What do you think about teen pregnancy and parenting?

Question

I am a teen mother writing a paper for my college English class about the contriverasial issues of teen pregnancy and parenting. I understand that people have different point of views about the situation. If you could tell me if you agree or disagree and why that would be great.

Answer 1

I have NOTHING against teen pregnancy and parenting because I am a teen mother. I had my first child one month and 9 days before I graduated from high school ( I didn't quit). There are people who look down their noses at us but I didn't let that get me down, even after I had a second child. It's extremely hard to raise children these days and it is even harder when you have to do it alone but my children are very smart children, I wouldn't trade them for ANYTHING in the whole world. Although it was and still is very hard I continued my education and got an Associate's. Now that I'm sure I can do it, I plan on going back to get a 4 yr degree or better so that I may better provide for my children. True, some people have something to say about teen pregnancy and teen parenting but I used my mistakes to better myself, but have you noticed that most of the people that have something to say have no children or aren't doing anything with the ones they have??? Good Luck on your paper, and keep ya head up!!!

Answer 2

People mature at different ages, there are some 16 year olds that I have met, that are far more mature than 30 year olds. My problem with teen pregnancies and parenting, is that they rarely occur in marriage, and result in single-parent families, which is so hard on the children and the parent. I commend teenagers who responsibly handle pregnancies which are result of their stupidity. I know a fifteen year old who stood up to her parents, and told them that she would never kill her child, even though she had be sexually assaulted. This is an adult decision, and she acted in an adult manner. Teens are not brainless, and they have consciences, they just need to use them, and not hurt their children, or their families. In short teen pregnancies outside of wedlock ought to be avoided, but on the other hand teens who save their children, and their families by responsible decisions are to be commended.

Answer 3

I am the adult daughter of teen parents. My parents were 18 when they had me. They had a fabulous support system with my Mom's family and I feel I had a great childhood. They are outstanding parents, despite the fact they are divorced. They took turns going to night school and we (there are 4 of us) were taught family values and morals. Some people make fabulous parents, not matter how old they are.
Teen fathers, should be more encouraged to stick by and support their children. I do not think it is a case of agree/disagree. Unplanned children have happened since the beginning of time. It is what you do with those children. Raise them right. If you do not have the stamina or support, find someone who can.
I wish you well with your paper and I hope you have great support with your child.

Answer 4

I was a teen Mom, had my daughter at 17 years old. And while I wouldn't change it for the world now (age 32)...I would have back then. A teen parent just isn't emotionally/physically mature enough to have and raise a child. Sure, teens all have varying levels of maturity, but not as much as they would need to be a full time parent. It's harder and more taxing on your nerves then you expect or know. It seems easy enough at first, especially if you used to babysit and had no issues with dealing with babies. But multiply that by 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and it's a whole new game.

Answer 5

Having a child at any age is a LIFETIME committment. Children today don't understand the responsibilities that come with RAISING a child. I had my first child at 18 and it has been a HARD life. My second child was born when I was 21 and so my "BEST YEARS" were spent trying to raise kids instead of being one! I didn't know all about life like I thought I did, and I grew up with a single parent so I knew how hard it was, but it didn't stop me. When teenagers think they know everything there is nothing anyone can say or do to stop them. I think some serious investment should be put into TEACHING our children about the risks of have unprotected sex before marriage. Not only is there risk of pregnancy, but what about all of the STD's out there. I am apalled at the lack of sensibility in kids(myself included), but why would anyone want to have an abortion? Abortion is murder!!!!! Why murder an innocent child who is only here because of your lack of planning?! Anyone who thinks abortion is okay should do some researchon the topic. I did a paper in college about abortion too, and I found a website, but I wouldn't dare look at it again or give it out just because I don't want to promote it to sickos who would "get off" to it!!!

**NOTE: This post is not intended to offend anyone I am just venting my opinion.

Answer 6

I wasn't ready for children at 32, what teenager can handle that? If they are still in school, how do they study when you have a crying, hungry baby at three in the morning?
Where is the child during the day?
Who is raising the child - daycare? grandparent?
Even friends of mine now - in their mid 30's - are having kids and when they are six weeks old, sticking them in daycare for 8-10 hours a day. Why have a child that someone else will raise? you miss everything!

I feel for teens that are raising children. What kind of life is that for a child -
I am not for abortion - that's too easy. If you are going to mess around, you need to be mature enough to suffer any consequences. Abortion, morning after pill, you're still killing a baby.

My suggestion for any teen that has become pregnant - go ahead tell your family. They probably already know you have been messing around even though you think they don't. Fess up and give the baby you conceived a life - adoption. So many women are not able to conceive or carry a baby to term and would love to adopt. How sad it is that a young women so eager to get rid of a baby and then there is that someone else is dying to have one

Answer 7

Parenting is one of the hardest jobs in the world. I think teens should wait until they are older and more educated. They will have more maturity to handle small children (they can be emotionally draining!) and more money to support them. Also, teenage bodies are still growing. A pregnant woman needs extra nutrition because the baby pretty much takes it all from the mother's body. If the mother is not done growing, the baby will get all the nutrition and the mother's health will not be optimal.

Answer 8

I don't like the fact that it's happening so much in our society, but it does happen. It's sad that the teenager will no longer get to live their lives to the fullest, it's pretty hard to go out drinking on your 21st birthday when you have a child at home. Most teenagers are too immature and irresponsible to take care of a baby and the responsibility often falls upon their parents. Of course there are sometimes acceptions to the rule.

Answer 9

I gave my son up for adoption when I was 19 at birth and by choice.


He is in a great home with wonderful parents that I picked out. I see him once or twice a year. He knows I am his birthmother knows why I wanted to give him the best life possible.

I just wasn't ready and I was mature enough to know it.

Answer 10

Agree with teen pregnancy/parenting? I give people a lot of credit for owning up to their responsiblities but I wouldn't want girls (let's face it....guys usually run away) to think it is a viable choice. Having a child is a 20 year commitment. The only time you get for yourself is before marriage and after retirement. Why would I advocate for a young person to have a child when they probably can't afford to support themselves without an education!
I'll always remember what our health teacher said...."Use a condom...because, ladies, abortion or adoption, it's YOUR butt on an operating table."