i can only wear skirts or dresses unless its for sports, i can't listen to music, they think that every boy i talk to is trying to get with me. Yes i know i'm going through that teenage stage, but omg i'm a good girl! believe it or not. i get A's and B's. i don't go smoking, partying, drugs, and i'm still a virgin. They want me to stay here at my house 24/7 and if i'm not at my house than i'm doing sports or i'm at church.. which i have to go to church. i have no other choice, they'll start bitching at me and lectering me about God. i love God.. no offense.. but i'm getting tired of it.. MY DAD even missed some of my basketball games cus he had to do something at church. And i'm a femenist so my dad still thinks i'm going to let a boy slap my ***.. omgsh... I study for test and everything.. I JUST WANT SOME TIME ON MY OWN.. i wanna go out with friends, i'm tired of only being here on the internet and making my *** hurt while sitting in church.. I'm sry if i sound bitchy or rude/
2006-07-01 10:49:51 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i'm only 14 years old, and i do believe in God. I mean my parents used to make me go to church like everysingle day. and the ppl at my church all they do is critize and look at me up and down.. i listen to all types of rock (emo; indie; yeah you get it)
I listen to Country/ rap/ latin.. i listen to everything.
my favourie color is black, lime green and hot pink. I pray every night and sometime b4 i eat
but i'm just so tired of my parents being so religiose,, My dad used to be a Priest but he retired from that..
and i'm not a goth or a emo or a skater.. i don't know what the heck i am... i don't label myself
sry for the cussing.. i'm just mad
2006-07-01 11:01:13 · update #1
oh yeah.. and i really don't have any freedom till i move out and get married
once i get married i belong to some one else and i don't belong to my parents anymore
what i plan to do is sign up for a college that is some where far from my parents home
2006-07-01 11:04:58 · update #2
WOH... I DIDN'T THINK I WOULD GET ALL THESE ANSWERS
THANKS SO MUCH FOR YOUR ANSWERS AND I'LL SEE WHAT I CAN DO
2006-07-01 11:17:08 · update #3
AND RIGHT NOW i really don't wanna get married
i hate relationships,, when i see my parents argue or my sister and her husband argue... its horrible
2006-07-01 11:18:29 · update #4
NOOO! you dont sound like that you just sound tired of there doing but that doesnt mean you have to stop believing in god just dont believe in their type of believing in god im a christian and my mom and i dont do that stay at the house 24/7? your parents care about you and they are just overprotectaive but there is a limit to being overprotectaive they are too overprotectaive just sit down and talk to them in a soft voice they will understand that your growing up and they cant control what you do only you can cause it's your body mind and spirit they should give you room to breath so you wont be the kind of person they and god dont want you to be or you probably will and that does happen to children cause of their parents being too on you or keeping you locked up like your a slave they are smothering you it's time to talk to them and get them to back off just a little bit.
2006-07-01 10:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
When I told my dad that I wasn't religious and that I questioned the existance of God, he was surprised and a little upset but that was it. I mean my father wasn't a holy roller like your parents seem to be but he does believe in God etc.. Anyways, if that is how you truly feel then just tell them, by the sounds of it your life can't get much worse. They'll probobly freak out a bit and make you talk to some church person because you need "help". I hope that doesn't happen. Anyways, find out what your real beliefs are and then just tell that you need to be taken more seriously and treated like a young adult. Ultimately though, I think your parents just want to protect you and don't know that the more they shelter you and keep you "locked-up" that you are going to want to seriously rebel when you are free from them/your house and are on your own. Even if you don't conciously rebel you will to some degree. Trust me I know. :)
I wish you the best and hope that things get a little better for you!
2006-07-01 11:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany_XVIII 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your situation that makes them worry. Your in a most dangerous position right now with what you said about your life and feelings. It is at this stage so many fall and end up looking back and saying I can't believe I did this or that and now my life is ruined. It is a stage most all go through but not an easy one. Your seeking to get out from under your parents thumb and your desire to do your own thing make you an east prey for those who would lead you down a path that has caused many to weep over for a long time. It is this path that leaves many young women especially broken. You think you are ready and won't stumble or mess up but look around. Thousands of others have said the same thing. You say you love God yet are rejecting the things He is using to protect you. I have come to a point where I hate to see people in miserable circumstances and I fear for you. At least go and talk kindly and patiently with your parents. If done carefully you may work something out that will benefit both. I stress patiently because to them your still their "little" girl and its hard for them sometimes to keep up with your level of responsibility. Prove yourself worthy.
2006-07-01 11:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by beek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As we grow up, we have many desires and parents seem to control us more than we think it is needed. Listen to your parents, because they want to protect you and they do not want any harm on your way. You do not have to have the same kind of method for worshiping God. Ask God's guidance. Soon you are of your own. Remember that worship is for God. It might be boring if your heart is not right with God. God loves you. When you are at the church, give God your best. Your parents think that they are doing the best thing for you. This matter however, reguires your decision. You need to make decision about your relationship with God. World will tell you things that are popular outside of the church. If you do not believe in Jesus Christ, you do not have to worship Him after you leave your parents house. Be lucky that you have parents that go to church, ther are a lot of parents that could not care less. Well, seek God with your heart, and do not let world to hinder your relationship with God. You will understand later in life what I am trying to tell you.
2006-07-01 11:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by SeeTheLight 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry. I am an adult and I know the term,"You can lead a horse to water but you can not make him drink." Your parents do love you because I also want the best for my children and you know they do. I also want them to go to heaven, but at a certain point all I can to is tell them in love and continue to tell them the importance of being about God, because as they grow up into adulthood, I hope and pray that they will remember what I told them. They want to spare you the things of this world, which I can understand but one of these days you will grow up and move out and eventually have to deal with the world so it is better to have them teach you the differences now and how to effectively discern what is good and what is not.
2006-07-01 10:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by proud of it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your parents love you a lot and really care about you. But it also sounds like they lack trust in what they've already taught you and in God to protect you to allow you to grow up and make mistakes that you can learn from.
Why don't you check out a couple of the messages my Pastor makes available from his radio show @ http://www.enduringtruth.org/catalog.asp
Look for the ones about a Word to Parents or Fathers or Mothers or something like that.
He teaches in a balanced way that not only talks about how some of the things they are doing is good, but also about the necessity of letting children gain experience and have a life of their own. Maybe you could get one of them for your parents and they might feel convicted by the Holy Spirit and lighten up just a little.
2006-07-01 10:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can stop saying cuss words. It's true you should go to church, and being a teenage guy myself, I am going to tell you a little secret, most guys get friendly with a girl so he can go out with her, not all guys do that, but a lot of them do. Just be careful, wearing pants won't make guys like you more, unless they are tight so that rule is kinda stupid. What music are you trying to listen to, rock music isn't good for you. Be thankful for what you have right now.
2006-07-01 10:56:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems they take it a little further than you would like to, try explaining that you love God and know that you believe in God, but they need to cut you some leway, because they are pushing you so hard, sometimes they think they are doing the best and they don't mean to but they suffocate us, but try sitting down and ask them if you can make some compromises with you, so that you can both be happy, Its not right to argue.
2006-07-01 10:56:33 · answer #8 · answered by bryton1001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should sit down and have a talk about this with your parents.
Tell them you don't want to argue but there are things bothering you that you would like them to listen to, and you want to vent.
Don't expect things to change quickly, becuase of course you are in their home and I am assuming you are under 18 so you still have to follow their rules. But just try to explain to them what you are feeling logically. Let them know how it makes you feel and hopefully they will respond.
Btw, make sure if you DO get what you want out of this that you don't take it for granted. I have had friends who lived in households much like yours and once they got out of the house they went wild and way out of control.
Good luck with this and I hope it goes well for you.
2006-07-01 11:03:28 · answer #9 · answered by TiFFeRz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom and dad try to do the best they can
i know how u feel it was not to long ago i went thur what u going thur now
i do not have the answer u looking for
i did not have God like u do when i went thur it
but now i do
try talking to Christ about your answer u looking for
but i will tell that u are not ready 4 this world 4 i wasn`t
there are thing out here u may not like
4 it far worst out here then u have it now at home
i not taking your mom and dad side i wish i had someone to tell i had it so good at home
4 now i had to do and made all choose at the house i am at and pay all bills
and when u do not have money for food and still need to pay bills
Christ help me now trust him and go to him for your answers
2006-07-01 11:13:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to obey your parents until you leave home, otherwise you will have a miserable home life. You may think it is bad now, but it can be worse if you keep fighting.. Parents have to do what they think is right, so it sounds like they are doing that.. You disagree with your folks and want your freedom. You need to be 18 and self supporting to do that.
You need to calm down and look at reality. Even adults have to obey rules, everyone does.. You are feeling rebellious at this time and need to respect your parents.. Difficult but possible..
2006-07-01 10:58:08 · answer #11 · answered by † PRAY † 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋