How can I tell the person I’ve been dating that I have herpes, how do you think he may react?

Question

I got it from my ex-husband, not from sleeping around.

Answer 1

Tell him now - the longer you wait, the more betrayed he will feel when you do tell him. He will probably be concerned for you, while at the same time worried about himself. That is unless he is wondering how to tell you about his Herpes.

(Why is it that women only ever get Herpes from their ex-husbands? Who are all these ex-husbands sleeping around with?)

Answer 2

Same, I have found that the best way is to be open and honest about it, give him as much information as you can about it. If he is a decent guy and worth having, then he'll get his head round it, if not, he isn't thinking of you and would possibly hurt you in the long run one way or another. My boyfriend was fine about it and we didn't have sex if I even thought for a second I might be getting a sore. Both of you should be aware though, that not only does the virus shed ALL THE TIME, sore or no sore, but that most people have come into contact with the virus in one form or another, by the time they are five. When I say most people, I mean 95% of the population.

Answer 3

If he is an understanding guy i think he'll understand and respect the fact that your telling him. How long have you guys been seeing eachother for?? I think your doing a very responsible thing by telling him that you have herpes before the relationship gets physical. Good Luck, and im sorry to hear that you got it from your ex- husband and that he wasnt man enough to tell you he had it.

Answer 4

You need to tell him early on in the relationship - long before you have sexual contact (preferably - I know I would be upset and angry if someone hadn't told me before we became intimate), and you need to tell him that you contracted it from your ex husband.

If you tell him early, and tell him that you will take steps to prevent transmission (not having sexual contact when you think you may, or have an outbreak, as well as maybe taking antiviral medication, such as valtrex), then he will react just fine. If he doesn't, then find someone who can see past the label of having an STD.

Answer 5

tell the person at the best time possible and explained to them that you wanted to be honest with them and thats why your telling them and explained how herpes works and that with medicine and protection it is possible to be in a relationship with someone who has the disease and not spread it and you'll just have to wait n see what he says hopefully hes understanding good luck!!

Answer 6

If you have had unprotected sex with him since finding out, you had better hope he doesn't sue you...as is his right to do!
You need to tell him; he has every right to know! And PUHLEEZE...save the melodramatic whining and crying for somebody else. TELL THE MAN WHAT's UP!!

Answer 7

Honesty is the best policy please tell him before he finds out from someone else then he is really going to be upset give him the choice of deciding if he still wants to see you or not but you do owe him that and I hope you are using protection during sex

Answer 8

It depends-if its asymptomatic, its not worth talking about because u r going to use a condom and if you have outbreaks I suggest you tell him cause he may thinkur cheating when you don't let him in

Answer 9

How could you do it to the poor bloke you have to tell him face to face straight away. There is no excuse for what you have failed to do, you have possibly passed it on to this poor unsuspecting bloke, you should be ashamed of yourself.

Answer 10

you should be honest and clear,there is no use hiding such matters and behaving as if nothing is wrong. who knows,you might go out of the circle of worry and tension that you are already inside it now..