-01 11:29:59 · 18 answers · asked by Erica 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, all men are not dogs. Women just seem to be attracted to the ones that are. Secondly, when engaging in relationships, most people make the mistake of becoming lovers first rather than taking the time to get to know one another and developing a friendship. Sex is good but sex alone is not powerful enough to sustain a long lasting and meaningful relationship. I don't know whether or not you are a christian but I will say that it also helps to invite Christ into your home and your relationship. Marriage is hard work but what I found out is that the effort and work two people put into it is what they will get out. One year ago I asked myself this very same question, then shortly after I was fortunate enough to meet my wife who is absolutely wonderful and I love her with all of my heart. For years I searched and waited for the right woman to come along. Believe it or not there are also a lot of woman out there who are jerks as well. I am going to let you in on a little secret of how I found her. Are you ready? Hold on to your hat. I prayed. When you do finally find the right person, and I believe you will, you will find out that love is a beautiful thing. I will be praying for you. This is the Caveman signing off and putting down his club. Peace.
2006-07-01 11:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by cave man 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You have all the reason in the world to fall in love... it's what makes us happy. Granted most guys are jerks and do all the things that you hear about, but there are many men out there that really, truly care and are worth falling in love with. And yes there really is such a thing as love... I couldn't be any more in love than I am right now and I'm married. Love does not fly out the door when you get married, it grows stronger everyday. Falling in love is one of the greatest feelings in the world and don't let anybody talk you out of doing it. We all have had our hearts broken, and all that does is make us stronger to find a greater love.
2006-07-01 11:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by schl1276 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I got married about 14 years ago
We don't have sex much about once every two month
We argue a lots mostly about him not wanting to work
He had an affair but that after we serpared and he took the
kids for two month and I don't know where they was this was
punishment because I don't do as he say he don't want the first child,I'm called too fat or too skinny depend on the moment
WELL YESS an Relationship is hell after an couple full in love and then the problem start especially if he have other kids from another women
And you feel so sorry for yourself
I thank God that he is the only one I can turn to including my mother
LOVE STINK
watch out it start out sweet but after some years bitterness
2006-07-01 11:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by Linda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my Fella and although we are not married we have been together and in love for 6 years and 5 months. Don't believe that all men are jerks because, I know I am not the only one in the world who has a really good guy. Not all of them just want to have sex. And as far as marriage, my Dad and Step mom have been married 29 years and they are truely happy. Yes there is such thing as love, first you have to love yourself and then you can love others and they can love you back. Get to know yourself, accomplish many goals and then you will meet a decent man who will love you. Good luck!
2006-07-01 11:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by themisslita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all men are jerks but most of them are.. what i do is wait ( 6 - 8 weeks) to have sex in my relationships and it filters out most of the jerks. Because jerks have issues with making dates worth the time and energy for them, generally speaking. Never underestimate the power of having your friends, they are your eyes and ears when you are absent. Just to let you know the odds are against love... but i am only 23, these are just things i picked up on having gone out on a lot of dates
2006-07-01 12:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by some 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are your parents like? Lots of guys are dumb and are like that but those stories are told from people who rushed into love or thought it was love when actually they only wanted attention. Just take your time and when you meet the right person, you'll see that love does exist. Plus getting married would be a good financial decision if you're a girl.
2006-07-01 11:35:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married 5 years and we don't fight all the time, or ever hardly. We like each other a lot. People do the fighting but I don't know why they bother. It would suck to live like that, don't you think?
Most guys ARE jerks though. Sorry to break it to ya. Goodluck out there.
2006-07-01 11:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all men are jerks. and not all relationships have that happen. Yes, there is such a thing as love.
2006-07-01 11:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by Rob K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs love, Not all men are bad or cheat as not women are bad....You have to judge them yourself, And let me tell you when you marry it does not all end....Love gets stronger...and yes you will argue, but its normal to argue with your spouse...a couple who never argues is one who is not happy. Give it a chance...if you dont you may never know happiness
2006-07-01 11:37:24 · answer #9 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's nice to meet a fellow cynic, think I'll hang around to see what others have to say about marriage.
2006-07-01 11:33:30 · answer #10 · answered by cricket 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋