2006-07-01 11:01:40 · 24 answers · asked by rhonda7a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i have experienced soo many downfalls in the last 2 years. i lost my 13 yr old daughter to suicide..and now my 17 yr old son wants to go to be with her to make sure she is ok. my hubby is barely holding it together and i have to be the one who does the earning, cooking, cleaning, running them to hospital appointments, pay the bills, i really dont mind it keeps me from thinking, but it is just soo hard..
2006-07-01 11:11:56 · update #1
in response to ATP we are all receiving counselling. it does help at the time. some days can be great, but most are not. my son sees a phschologist regulary as he has attempted 8 times to date. we have also formed a family support group in our area and meet regularly. sounds as if we should have moved on but we havent. its soo hard
2006-07-01 11:23:58 · update #2
I can tell you that whatever you are dealing will get easier with time. I also have been thru h_ell and back several times. I can offer this, it will get easier with time. If you want to make it thru you will. You have to hold you head up high and take baby steps at first. Then when you have reached a good time, you will be able to look back and be able to pat yourself on the back and see just how far you have become. Also think about what your daughter would want, would she want you all falling to pieces?
2006-07-01 11:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by Someonesmommy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe life gets hard when you need to learn a lesson - and maybe it's as simple as learning how to communicate with your family. But don't do this on your own. You need to get outside help and you should start with your doctor. You need to find someone to talk to who isn't part of your circle, who can give you objective advice on the best way forward. Your son needs counselling as his sister's death has obviously really affected him and he's at a very vulnerable age. Your husband has probably internalised his emotions and is withdrawing. You need to look after yourself first if you are going to be the backbone of the family....else it may just implode and I don't think you want this.
2006-07-01 11:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is the greatest lesson for which there is no text book. it is the lesson we all must learn. there will be things that are easier to learn than others, but in the end, the wisdom, the knowledge, the understanding of how all the things in our lives played out to bring us to this one particular point will become clear, and you can smile. smile for surviving the journey, no matter how hard. that's the objective survive the journey to see what life was really all about. the answers are coming, in time. survival of life is something we all must do.
2006-07-01 11:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by Trinity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becuase you see it hard. You have to see it easy, and live it to the fulIest. But remember if you dwell on all the bad things, then you will miss out on all the good things in life. Life is all about learning, so sometimes we gotta learn the hardway. If life wasn't full of challenges than what would life be? It would be easy to get through, and we would get everything we wanted. I wish you the best in life, but everything will be okay as long as you have God with you and you will get your reward in heaven! someday.
2006-07-01 11:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it is but just get the chance to be on your own relax and sometimes well all the time do something that makes you happy and if you want to be happy dont copy your friends dont talk on the phone alot be simple get a job and lead a good life it is so much better than to rather make your life in more pressure and waste your time
2006-07-01 11:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by 3333333 3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel sorry to hear that
if i knew why life was soooo hard i wud gladly help ya out of ya tight spot
praying 2 god almighty for help always works if u'r heart is in the right place.
god helped me out of a tight spot not a long while back because i kept prayin and prayin
and it worked
U GOTTA BE A BELIEVER!!!!!
2006-07-01 12:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by vetwannabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At times, it is soooooooooo hard. We all have problems to deal with, sometimes too many at once, or too massive to cope with by ourselves. I hope you have some good friends or family members. Talk to someone. Life can also be amazing at times. Best wishes.
2006-07-01 11:14:37 · answer #7 · answered by Bottle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go talk to your doctor, there are people out there who can help you cope with the tough hand life has dealt you, help your husband come to terms with your daughter & also councilling for your son to help him realise that there is nothing he can acheive by going the same way as your daughter. You won't get help unless you ask for it but you owe it to yourself to seek that help.
good luck
2006-07-01 11:18:39 · answer #8 · answered by ATP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee..... I'm so sorry........you'll probably need a intervention to help you cope with everything. First get help for your son and wife - immediately! Get with your physician he'll be able to referr you to someone who can help. Suicide - take it serious and remember - you can't be responsible for everyone's choices.
2006-07-01 11:21:06 · answer #9 · answered by Leila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life can be easy if you learn to enjoy it. Finding the right partner and friends you will find life a joy. Be happy!
2006-07-01 11:06:34 · answer #10 · answered by bigandneedy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋