2006-07-01 10:27:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
so if you loved Jefferey Dommer would you still try to make it work? you can't change people just because you feel you're in love with them. cut your losses and find a guy that you can love. hell with so many people in the world you could probably find a twin of his that isn't gay.
2006-07-01 10:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by cesar g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is truly gay, trust me honey..your just not what he wants.
Kiss him goodbye as far as a boyfriend and settle for being just friends if thats a possibility. If not, than i hate to say this, but if he is gay he will not magically become straight again. It's unnatural for him to be with a woman sexually.
I know there are women out there who think they can turn gay guys straight.WHATEVER!..Yes, true, if somebody says Im bi-sexual and goes back and forth, thats another story. They "CHOOSE" to go both ways. NOT if you're gay.
So like i said settle for the friendship. If you love him you'll let him be with guys and not try to make him live a lie. You'll only be setting yourself up for a major heartbreak later on down the road .
Besides..gay guys are a womans best friend!..Did'nt you know that? You'll love him more just hanging out as friends together..I mean imagine you having thoughts of being with him intimately and meanwhile..he's not thinking of you ..he's thinking about some other guy..To put it bluntly..deep down he wants a weenie..not a pattie!
2006-07-01 10:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not "was" gay that is your boyfriend IS gay. you could always consider a sex change, I know that's not a real solution, love him as a friend, if you are having sex, then he isn't gay, he is Bi, you still got a shot. you may not have to leave him, he may end up leaving you. this is one subject I don't have any experience on and should have let the question go. but know it alls never give up. good luck.............
2006-07-01 10:34:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
weigh all the disadvantages... of loving a man.. who inturn wants another man. are you willing to share.... are you willing to face possible medical or life threatening issues. are you willing to be second.... or you willing to give up the chance of finding happiness with someone else. are you willing to move on..when the day comes that he has found another and wants to leave you. what about kids. why the need to hold on... when you are only going to lose. you are eventually not going to be the one making the decision. he will... when he says goodbye
2006-07-01 10:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I'm so sorry. This must be very hard for you.
But you have to understand that this is his choice in life and that it probably has nothing to do with you at all. Accept his choice and tell him how you feel about him and his choice. But don't get angry with him at all because he trusted you with this news and if you love him as you say you do you need to respect that and his wishes.
Maybe he's bisexual if he's still with you...
2006-07-01 10:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by Patient Paws 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he gay or bi-sexual?
Ask him.
Then get some therapy to sort things out.
See someone who is a certified sex therapist.
2006-07-01 10:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by Pat S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he just says it maybe he's just insecure. Act normal and see what happens. Maybe he will stop. If it gets to serious then you have to leave him. It isn't right
2006-07-01 10:30:17 · answer #7 · answered by nobody is home 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay with him.I mean even if hes gay.at least you still have a good friend to hang with.
2006-07-01 10:40:45 · answer #8 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not much you can do, you simply aren't his cup of tea, be a very good and supportive friend but thats about the only thing it can be
2006-07-01 10:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your talkin' about his past then i think that you should forgive him ,but if your talkin' about now!! then leave him you dont wanna get aids or somethin' from him ,do your self a fvr and get away from illness
2006-07-01 10:33:33 · answer #10 · answered by lillyshamshom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋