2006-07-01 10:52:31 · 29 answers · asked by buffy Fan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's taken me 46 years to realise that looks aint everything :(
2006-07-06 01:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by kass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is human nature to be attracted by looks but if that is the only thing a person is gonna go by only, well that is on that person. I do go by looks but it is a combination of other things that goes along with it. personality, well groomed, have a job, have a car, no baby mamas, respectful, honest, caring, smart. too many to list. Just because you look good doesn't mean you are the nicest person. I found out that if a guy doesn't have great personality, it doesn't matter how the guy looks. A stink personalty makes any man unattractive to me. LOL
2006-07-01 11:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by Regina` P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first impression is LOOKS. That is how humans evolved. What else does anyone have to judge another person by, when the very first thing is looks.
Secondly, a good looking healthy person is a instinctive sign. A signal that the brain instantly determines that a possible partner will produce non-defective offspring.
It would appear to be "strange" if everyone was attracted to retard looking people. It would surely ensure defective offspring.
Again, this is all encoded in our genetics, many years of evolution, just to get where we are today.
2006-07-01 10:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its mainly because when you first meet someone, you don't know what their personality is like. You can't see their personality, but you can see their looks. Then you just hope for the best after that. It certainly does sound shallow... but thats just how it is.
I think people tend to go on personality when it is a friend, or a friend of a friend. Someone that you've had contact with and have hung out with before. Then maybe they fall in love with their personality even though initially they may not have been attracted to them before.
2006-07-01 10:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Initially because you can see what a person looks like before you know what they are like personally. However, each person has different priorities when choosing a partner:
1. Gender
2. Physical looks
3. Personality
4. Political/Financial power
5. Hobbies/Interests
6. Race
All people factor most of the above, sometimes not all, when choosing a partner. For a homosexual and heterosexual, gender is the top of the list. For a bisexual, gender is not top of the list.
2006-07-01 20:59:31 · answer #5 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we don't know each other's personality from the onset........we do know what each other looks like though. If the looks are unappealing, we'll probably not get close enough to find out about the personality either.
Good looks are a turn on for both genders......but if there is no personality, the looks wear thin in a hurry.
2006-07-01 10:55:49 · answer #6 · answered by purplewings123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't go purely on looks! you get false reading that way. plus it makes you look like a shallow person. the personality is most important to me, and so it should be to others. yes you cant go out with someone without finding them attractive! but as the saying goes beauty is in the eye of the beholder. and its true, if you truly cant see beneath the looks to get to there special side (personality) then they are not the rite person for you and the relationship would not work. people have a lot to learn that looks arnt everything and its the person in side that counts xXx
2006-07-01 11:11:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know why but i really hate it when people do that.
i mean if you marry someone who just looks good, a devorce would follow very soon. if people chose other people to be their life partners after looking at the person's personality and all that then relationships would be more stronger!
2006-07-01 10:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by rosepetal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most the guys who only goes for looks does...girls tend to go for the more person on the inside type of deal...but having looks also plays a big part....but see its good to find someone u are both physical and emotionally attracted to...its better for the both of u...
2006-07-01 11:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we go for what looks good to us first... but then if the personality isn't there, well the looks just aren't enough... at least they aren't for me... I have dated some really good looking men/boys, but it's the ones that weren't "all that" but had the great personality that were the best to be with, most memerable..looks aren't everything...
2006-07-01 10:59:54 · answer #10 · answered by lady T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because the first thing you see is the looks, & thats what attracts people. personality comes after. BUT looks doesnt mean they have personality...
2006-07-01 11:02:43 · answer #11 · answered by deviousgee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋